Black Men’s Dating Profiles Reveal What They’re Looking For In a Woman

A black man thinking about what he wants in a woman.

Let’s face it, it’s hard to get inside a guy’s mind—when it comes to dating, there’s a lot men don’t say. But one place they do say quite a bit, is in their online dating profile.

So to try and get some insight into what different types of men are looking for, the online dating site and app Zoosk looked into the data. They pulled out the most popular words black men used when describing their “Perfect Match” (aka the type of women they’re hoping to meet) in their online dating profile and found a few things that stood out.

Wondering what black men really want in a woman? Here’s what the data says:

Top Characteristics Black Men Want in a Women

20s 30s 40s



laugh fun fun


honest laugh



ambitious honest



loving open



nice loving



open humor



funny relationship



beautiful beautiful



caring nice







creative god



smart smile nice


god caring



loyal intelligent



happy family



heart loyal


talk kind heart


So what does it all mean? Here are some things to think about:

Men (all men) like a fun, funny woman who can make them laugh. 
Just like men of all races, black men are looking for a fun woman who can make them laugh. For black men of all ages, laugh is either the 1st or 2nd quality they mention most often when describing their perfect woman. Funny is also in the top one or two.

All men also want a woman who’s honest. 
Similar to men of all races, black men are looking for an honest woman. For black men in their 30s  it’s the 2nd most mentioned trait, 3rd for men in their 40s, and 4th for older men.

Black women are looking for the same thingHonest is usually the top quality they mention in their dating profile.

Black men are looking for a woman who’s ambitious.
One distinctive quality black men call out that other men don’t as often is a woman with ambition. This is especially important for younger men. For black men in their 20s being ambitious is the 5th most popular trait they’re looking for and then it goes up to the 3rd most popular for men in their 30s.

And as it so happens, black women are looking for ambitious men too. Especially women in their 20s—it’s the 4th most popular characteristic they mention.

Most black men value someone with a relationship with God.
Something that both black men and women are looking for that other races don’t mention as often, is someone who has a place for God in their life. Black men in their 20s don’t mention it, but it becomes increasingly important for older men. For black men in their 30s it’s the 13th most mentioned trait, 12th for men in their 40s, and 5th for men over 50.

Black men tend to put more emphasis on a woman who’s open. 
Another trait that stands out slightly more for black men than others, are women who are open. For black men in their 20s it’s the 9th most mentioned trait, 6th for men in their 30s, 4th for men in their 40s, and 6th for men over 50.

Black men also like beautiful women. 
Another trait black men hold a little higher up than others is beautiful women. For black men in their 20s it’s the 6th most mentioned trait, 8th for men in their 30s and 40s, and 17th for men over 50.

After looking into the data, a few things jump out. Most online daters, men and women of all races, want someone honest who can make them laugh and show them a fun time. Black men do have a few characteristics that they value more than most however—a woman who’s ambitious, has a relationship with God, and is beautiful and open.

Megan Murray

Editor-in-Chief of The Date Mix

Megan Murray is the Editor-in-Chief of The Date Mix and works at the online dating site and app Zoosk, that has over 40 million members worldwide. She splits her time between writing for The Date Mix and working on the Zoosk product, which gives her behind-the-scenes knowledge about the world of online dating.

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