{"id":10293,"date":"2015-01-13T10:40:29","date_gmt":"2015-01-13T18:40:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/about.zoosk.com\/en\/?p=10293"},"modified":"2021-06-01T00:02:21","modified_gmt":"2021-06-01T07:02:21","slug":"7-common-first-date-mistakes-gifs","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/dating-advice\/first-date-tips\/7-common-first-date-mistakes-gifs\/","title":{"rendered":"7 Common First Date Mistakes in GIFs"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

The first date is surely one of the most gut-wrenching human experiences ever. (You\u2019re probably sweating right now just thinking about it, right?)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It’s important to remember that dating is primarily a numbers game \u2013 you win some, you lose some \u2013 but sometimes it\u2019s the smallest mistakes that can ruin your chance of securing a second date.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We asked Stacie Ikka<\/a>, a nationally recognized matchmaker and dating coach, on what are the most common mistakes to avoid on your first date so you can up your chances of landing that all-important second one.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t Be a Facebook Stalker<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Ikka says that about 50% of mistakes commonly made by singles happen before the first date even takes place. You can blame social media for this. \u201cWe know it\u2019s tempting. It starts off innocently, but what\u2019s inevitable is the immediate turn-off,\u201d says Ikka. Maybe you won\u2019t like her selfie shrine, or maybe you\u2019ll be turned off by his reptilian collection. Whatever the case might be, the date will inevitably start off on the wrong foot. Besides, \u201cThe chances of you gleaning any useful and accurate information are nil,\u201d says Ikka.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Being a Diva<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Of course you want to put your best foot forward on a first date, but Ikka warns against taking the maxim, \u201cYou don\u2019t get a second chance to make a first impression,\u201d a little too far. \u201cIt\u2019s one thing to want to look and feel your best on a first date, but doing anything that would be considered out of the ordinary for you \u2013 the things you wouldn\u2019t do for a night out on the town with your friends \u2013 is setting you up, very nicely, for disappointment.\u201d So ixnay on the fresh haircut, expensive mani\/pedi and fancy new clothes \u2013 just be you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Being A Slob<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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On the flip side, Ikka says, there is such a thing as not preparing enough for a date. \u201cYou justify your baseball cap, sweat pants, Lululemons and\/or favorite varsity attire by telling yourself, that, if they don\u2019t like you for who you really are, then they\u2019re not someone you\u2019d want to date anyway,\u201d she says. Put the effort into being your best self on the date, and it might very well work in your favour.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Talking Too Much<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Everyone hates awkward silences \u2013 especially on a first date \u2013 but Ikka warns against talking for the sake of talking, particularly when you are doing the majority of it. \u201cWe know you\u2019re interesting and have a lot of amazing stories to tell, but if you continue to monopolize conversations on a first date \u2013 there will be no second dates,\u201d says Ikka. \u201cYou will leave your date with the \u2013 perhaps incorrect \u2013 perception that you are an arrogant douche.\u201d Remember: a great conversation includes listening, too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Being Silent<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Introverts might find dating more difficult than most, so that\u2019s why Ikka says preparation is key. Prepare questions and practice with friends. Ikka even recommends keeping a cheat sheet in your pocket. \u201cBe open about it. Introduce a little, playful self-deprecation,\u201d she says. \u201cBecause if you don\u2019t, your date will most likely assume you\u2019re not that into them.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Not Being Original<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Sure, you might be a creature of habit, but going to the same place where you usually take your dates \u2013 that spot where everyone knows your name \u2013 isn\u2019t a good idea. \u201cBeing a serial dater is not a crime. But what is a crime is making your date feel like a treat of the week,\u201d says Ikka. \u201cTry and do something different for each first date.\u201d Getting out of your comfort zone will both do you good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Acting Like an Interviewer<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cNo \u2013 dating is not like interviewing for a job,\u201d says Ikka. \u201cWhoever came up with this comparison has pretty much ruined dating.\u201d While it\u2019s important to ask questions to determine whether there is a good fit between the two of you \u2013 you aren\u2019t conducting a job interview. \u201cHow you feel before, during and after a first date is way more telling than information you collect,\u201d says Ikka.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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