{"id":13171,"date":"2016-07-21T01:00:49","date_gmt":"2016-07-21T08:00:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=13171"},"modified":"2022-08-19T05:21:33","modified_gmt":"2022-08-19T12:21:33","slug":"flirting-body-language-signs-give-look","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/single-life\/flirting\/flirting-body-language-signs-give-look\/","title":{"rendered":"Flirting Body Language: Signs to Give and Look For"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Flirting isn\u2019t just about the sweet nothings you use to lure a new romantic interest. In fact, when it comes to romance, it\u2019s usually what you don\u2019t <\/em>say that has a bigger impact on than what you do say. Often it’s the simplest gestures\u2014flirting body language including everything from your stance to tucking your hair behind your ears\u2014that speak the loudest when it comes to attracting that hottie from across the room.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So how do you let your body do the talkin\u2019? And how do you know if your date\u2019s feet are actually saying, \u201cI\u2019m into you\u201d? It starts with knowing which cues to look out for, and which ones to put out there.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s all in the feet
\n<\/strong>The way you present yourself to the world, particularly your stance, speaks volumes about how, or if, someone should approach you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For women, body language expert, Patti Wood<\/a>, author of SNAP: Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language, and Charisma<\/em>, advises having a small stance with their feet four to six inches apart. \u201cWomen want to be accessible, so part of that is taking up less space than more space, which is counter intuitive,\u201d she says. \u201cYou want to be a confident woman, you want to appear as such, but it\u2019s easier for men to approach women who don\u2019t have a broad stance.\u201d Though the feminist in you might cringe at the notion, Wood says, \u201cYou have to think about what makes you approachable. What makes it easy for a man to say, \u2018I think she\u2019ll talk to me. Or, I think she\u2019ll rebuff me.\u2019 That\u2019s an interesting thing to be aware of.\u201d Otherwise, Wood says you\u2019ll attract guys who like a \u201cchallenging woman\u201d. She calls them the \u201cSex seekers. They want to go to bed together that night.\u201d And have not much else afterwards.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For men, Wood recommends what she calls \u201cthe toe stop\u201d in which one foot is flat on the floor, while the other is crossed over the ankles, and the toes are flat. \u201cThey might be leaning against the bar or table. It\u2019s a very distinctive pose,\u201d she says.  \u201cIt says, \u2018I am better than any of these guys here because I am more relaxed. I don\u2019t need to go into a cowboy pose [in which a man holds a very broad stance]. That should say to a woman that he\u2019s a confident guy who doesn\u2019t need to posture and he can get along with other guys.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Get His Attention With Your Drink<\/strong>
\n<\/strong>Typically in a flirting body language situation, you might wonder what to do with your hands and arms. Never fear! That glass of wine is, in fact, a legitimate luring cue. \u201cOur eyes are designed for movement, so out of a group of women, the man is going to notice the one who is moving her glass,\u201d Wood explains. \u201cHold the glass in your left hand, not your right, because you want to shake hands without your hand being wet. You can let it dance and dip, you can let it subtly move and shift, and have it move in your hand.\u201d However, Wood warns of closing off your heart, so if you\u2019re holding a beverage, try not to hold it in front of your chest, and, instead, hold it off to the side.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Power of Wrist Action
\n<\/strong>The wrists are one of the most vulnerable parts of the body, so when a woman pushes her hair back behind her ear, so that her wrists show, the gesture combines both \u201cmovement and vulnerability, which is attractive to a man,\u201d says Wood. Likewise, when a woman does this on a date, the man can be rest assured that she\u2019s into him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Touch is also important for both sexes. When a man is telling a story, a woman can make a very brief touch between his wrist and elbow. \u201cIf you do it when he says something funny, it acts as an anchor cue and he will keep saying funny things,\u201d says Wood. \u201cOr do it when he is open and honest, you can say, \u2018Oh, that\u2019s so nice. I am glad you said that to me,\u2019 and gently touch him, so it becomes reward touching.\u201d This easy, non-sexual touching, says, \u201cI\u2019m interested,\u201d and also works on women, too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Importance of Eye Contact
\n<\/strong>Eye contact is important for both sexes. For men, extended eye contact from a woman means that she doesn\u2019t think he\u2019s a creep and is, in fact, interested in him. So, when a woman engages in extended gazing with the man she desires, she can almost guarantee that he will approach her. To ensure this, Wood recommends a luring technique for women that she equates with bass fishing. \u201cYou look across the room and see a guy you\u2019re into, so turn your head, and bring your face and head across their field of vision, and then turn back, and then again,\u201d she says. \u201cYou\u2019re taking the lure out and moving it back in, and because people are attracted to movement, he\u2019ll see your movement and then lock eyes with you. Once you lock eyes, you can hold it for a second and then look down, and then he\u2019ll approach you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Eye contact is equally important on an actual date, especially in our digital world where we\u2019re attached to screens 24\/7. \u201cExtended gaze is so important, but what\u2019s happening now is because we are so used to looking at screens, eye-to-eye contact is uncomfortable for a lot of people,\u201d says Wood. \u201cEye contact is a very important part of attraction and connecting of dating. It shows you are interested in them, it makes you likeable and it creates connection.\u201d Ensure that you are connected with your date and making eye contact with them at least 60% of the time (more than that will come off as a little creepy). And just a warning, ladies: Wood says locking eyes with a man for longer than three seconds basically says to him, \u201cI want you right now.\u201d So be careful with those powerful peepers!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Flirting body language is so natural to us that often times we don\u2019t even realize the vibe we might be giving off. Next time you\u2019re on a date, or out at the local bar, pay attention to the signals you\u2019re giving off, and it might just pay off.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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