Where to Meet Men In Your 40s

A man in his 40s holding flowers for a date with a woman.

When you’re in your 20s meeting men isn’t something you spend much time worrying about—somehow it just always happens. In your 30s, things get a little trickier. You’re busy and more and more of your single friends are coupling up, but when you do go out the bars and restaurants are still filled with people your age. So what happens when you’re in your 40s and suddenly the single men your age seem to disappear? Where DO you meet men in your 40s?

The answer is pretty simple: Online.

Members at the popular dating site Zoosk, that has over 38 million members worldwide, shed some light on how older age-groups are meeting online. Read on to get a better idea of how men and women use Zoosk to meet each other.

Getting Back Into Dating After Taking a Break

Some Zoosk members said they used the site as a way to get back into the dating scene after taking a long break. Whether getting over a divorce or getting back into the swing of things, online dating offered a way to meet people that was easy and unintimidating.

“It had been nearly 20 years since either of us had dated,” said Zoosk member Julie, while describing how she met her fiancé Scott. “When we each found ourselves single again we both decided to turn to online dating.”

“I had given up on EVER meeting someone again… someone that I could love,” said Jeff, another member. “But then I saw Jen’s profile! She is 40 and I’m 46. I actually became a member just to message her.”

Meeting People Outside Your Usual Social Scene

When you’re in your 40s, it can be difficult to meet men through friends, work, and other social circles. Some Zoosk members said they decided to date online to widen their dating pool.

“I live on the Island of Maui so there aren’t a lot of ways to meet people and date. I decided to give Zoosk a shot in July 2012 and immediately started talking to this guy named Paul,” said Zoosk member Jennifer. “We knew after that date we were meant to be together.”

Another Zoosk member Mike, started online dating as a way to meet new people outside of his group of friends.

“Not being a frequent bar hopper, I knew I needed help,” explained Mike. “I considered the offers from friends but I factored in that if it didn’t work, then that friendship could also be lost.”

Finding Someone with Your Same Interests

Some women looking for men on Zoosk liked that it was easy to learn what they had in common.

“We found that we have so much in common and we think so much alike it’s crazy,” said one dater Shishe about meeting her special someone on Zoosk. “We both feel that we found our missing puzzle piece!”

One Zoosk couple even found out they worked for the same company but had never met before seeing each other online.

“After chatting on Zoosk for a while we discovered that we both worked at the same company; same building only two floors apart for five years,” said Zoosk member Ernie. “We have been inseparable ever since.”

Which just goes to show, when you’re looking to meet men in your 40s, the one for you may be closer than you think.

“There was something about Kristy that made me want to know more and more,” Mike explained. “This is what I have been waiting for my whole life, and it was only one click away.”

To give Zoosk a try for yourself, sign up for free now and start meeting men in your 40s.

A man on an online dating app.