{"id":13122,"date":"2016-07-14T01:00:21","date_gmt":"2016-07-14T08:00:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=13122"},"modified":"2021-05-31T23:22:41","modified_gmt":"2021-06-01T06:22:41","slug":"why-men-pull-away","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/dating-advice\/dating-advice-women\/why-men-pull-away\/","title":{"rendered":"Why Men Pull Away"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

<\/u>When the the person we\u2019re smitten over suddenly pulls away and we don’t know the reason why it can be confusing. And sometimes it hurts just as much as an actual breakup does. Both men and women are guilty of pulling away in relationships, although the reasons why men pull away are vastly different than women.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cFor better or worse, men aren\u2019t taught to deal with their emotions,\u201d says dating coach, Hunt Ethridge<\/a>. \u201cDoing nothing or ghosting is easier for them than having a frank discussion. Since men aren\u2019t as emotional with each other, they don\u2019t know how to do it with women.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So what does it mean when the men we\u2019ve fallen for start to pull away without an explanation?  Here are some reasons why men pull away:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

He wants space. <\/strong>
\nYou\u2019ve been hanging out together A LOT, you text and talk all the time, and suddenly, he\u2019s less responsive and available. According to dating coach and founder of Sexy Confidence<\/a>, Adam LoDolce, that could mean it’s too much too soon.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cPeople have a tendency to jump in quick when they first meet someone and once the initial honeymoon period ends, sometimes a man is wondering, ‘How did I get in so deep?’  Then he backs off,\u201d he said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you think it’s space your man is after, the best thing to do is give it to him.  Don\u2019t try and close the space by being too clingy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There\u2019s another woman.<\/strong>
\nThe most frequent reason why men pull away is due to the presence of another woman. If you\u2019re not exclusive, he could be dating around and getting closer to another woman.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cMost men enjoy having options and will date around before settling on one woman,” said psychologist and relationship coach, Dr. Carmen Harra<\/a>. “Commonly, when they do embark on a real relationship, they will cut off the other woman or women they were seeing.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

He\u2019s not ready to commit.<\/strong>
\nIt doesn\u2019t matter how well the relationship is going, sometimes when things are progressing as they should and it\u2019s getting more serious, the man will freak out a little.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHe may suddenly see his whole life paved out before him and this can be very disconcerting for a guy,” explained Ethridge. Especially for a guy who isn\u2019t ready to commit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cAs nice and sweet as a man may come across, you can\u2019t know what\u2019s going on in his head or his life,” Harra added. “A man may say he wants a real relationship yet be utterly terrified of commitment when it comes down to it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In other words, his intentions DON\u2019T match his actions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

He\u2019d rather avoid confrontation.<\/strong>
\nIt doesn\u2019t just happen in romantic relationships, but in all types of relationships.  Many times, people will distance themselves as a way of avoiding confrontation.  And for why men pull away in relationships, Harra said that simply avoiding someone is far easier for men than being honest and telling their date they\u2019ve lost interest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cA man might prefer to take this route if he no longer wants to continue dating a woman rather than be blunt and risk hurting her feelings,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

He\u2019s turned off.
\n<\/strong>Whether it\u2019s a bad habit, sexual fetish, or perhaps a viewpoint we don\u2019t agree with, we all hold certain deal breakers that we just can\u2019t see past. If a man pulls away out of nowhere, it often means he\u2019s come to a conclusion about a woman that downright turns him off. An overly jealous woman or a woman who constantly picks fights, for example.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cMen flee from women who bring them undue stress,\u201d said Harra. \u201cMany men prefer to turn their back on a woman who shows signs of being too emotional because they don\u2019t want to deal with the crying and fussing if they suggest a break or breakup.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There\u2019s not too much a woman can do if a man has definitely decided to pull away.  While it hurts and can be confusing, his actions don\u2019t necessarily mean he is looking for a break or a breakup.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Harra advised women who may be experiencing this right now to remain in the present and don\u2019t get too carried away too soon.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cProtect yourself in the sense of remaining alert, realistic, and logical,\u201d she said.  After all, time is the ultimate test.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most importantly don\u2019t take it personally.  Many times, the reason why men pull away is because he isn\u2019t even sure what he wants. And if he isn\u2019t sure he wants you, then he doesn\u2019t deserve you anyway.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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