Okay, you\u2019ve eyed each other\u2019s profiles, he had a charming opening line, and things started off great\u2014but you haven\u2019t gotten a first date invitation yet. Before you spiral into that, \u201cWhy doesn\u2019t he like me?!\u201d spin cycle we all pretend we haven\u2019t fallen victim to before, let\u2019s work out a few text flirting solutions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
First of all, count your blessings. Next time you\u2019re in text-flirt panic mode, just thank the stars that we\u2019re hashtag blessed enough not to have grown up in a generation where you had to approach someone in a bar and be charming on the spot, all while looking right into the actual person\u2019s eyes as they decide whether or not to reject you. I\u2019m getting sweaty just thinking about it; it\u2019s a wonder that the human race didn\u2019t die off. Whisper a \u201cthank you,\u201d to your parents, take a deep breath, and follow these pointers.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The most important thing is to give the other person an opportunity to further the conversation. Yes or no questions and single word answers are forbidden. Forbidden, I say! Compliments should always be followed up with a question.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
That\u2019s a great shirt in your profile pic! Where do you even find a t-shirt with the cast of Cats<\/em> on it?<\/p>
There\u2019s a great little thrift shop on Main, I got it there a few years ago!<\/p>
Oh cool, I\u2019ve never been. Maybe we could check it out sometime \ud83d\ude42<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
This will help you avoid the barren, \u201cHaha, thanks,\u201d response and give him a chance to talk about himself without feeling like he\u2019s self-centered.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Just as important as giving a compliment is taking one. If he tells you he likes your blond hair, say thanks, and then mention that you\u2019ve been playing with the idea of changing it up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Oh really!? Your eyes would really look good with a purple \u2018do too\u2026<\/p>
Is that a dare?<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
If you\u2019ve mastered the basic idea of flirty banter, but still can\u2019t get a good vibe going, here are some common hiccups and solutions:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Panic moment #1: You\u2019re just not into the same stuff.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you\u2019re into him, but you\u2019re having trouble connecting, don\u2019t lie about what your interests are, but give him an opportunity to teach you more about what he\u2019s into.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Never met a taxidermist before! I\u2019ll bet you make it look good! How\u2019d you get into it?<\/p>
I rescued this baby squirrel and when it fell into the pool and I just couldn\u2019t part ways with it.<\/p>
Aw, that\u2019s sweet though! Think I could handle a Taxidermy lesson?<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
Panic moment #2: The conversation has died. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Conversational lulls are normal, but if a few hours have passed, and you can\u2019t seem to think of a single thing to say, don\u2019t panic. Often times, we think conversational lulls are an indicator of zero chemistry, but more often it\u2019s just the nerves of trying to make a good impression on someone rearing their ugly head.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Get quirky with your text flirting. You\u2019ve really got nothing to lose, and if sparks fly, this person is going to see your silly side anyway, so why not let it revive a dead moment? Reference all the pointless minutiae you Snapchat to your friends all day, and send him an innocuous observation or describe a funny moment. Sending him a pic of how the coffee barista butchered your name could do the trick.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Panic moment #3: Everything\u2019s great, He\u2019s JUST. NOT. ASKING.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
This is your moment to take the wheel. It doesn\u2019t have to be a blatant invitation out to dinner, and I find it\u2019s easiest to take the independent route. If you invite him to join in standing plans you\u2019ve already made, it will feel less like rejection if he declines. Tell him you\u2019re meeting up with a few friends at a bar and ask if he wants to join. If he says yes, casually mention the idea of getting some food together beforehand.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Panic moment #4: You\u2019ve accidentally sent him a screen shot of his own face because you were simultaneously texting your bestie about him.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Good one. Once you\u2019re done screaming expletives, I urge you not to chuck your phone out the window and set yourself on fire. There are ways to remedy the situation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Solution 1:<\/strong> Immediately follow up with an innocuous observation, and play it off like you meant to send it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
My friend thinks you look like Keanu Reeves from Point Break<\/em> in this pic. But I don\u2019t see it.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
This is a great solution because you\u2019ve flattered him by letting him know you\u2019ve chatted to your friends about him, AND you get to see how he feels about the film Point Break, which may be the greatest movie of all time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Solution 2:<\/strong> Ask a question. Literally anything.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Is the guy next to you named Dan? He looks familiar.<\/p>
Nope, lol, that guys name is Pete, he was my roommate in college.<\/p>
That\u2019s crazy! Do you believe in doppelgangers?<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
(You can come clean about the fact that there\u2019s no such person named Dan on your 5th<\/sup> wedding anniversary.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Solution 3:<\/strong> Own it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I meant to send this to my friend because she asked me if you\u2019re cute. If you think this is charming, then lets move forward and never speak of it again. If you think it\u2019s creepy, best of luck in life, I hope your taxidermy business really soars.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
There\u2019s a high chance he\u2019ll laugh it off with you. He\u2019ll be flattered that you\u2019re talking about him, and impressed with your honesty. It could be a blessing in disguise.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you succeed at text flirting, you\u2019re well on your way to having a sweaty and pained first conversation at a bar just like your parents before you and theirs before them. Thus is the circle of life!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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