{"id":13562,"date":"2016-10-11T13:40:22","date_gmt":"2016-10-11T20:40:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=13562"},"modified":"2021-05-31T14:01:19","modified_gmt":"2021-05-31T21:01:19","slug":"5-reasons-getting-someone-will-make-you-stronger","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/relationship-advice\/moving-on\/5-reasons-getting-someone-will-make-you-stronger\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Reasons Getting Over Someone Will Make You Stronger"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Like the saying goes, \u201cwhat doesn\u2019t kill you makes stronger.&#8221; Well, don\u2019t tell that to someone going through a heart-wrenching breakup because dealing with the end of a meaningful relationship and getting over someone can feel like emotional amputation. The hurt, sadness, rejection, and host of other unpleasant feelings can seem numbing and endless.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The good news is that the pain and sadness doesn\u2019t last forever, says author of \u201cHow to Get Over a Breakup,&#8221;&nbsp;<a href=\"http:\/\/www.nipreston.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Preston Ni.<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cA breakup is often a special opportunity to learn about love, &#8221; he explains. &#8220;Emotional pain and hurt can be great teachers.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">But first, you must accept the breakup. Once you do, you\u2019ll realize that there&#8217;s always a silver lining surrounding heartbreak and in the end, you&#8217;ll emerge a stronger person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Here are some ways how getting over someone will actually make you stronger:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>1. You learn lessons you can use in future relationships.<br>\n<\/strong>And one of them may be&nbsp;that you deserve better. By analyzing past relationships, you can get a sense of what went wrong, what wasn\u2019t right, and make sure it doesn\u2019t happen again. Meditation teacher, spiritual guide, and author of \u201cBreak the Norms,&#8221;&nbsp;<a href=\"http:\/\/www.cbmeditates.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Chandresh Bhardwaj<\/a>, says just like every season is different, so are the romantic relationships we experience.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201c[Relationships] all have their beauties and flaws. When one relationship ends, really think about what you\u2019ve learned. Every relationship is meant to teach us something about ourselves.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>2. You realize how much love you still have in your life.<\/strong><br>\nA bad breakup can be emotionally exhausting and during the tough times, we surround ourselves with friends, family, and even our pets. This unconditional love and support is one of the greatest gifts we have, and we may not even realize it until something bad happens.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bhardwaj says, \u201cThe love and care of others can help you further assess your strengths. Pay attention to the good people and the good things that are still in your life. Remember, happy moments don\u2019t remind us of our blessings as much as the tough moments do!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>3. You have more time to focus on the relationship you have with yourself.<br>\n<\/strong>Following a breakup, it may be a shock to realize all the extra time you have. The after-work hours and weekends, which were once dedicated to your partner and the relationship, now can&nbsp;be filled with activities that specifically suite you and your well-being.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cSeek out new and interesting experiences that arouse your passion: meet new people, take classes, travel abroad, exercise, volunteer, hike a mountain, etc.,&#8221; suggests Ni. &#8220;Think outside the box. What\u2019s something you\u2019ve always wanted to do, but have held back on doing?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>4. You get a&nbsp;fresh start.<\/strong><br>\nWhat happens when you\u2019re continuously on your phone or laptop, non-stop? The gadgets heat up, slow down, and eventually the batteries die. People&nbsp;are no different than those burned out devices, says Bhardwaj.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cWhen we continue to move blindly through relationships, we get exhausted and drained. Restarting your inner system is of immense importance. A break between relationships give you much needed time to better self-reflect and focus,\u201d he says.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>5. You figure out&nbsp;what you don\u2019t want\u2026and what you do!<\/strong><br>\nRelationships are about trial and error. No relationship will be perfect. While some people do&nbsp;find their better half early in life, it may take more time and more failed relationships for others to find theirs. One of the most important lessons you learn in failed relationships is how to recognize flaws\u2014those of both yourself and your partner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cKeep track of the flaws that drive you crazy and you\u2019ll learn to avoid them in future relationships,&#8221; says Bhardwaj. &#8220;Keep track of what your partners say they don\u2019t like about you. If you start to notice a trend, you\u2019ll know that you\u2019ve got some stuff to work on too.&#8221;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>It may feel bad now, but that pain is evidence that you&#8217;re on your way to something better. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":74,"featured_media":13563,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[973],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-13562","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-moving-on"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v26.0 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>5 Reasons Getting Over Someone Will Make Your Stronger<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Getting over someone can be rough but there are a lot of ways it makes you a stronger person. 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