Online Dating Advice – The Date Mix https://www.zoosk.com/date-mix Dating and Relationship Advice for Today's Daters Fri, 15 Dec 2017 09:00:42 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=4.5 The 10 Biggest Dating Trends of 2017 https://www.zoosk.com/date-mix/online-dating-advice/biggest-dating-trends-of-2017/ Thu, 14 Dec 2017 18:05:20 +0000 https://www.zoosk.com/date-mix/?p=15745 A round up of some of the most surprising data stories of the year.

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A lot of things changed in the dating world over the course of 2017. Chris Pratt and Anna Faris broke up, Prince Harry and Meghan Markle got engaged, Tinder banned tiger selfies, 1 in 6 newlyweds were married to someone of a different ethnicity, and (last but not least… well, maybe not least) draking became a thing. There’s been a lot changes, both big and small, and it got us to thinking…

With the year coming to a close, we thought now would be a good time to look back at some of the things we learned about dating in 2017. To help us out, we used data from the popular dating site and app Zoosk‘s over 40 million members, to get a good idea of what dating in 2017 was like and how it changed from previous years.

Here are 2017’s biggest dating trends:

1. Nice guys finish first.
Men who have words like thoughtful, listener, polite, giving, community, give back, or friendly in their profile get up to 66% more messages than the average. And if a man calls himself a knight in shining armor, he could get up to 67% more messages.

2. It’s time to cool it with the filters.
You may have thought narrowing down your pool of people to non-smoking, college-educated athletes would help you find what you’re looking for faster, but a study found that people who used filters while online dating sent out more messages but got 11% fewer replies than those who turned them off.

3. More people are dating outside their age range.
While online dating, people were 9% more likely to like, message, or have a conversation with someone ten years older or younger than them than they were in 2016.

4. A higher education makes you more attractive.
People who have a bachelor’s or advanced degree are seen as more attractive while online dating. And they also get up to 17% more replies to their messages.

5. Food, especially guacamole, could land you a date.
Mentioning guacamole in your dating profile could get you up to 144% more inbound messages. And a lot of other foods helped you out too. Potatoes increased inbound messages by 101% and chocolate increased them by 100%.

6. There’s no longer a stigma against vegans or vegetarians.
Back in 2015, messages that mentioned being a vegetarian got 100% fewer replies than the average. But now that’s it’s 2017, saying you’re a vegetarian gets you 3% more replies. Being a vegan is a plus as well. People who mention vegan in their profile get 62% more incoming messages than the average.

7. Lunch dates are in.
Messages that mention lunch get 25% more responses than the average, while coffee, dinner, and drinks get up to 13% fewer messages.

8. The most talkative women on dating apps live in Ohio, while men are more spread out.
In 2017, Ohio women messaged more often than the women in any other U.S. state. (They were in three of the top five cities.)

The Top 5 Most Talkative Women By Location

  1. Weirton-Steubenville, Ohio
  2. Cincinnati-Middletown, Indiana
  3. Huntington-Ashland, Ohio
  4. Wheeling, Ohio
  5. Yuba City, California

And let’s not forget about the boys.

The Top 10 Most Talkative Men By Location

  1. Owensboro, Kentucky
  2. The Greater New York City Area
  3. The Greater LA Area
  4. Morristown, Tennessee
  5. Evansville, Kentucky

9. If you wait too long to respond to someone, you could end up dateless.
While online dating, it’s best to reply to someone’s message within the day or chances are the person will  move on. Messaging within the same day results in a 62% response rate, but after waiting two days the rate drops to 45%.

10. The most active day for dating apps was November 15. But the most active month was January.
There were 11% more singles actively online dating on November 15 than any other day of the year. And although November 15 was the most popular day, on the whole, January was the most active month, with 9% more people than the average.

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Online Dating Statistics: Dating Stats from 2017 https://www.zoosk.com/date-mix/online-dating-advice/online-dating-statistics-dating-stats-2017/ Sun, 03 Dec 2017 09:00:24 +0000 https://www.zoosk.com/date-mix/?p=15638 Did you know that couples who meet online tend to get married quickly?

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No doubt about it, 2017 was one for the history books. From the inauguration of Donald Trump to the casting of Beyoncé in the new live-action The Lion King—this year has been a doozy.

For me, the end of the year is a time for reflection and resolutions. It’s a time to look back at where we’ve been and think about where we’re going. So, in that spirit, now’s a good time to take a look at online dating’s report card and see how singles fared in a rapidly changing dating scene.

Although online dating sometimes gets mixed reviews, no one can deny that dating sites and apps have become a major part of single life, and they’re not going away anytime soon. You don’t have to take my word for it, though, because the numbers speak for themselves. Take a look at the following noteworthy online dating statistics that made headlines this year and changed the way we view online dating.

1. 19% of Brides Said They Met Their Spouses Online
In 2017, online dating became the most common way for newlyweds to meet one another. The Knot surveyed more than 14,000 engaged or recently married individuals and reported that 19% of brides said they met their spouses online. This is a significant increase from the 5% of American couples who said they met online in a 2015 Pew Research poll. According to the Knot, meeting via dating sites has now surpassed more traditionally popular venues, including through friends (17%), during college (15%), and at work (12%). As time goes by and more happy couples decide to tie the knot, we can probably expect further increases in the percentage of married couples who met by swiping right.

2. Annual Revenue in the Online Dating Industry Has Surpassed $3 Billion
Online dating has been around for decades, but it’s really taken off in recent years. Partly because it’s gone mobile. Many of today’s best dating apps have seen exponential growth in online activity and revenue as more and more singles seek fast connections. Millions of people have now invested their time and money into online dating, which has become a mainstream solution for singles around the world. In early 2017, online dating became a $3 billion dollar industry. Yeah, billion. It’s a pretty big deal. Dating services, half of which are dating apps or websites, employed around 9,500 people worldwide and have collectively seen an annual growth rate of +5.3% in the past five years.

3. Couples Who Meet Online Tend to Get Married Quickly
Online daters don’t show up on a dating site by accident. They come there with a purpose — whether it’s to woo a date for the night or to find a partner for the rest of their lives— and they often don’t want to waste time. So it may come as no surprise that sociological scientists see a trend of heterosexual couples meeting online and quickly popping the question. According to one longitudinal study, couples who meet online tend to get married much sooner in their relationships than couples who meet offline. Dating websites often fast track committed relationships because when two compatible people meet and discover they want the same things, there’s no reason to hit the brakes.

4. Online Marriages are Less Likely to End Within the First Year
We all know dating sites are fast ways to meet people. You can start chatting with someone online within minutes, so it’s easy to pigeonhole online dating as a tool for superficial hookups and not relationships. But, actually, personal compatibility algorithms work exceedingly well and yield great results for relationship-minded users. Recent evidence suggests that dating sites facilitate more diverse and longer lasting connections between online users. Economists Josué Ortega and Philipp Hergovich investigated the long-term effects of online dating and demonstrated that the high-tech dating environment has contributed to “a sharp increase in interracial marriages in the US in the last two decades.” Those marriages are also less likely to break up within the first year.

Plus, when the University of Chicago surveyed nearly 20,000 people between 2005 and 2012, researchers concluded that those who met their spouses online expressed more marital satisfaction than those who met their spouses through more traditional avenues offline.

5. Some Dating Networks May Have Contributed to a Rise in STD Outbreaks
Of course, it isn’t all wedding bells and happily ever afters. Online dating also has a dark side, especially in the world of hookups. When you make it easier for strangers to solicit sex, sometimes there are some not-so-nice consequences. I’m talking, unfortunately, about STDs. Some health experts have linked the rise of fast-paced dating apps, most notably Tinder and Grindr, with a corresponding spike in cases of syphilis, gonorrhea, and HIV. Correlation doesn’t prove causation, but it’s something to keep an eye on in the future.

6. Half of British Singles Have Never Asked Someone on a Date Face to Face
In some ways, online dating is a crutch for singles who feel uncomfortable or fearful about talking to their crushes in person. It’s much less intimidating to communicate with a date online because you don’t have to look the person in the eye and put your heart on the line. Over half of British single adults surveyed by The Sun admitted they’ve never asked a date out in person, and 46% said they’ve never dumped anyone in person. While online communication can make those tough conversations feel more pleasant, at some point, you’re going to have to talk to your date in person.

Online Dating Has Come a Long Way, But There’s Always Room to Grow and Improve

In 2017, we survived hurricanes, political scandals, and Taylor Swift albums, and we grew online dating into one of the largest industries around. I think that’s cause for celebration. Even if we don’t always agree on everything, at least we can all come together in an online space and judge each other’s bathroom selfies.

If you look at the stats, it’s encouraging to see so how many people are now going online to seek out that special someone. Today’s singles benefit from advanced search features, online verification tools, and international dating networks, so they have more dating options than ever before. Whether you’re after a short-term date or a long-term relationship, dating sites and apps have proven remarkably effective at pairing up like-minded people. All in all, the future looks bright for online dating, which can only be good news for singles out there.

 

Hayley Matthews is editor-in-chief at DatingAdvice.com, a site that features advice from more than 250 dating coaches, matchmakers, relationship experts, psychologists, and journalists. In addition to providing advice articles, how-to guides, studies, and in-depth profiles, the site also provides reviews of the top online dating apps. When Hayley isn’t writing about dating and relationships, she’s listening to The Beatles or watching Harry Potter movies.

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POF Headlines for Women: How to Catch His Eye https://www.zoosk.com/date-mix/online-dating-advice/online-dating-profile-tips/pof-headlines-for-women/ Sat, 02 Dec 2017 09:00:19 +0000 https://www.zoosk.com/date-mix/?p=15680 A trick for the lazy: Try using a quote.

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Have you experienced this moment before? You sign up for a dating site, you put in your name, give you age and height, find a great photo. You’re on a roll and getting excited to meet people when you get to the written section and you suddenly come to a screeching halt. Bottom line, it’s hard to write a dating profile. Some sites like Plenty of Fish (also known as POF) give you the opportunity to write a short headline, which can be a great way to catch someone’s eye, but it’s hard to boil yourself down to one sentence. That’s why I’m here to help.

If you want to write a pof headline that makes you stand out from the crowd, here are a few POF headlines for women along with a few quick tips to help you write your own.

1. Don’t say something just because it sounds good.
This should go without saying but I’m going to say it anyway, any profile headline you write should be a reflection of who you are. If you’re not very flirty but have a great idea for a flirty headline, you might want to think about something that’s a bit more true to who you are. On the flip side, if you like being a little sexy and flirty, don’t be afraid to let that part of you shine. Online dating is about attracting someone who’s going to be attracted to you too.

Examples:
I make the best guacamole you’ve ever tasted.
Work hard, play hard, live strong.
I’m a little bit country, and a lot rock and roll.
I like to think of myself as a not-so-hopeless romantic.

2. Share something random about yourself.
The point of a headline is to stand out and get attention so if you do the same old “Single mom looking for someone special” you may get lost in the crowd. Instead of using the old personals format of “Single female looking for…” in your POF headline, try pulling out a random fact about yourself. Even if it’s a little silly or weird, the right guy will find it delightful.

Examples:
I can drink coffee at 9:30 and still go to bed at 10:00.
My favorite song is Love Me Like a Rock. What’s yours?
Sometimes I miss nap time and recess.
I’m a sucker for a good smile and a man who can dance.

3. Don’t be afraid to get a little philosophical.
Sometimes people are afraid to get real in a dating profile, but it’s those moments that can really attract someone to you. Make an effort to give more than a surface-level introduction. Be honest about who you are and your philosophy in life. If you have something to say about your beliefs, then say it.

Examples:
Taking every day for what it is… wonderful.
I don’t trust people who say they don’t have regrets.
I’m still trying to figure out what I believe in.
Following God’s path. Excited where it will take me.

4. List your favorite things.
One of the easiest ways to make a great headline is by listing off a few of your favorite things. They can be big or small, important or trivial, but it’s the small details about the things you enjoy that can help tell someone more about who you are and what you’re looking for.

Examples:
Flip flops, the smell of sunscreen, and someone like you.
Lazy Sundays, family dinners, and red vines.
My dog, my hiking boots, my kind of day.
Country music, home cooking, and tired kids.

5. Reference something you love. 
Do you have a favorite book, movie, or TV show you can quote at the drop of a hat? Use one of your favorite song lyrics or a joke from a good movie. You can quote it word-for-word or put your own spin on it.

Examples:
I solemnly swear I am up to no good.
You know how to whistle don’t you?
My apartment smells of rich mahogany.
You think you know but you have no idea.

Coming up with the perfect POF headline can be hard but it’s also a chance to be a little creative. Try different headlines and see what feels best. You never know what might attract the right guy’s eye.

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POF Headlines for Men: Examples to Attract Women https://www.zoosk.com/date-mix/online-dating-advice/online-dating-profile-tips/pof-headlines-for-men-examples/ Tue, 28 Nov 2017 09:00:11 +0000 https://www.zoosk.com/date-mix/?p=15542 Learn what to say to catch her eye.

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There are few things harder then trying to tell someone about yourself. Whether you’re in a job interview, introducing yourself at a party, or writing a bio for a social media site, it’s hard to come up with something that sums yourself up in a few short lines. And when you’re on an online dating site the pressure is even higher—you really want your description to be impressive. Sites like Plenty of Fish (also known as POF) give you the opportunity to write a short headline, which can be great, but it’s hard to know what to say. To help you stand out from the crowd, we came up with these examples of POF headlines for men along with a few quick tips to help you write your own.

Here are 5 tips to help you write a pof headline that attracts women along with some examples:

1. Make sure your headline fits your personality. 
First off, a disclaimer… Any profile headline you write should fit you and who you are. If you’re not a very funny guy and tend to be more laid back, then choose a laid back headline. Likewise, if you’re a goofball, don’t be afraid to get a little silly. Online dating is about attracting someone who’s going to be attracted to you and who you are, so show some of your personality.

Examples:
I would never put baby in a corner. Never.
Hunting, fishing, and loving every day.
Let’s get out and do something together.
Hi, my name is Mark. Can’t wait to meet you.

2. Share something random about yourself.
The point of a headline is to stand out and get attention so if you do something too everyday, you may just get lost in the shuffle. Instead of the usual “Great guy looking for a great girl” POF headlines try pulling out a random fact about yourself and go from there.

Examples:
I can’t dance. But I’ll give it a try for the right woman.
Just got my EMT certification. Looking to celebrate.
I play the uke and I’m taking requests.
Lived abroad for a year. Guess where.

3. Don’t be afraid to get a little philosophical.
Because so many dating profiles tend to be the same, someone who reveals a little bit more about themselves or is honest about who they are and their philosophy in life can make a big impact. Think about how you feel about life and our place in it and if you have something to say, then say it.

Examples:
I haven’t read my favorite book yet.
Here to help others along their journey.
Not all who wander are lost but I certainly am.
Trying my best to make people smile.

4. Make a list of favorite things.
One of the easiest ways to make a great headline is simply listing off a few of your favorite things. They can be big or small, important or trivial, but it’s the small details about the small things you enjoy that can help tell someone more about who you are and what you’re looking for.

Examples:
IPAs, sunny days, new trails, and new people.
Live music, long weekends, and challenges.
Strangers on trains, old friends, and new adventures.
Sunday football, sarcasm, and great stories.

5. Obscure references are the best kinds.
Do you have a favorite book, movie, or TV show you can quote at the drop of a hat? Try pulling one of your favorite song lyrics or SNL jokes and reformatting it to a dating profile headline. You’d be surprised how much fun it can be.

Examples:
The sound of my own wheels drives me crazy.
Wookin pa nub in all the wrong places.
Just a good old boy, never meaning no harm.
I’ll walk the line.

Coming up with the perfect POF headline can be hard but it’s also a chance to be a little creative. Try different headlines and see what feels best!

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5 Things the Best Online Dating Profiles Have in Common https://www.zoosk.com/date-mix/online-dating-advice/online-dating-profile-tips/best-online-dating-profile/ Sun, 19 Nov 2017 09:00:31 +0000 https://www.zoosk.com/date-mix/?p=15593 Are you using your photo gallery to its full potential?

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As an online dating coach I’ve probably read well over 20 thousand dating profiles over the past decade. Along the way, I’ve read a lot of incredible profiles and today I’m going to share the five traits the best online dating profiles have in common. If you want to take your online dating profile to the next level, use this list as a guide to help you get started.

1. The best dating profiles rise above the norm.
Most online dating profiles fall into one of three categories—cliche, boring, or just plain bad. It’s your job to rise above that by crafting a profile that truly makes your personality shine.

When you meet someone  in person they have little quirks, mannerisms, interests, unique qualities, and ways of speaking and acting that make them stand out from other people. No two people are the same and it’s these differences that catch our attention and attract us to each other.

And yet, a lot of people on online dating sites and apps appear to be exactly the same. This is something you need to avoid. When you write your profile, inject your unique personality into it so that it paints a distinct picture of someone memorable and unique. Give people a reason to remember you.

2. The best dating profiles understand their audience.
Most people have a short attention span. Real short. I mean, I took three coffee breaks, ate six  doughnuts, and had a mini existential crisis before I even finished this sentence. When it comes to your online dating profile, you have a window of just a few seconds to draw your audience in, so every detail matters. To increase the odds of someone reading your entire profile, try employing the following tactics:

– Provide  structure instead of having one long paragraph.
– Make it playful and add humor.
– Talk directly to the reader and be casual and conversational.
– Be personable and avoid cliches.  

3. The best online dating profiles create FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out).
When I first saw my wife’s profile several years back, I couldn’t get her off my mind. I thought about her when I wasn’t online, looked at her profile and pictures multiple times prior to meeting, and was nothing short of excited to meet her.

Her profile wasn’t just well written and her pictures weren’t just attractive. The entire persona displayed was so great that I had a fear of missing out on the chance to meet her.

This is what the best online dating profiles are able to accomplish. They paint a picture that is diverse, fun, unique, well-rounded, and so interesting that people don’t just want to meet you, but they fear not meeting you.

4. Maximize your photo gallery to its fullest potential.
Having attractive photos will go a long way and will likely be enough to catch people’s attention. But we aren’t here just to get attention, we want to help you find someone you’re actually interested in meeting for a date.

In order to do so, you need to maximize the potential of your photo gallery by revealing as much of yourself as you can. Every photo you post is your chance to communicate different personality traits, hobbies, and stories about yourself. Use this opportunity to the fullest.

You always want to have one picture where you look your absolute best, but other than that, strive to show yourself in situations that are fun, unique, or windows into your personality.

Family pictures, vacation pictures, adventure pictures, animal pictures, etc., are all examples of how you can maximize the potential of your photo gallery by revealing things about yourself.

5. Stay positive.
At the end of the day, positive vibes are what it’s all about. When someone reads your profile it should exude positivity and optimism. This is what people are attracted to. Well, at least the ones worth meeting!

Be enthusiastic and communicate that you’re a happy person and excited about the process of meeting someone special. Negative vibes or lists of what you don’t want in a partner have no place in an online dating profile. Always focus on what you do want when you write your profile, not what you don’t want.

 

Joshua Pompey is an online dating expert and founder of joshuapompey.com where he creates custom made profiles for men and women. Learn more and sign up for a free profile evaluation.

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Unlucky in Love? Here are 7 Ways to Break the Cycle https://www.zoosk.com/date-mix/dating-advice/unlucky-in-love/ Mon, 13 Nov 2017 09:00:39 +0000 https://www.zoosk.com/date-mix/?p=15512 It's not you, it's dating.

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Do you ever feel disappointed with the quality of your online matches? Are you frustrated that the same people keep popping up? Does it feel like nobody responds to your messages? Or, that all they want to do is message? If you answered yes to any of those questions, you might be suffering from online dating fatigue.

You’re not cursed, you’re just having a bit of bad luck. But don’t be discouraged — we’re here to help break you out of your dating funk. Try these seven tips to break the cycle and find better dating luck.

1. Re-evaluate your online dating profile.
Look at your online dating profile from the perspective of someone who’s never met you. Does it reflect your true self? Are you accurately representing what you’re looking for from the experience? The more honest you are with the online dating community, the more people you’ll meet who are as interesting and engaged as you are.

2. Make yourself stand out.
Do you collect rare books? Are you an amateur cartoonist? Did you almost qualify for the Olympics in 2008? Let people know! Everyone has their own unique fun facts and experiences that make them, them. Identify yours and use them to your advantage. A memorable story will make you stand out and attract more dates. There’s no shame in flaunting what you’ve got!

3. Rethink your idea of “the perfect match.”
Or better yet, abandon it altogether. If you feel like you’ve hit a dating wall, it’s time to widen your search parameters and consider new people. We challenge you to give someone you normally wouldn’t be interested in a chance. You never know, you might just click with someone.

4. Think positively.
Pop quiz: Do you assume that all potential dates will be bad until they’re proven good? Chances are you’ve felt that way before. Dating is inundated with negative thinking and negative energy. When we fall into a dating slump or have bad experiences back to back, it hurts our outlook on love. Try to find the good in your dating experiences. We know it isn’t always easy, but keeping a positive outlook will likely yield better success.

5. Be proactive.
If you see someone you like, whether online or in the real world, approach them! It’s 2017, and both men and women can ask people out. If you typically wait for people to come to you, switch things up by making the first move. Of course, being proactive goes hand in hand with being respectful. We encourage you to pursue someone you’re interested in. But if they make it clear they’re not feeling it, then respectfully back away and leave it at that.

6. Take a break from dating apps.
Once upon a time, there were no algorithms for love. Daters didn’t swipe on each other or have the luxury of browsing through millions of potential matches. They met through friends, at parties, or—gasp—out in the real world. If you feel like you’ve hit a wall with online dating, try taking things offline for a week. Chat up a cute stranger at the park or ask your friends to set you up on a blind date. Remember what it’s like to meet people without being able to hide behind a screen. Then, when you come back to your apps, we bet it’ll change how you use them.

7. Stop looking for a while.
We know the adage You’ll find love when you stop looking is frustrating to hear. Especially when people in relationships say it to their single friends. But there’s a reason the phrase is repeated so often: Because there’s some truth to it. If you’ve tried everything and still have bad luck, stop looking for a while. Maybe, just maybe, the moment you stop approaching things from a “looking for love” perspective, there will be less pressure to click with someone and more room to get to know them naturally.

If you’re feeling unlucky in love and suffering from dating fatigue, try these helpful tips. Switching up your approach to dating, even for just a few days or weeks, could help get you out of a rough patch and back on the road to romance.

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