Single Women Admit What They Really Want

A man snuggling a woman in bed wondering what type of dater you are.

When you’re looking for good dating advice, sometimes it’s best to go to your pals, other times an expert, but then there are times when what you really want is a woman’s perspective. That’s why we went straight to the source and asked women on the popular dating app Zoosk, which has over 40 million members, to share what men do that really turns them on.

Over 3,000 women answered our anonymous survey and really opened up about what they’re looking for in a guy and how men can catch their interest. Different women are looking for different things of course, but the vast majority were looking for a little online romance and a man who’s passionate about his life. 

Here are some of the most revealing answers:

“I love it when a man lightly brushes your leg or arm when you walk by. Or unexpectedly gives shoulder massages.”

“I like when a man gives compliments, asks me about my day… the small things add up and will not be taken for granted.”

“I’m turned on by a man who knows what’s going on in the world, who takes a stand for something meaningful.”

“I love a man who’s willing to be vulnerable, opens up about his own faults (but isn’t overly self-deprecating), and shows kindness.”

“I like when a man touches me when he’s talking to me. Just to show that he’s paying attention and tuning into me.”

“I like a man who smiles, and who I can make laugh. (Because I’m pretty funny, lol nah).” 

“I want a man who’s honest, hardworking, and not afraid to come work in the garden for a while and just enjoy fresh air and conversation with me.”

“I’m turned on when a man can give compliments, makes me smile and laugh, opens doors, smells real good, or dresses nice for the occasion.”

“I like it when a guy takes some interest in learning about me, but balances the time by also sharing about him… Talking about interesting things like current events, or something that he was excited about doing.”

“I like a man who is humble, considerate, kind, and genuinely cares about others.”

“I enjoy intelligent conversation, mixed with a great sense of humor and a splash of innuendo!”

“I like a man who can carry on a conversation, who’s romantic and passionate, has a sense of humor, is good looking, who knows how to respect a woman, and who values family and religion.”

“I love when a guy comes up behind you when you’re doing something and puts his arms around your waist and kisses your neck. When he pulls your legs onto his lap when you’re watching TV. Or when he makes across-the-room eye-contact at a party.”

“A big turn on for me is when a man is confident in himself and where he is in his life and can eloquently express that he’s looking for a relationship.”

“I love when a man whispers in my ear something that’s just between us to smile about.”

“I love a man who can engage in conversation about ideas, philosophy, music, art, science.”


To give Zoosk a try for yourself, sign up for free now to start meeting women near you.

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