Do Some Research Beforehand<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\nIt\u2019s not that you don\u2019t trust your new love interest, but safety always comes first, which is why some people might choose to do some research on their dating prospect before meeting up. Tebb agrees. \u201cSee if you share mutual friends on social media outlets and ask them for their opinion,\u201d she says. \u201cThis is a good screening technique and can help save you time rather than meeting for the date and regretting it.\u201d Another tip? \u201cIf their compliments are of a sexual nature and you’re not interested in that, this should be a sign to cut communication,\u201d says Tebb. \u201cThis is when it\u2019s best to turn someone down politely.\u201d Also be wary of someone who is prying for details on where you live and work.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Make Sure You Feel Comfortable <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\nFor some people, waiting until they\u2019ve received certain signs are a good enough indication whether they should meet in person. Tebb recommends having exchanged at least three to five solid online messages that include a good rapport, similar interests, and give you an overall sense of comfort.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Meet As Soon as Possible <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\nIf your research stacks up and you’re feeling confident and secure about meeting in person, then Ikka suggests meeting sooner rather than later. \u201cI don\u2019t mean with a sense of urgency,\u201d Ikka says. \u201cWhat I do mean is to meet them with as little online communication as possible.\u201d This approach might seem counter-intuitive to some, but there are advantages to meeting with someone ASAP.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You could feel that spark, or not, within as little as fifteen minutes of meeting someone in person compared to over fifteen days of carefully worded emails online. \u201cYou can’t get a feel for someone from behind your computer screen,\u201d says Ikka. \u201cYou can make inferences and form opinions, but the only way to know for sure if there is chemistry (or the potential for chemistry) is to meet them in person and get a sense for their IRL vibe. From there, you can see how your vibe gels with their vibe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Also, meeting someone rather quickly quells any fantasy you might be harboring about the other person. \u201cIt’s very easy to find yourself in a non-relationship that feels like a real relationship when you’re playing the get-to-know-you game online,\u201d says Ikka. \u201cAs the messages are ping-ponging back and forth, hopes are getting higher, expectations are being set, ideals are being realized, pedestals are being elevated, and people are securely on those pedestals.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Meeting someone in person as soon as possible will force you back to reality. From there, you\u2019re able to decide whether you want to continue a real relationship with this person. If not, you can always head back online and connect with your other matches.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It’s easy to get caught up in in messaging and getting to know someone online, but it’s important to remember that things change when you meet in real life and the dynamics are different\u2014and that difference can be amazing and exciting! All conversations should eventually lead to meeting up. It’s a natural progression of getting to know someone. And, let’s not forget, it’s also just proper online dating etiquette. So mind your manners and meet up for a date.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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