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It\u2019s no secret that men and women are different, and nowhere is that more apparent than in the wide world of online dating. Any man who\u2019s tried a dating site or app knows it can sometimes feel like a numbers game or an ongoing battle for attention. Most often the pressure\u2019s on the guy to make the initial contact, start the conversation, and ask for the date. As a result, what works for well for women in online dating simply won\u2019t work for a guy. Luckily, we talked to Radio Wright, the eDating Doc, and got his top online dating tips for men.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So listen up guys, here are the tips you need to know to make online dating work for you:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Know Your Reason for Being Online
\n<\/strong>\u201cYou need to consider what your goal is. Whether it’s for a relationship or if you’re just looking for fun,\u201d said Wright. Knowing this will not only determine the people who you\u2019ll pursue, but it will also ensure you\u2019re on the same page as the women you meet. Own what you want. Don\u2019t say you want a relationship if you don\u2019t want one, and don\u2019t say you\u2019re looking for something casual if what you really want is something serious. (Surprising fact, according to a poll of online daters 86% of men who are dating online are looking for something serious<\/a>.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Remember Photos Are Important <\/strong>
\nTaking a selfie seems like a thoughtless task, but your profile pic should be anything but. \u201cPhotos are the biggest issue,\u201d says Wright. \u201cGuys think because profile writing is difficult, that it\u2019s the most important part. But it\u2019s not. Because photos are easy to display, they don\u2019t put as much thought into it as they should. Photos are super important.\u201d Wright advises having a combination of photos showcasing your interests and recommends having your friends help you pick which photos are best for you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Be Playful in Your Profile<\/strong>
\nTaking the time to write a profile that authentically reflects who you are is important, but one of the online dating tips for men that’s often forgotten is that it\u2019s equally vital to inject a dash of fun into your profile too. \u201cGet across the high-value things about yourself, but throw in things that are fun,\u201d says Wright. \u201cThink about something light-hearted and playful that you can relate to. It lets the woman know you don\u2019t take yourself too seriously, and it makes your profile more interesting to read.\u201d Another tip that Wright recommends? \u201cBe about it, don\u2019t just write about it. Some guys will write that they\u2019re funny, and then they\u2019re not funny at all in their profile. So if you think you\u2019re funny, be funny.\u201d And try to stick to a maximum of 400 words. Otherwise, bleary-eyed potential matches will move on.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Like Her as Your First Move<\/strong>
\nSometimes you get tongue-tied. Or maybe you don\u2019t have the time to write out a flirty message. In those instances, liking a potential match is perfectly fine, says Wright. \u201cIt\u2019s cool to like a profile or photo, just one photo, of someone if you don\u2019t want to send a message to right away. Then she\u2019ll get the gist of who you are. There\u2019s something called mere-exposure effect, which is a psychological phenomenon by which people develop a preference for things that they\u2019re familiar with. If a girl sees that you like her photo, then she\u2019ll be more open to receiving you.\u201d But you have to follow up with a message in order to get things rolling.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Get Real in Your First Message<\/strong>
\nSo you met someone who you want to connect with online. Next up is sending the all-important first message. Wright recommends keeping the message brief and balanced, flirty yet authentic. \u201cYou want to be playful about something in her profile. It could be about her photo with her dog or cat so there\u2019s something playful in the first sentence. Then you want to mention something authentic. Something about her personality that you noticed in her profile,\u201d says Wright. \u201cDon\u2019t just be playful. You want to get real too, because otherwise there isn\u2019t any connecting happening.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you\u2019re trying to connect with people online, a great rule of thumb to remember is that authenticity and personality stands out. For better or worse, women have more choices when they\u2019re dating online\u2014But so do you! Use Wright\u2019s online dating tips for men\u2014put yourself out there, don\u2019t be afraid to get real with people, and get your photos looking sharp. You\u2019ll find yourself not just attracting more women, but actually connecting with them.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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