Dating Tips for Women from Men: Guys Spill the Beans

A woman on a date with a man who's whispering in her ear.

When you’re looking for good dating advice, sometimes it’s best to go to your girlfriends, other times your mom, but then there are times when what you really want is a guy’s perspective. That’s why we went straight to the source and asked men on the popular dating app Zoosk, which has over 40 million members, to share their best dating tips for women.

Over 3,000 men answered our anonymous survey and really opened up about what they’re looking for in a woman and in a relationship. Here are their top 4 tips:  

Tip #1: Attraction is important, but honesty is too.
When asked what they’re looking for in a long-term relationship, the top two traits the men on Zoosk value the most are someone they’re physically attracted to and someone who’s honest and trustworthy. “I really admire honesty and trust,” one online dater said. “Not only do I want a girlfriend that I can love, but someone who is there for me and I can turn to as a friend.”

Tip #2: Make the first move. Men love it. 
If you thought guys don’t like women who approach them first, think again. An overwhelming 94% of single men online said they like it when a women makes the first move when they’re out at a bar or in a social setting, and 96% said they really like it when a woman messages them first while online dating.

“Some guys out there are really good guys and they’re the ones that might never approach you because they think they don’t stack up to the other guys who do,” explained one dater. “So it really helps if you’re the first one to say something.”

Tip #3: Be yourself, not who you think a man wants you to be. 
I know, I know, being yourself is probably one of the oldest pieces of dating advice, but it also happens to be true. “You’re not trying to win a man,” one man on Zoosk put best. “You’re trying to find the right fit together.”  The majority of men appreciate a women who’s comfortable with herself and doesn’t just try to please him.

“Chances are she’s perfect just the way she is,” explained another dater. “If I like her, it’s because she likes herself.”

Tip #4: Open up.
Many of the guys we talked to were seriously looking for love and wanted a woman who wasn’t afraid to open up and get deep. “Be brave enough to share your heart and express your feelings,” one dater said.

“I want a woman who shares with me… her story, her feelings, her views, her hopes, her fears. Even what she didn’t like about her past relationship(s)!” one man admitted. “Honesty and openness are a solid form of intimacy and are a real indication that a woman cares to enter into a deep 1-to-1 relationship.”

The truth is, most men are interested in the same things women arehonesty, laughter, a little bit of attraction, and someone who will go for it! So next time you’re interested in someone, go up and say hi. Make the first move and open up. And if you haven’t met him yet, keep an eye out.

Or better yet, give Zoosk a try and sign up for free now to start meeting men near you.

A man on an online dating app.