{"id":13633,"date":"2022-12-20T05:07:38","date_gmt":"2022-12-20T13:07:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=13633"},"modified":"2023-03-28T00:50:18","modified_gmt":"2023-03-28T07:50:18","slug":"is-he-serious-about-me","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/dating-advice\/dating-advice-women\/is-he-serious-about-me\/","title":{"rendered":"Is He Serious About Me? 11 Signs He’s For Real"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Is he serious about me? It\u2019s a question we\u2019ve likely all asked ourselves at some point in our dating journeys. After all, even if you\u2019ve been spending a lot of time together, you’ve spotted those surefire signs he’s flirting<\/a>, and it feels like you\u2019re genuinely connecting, knowing for sure whether he\u2019s really into you isn\u2019t always easy.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So, how do you know if the guy you\u2019re catching feelings for is as ready for a future with you as you are with him? It\u2019s not always straightforward and can vary from couple to couple. That\u2019s why we\u2019re here to help! Below, we\u2019ve put together a list of some of the biggest tell-tale signs that might help you answer the question, \u201cIs he serious about me?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Is He Serious About Me? 11 Things to Look Out For<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

How do I know if he is serious about me? Answering this can be tricky, but with a few common signs and signals to look out for, you can get a pretty good idea of what his intentions are.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Below, we\u2019ve laid out a list of 11 of the most common signs that he\u2019s serious that are worth looking out for.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. You know his friends<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

First things first: A guy who\u2019s serious about his relationship with you won\u2019t make you feel like his secret. Even if it took a while before he brought you into his social circle, if he\u2019s gone out of his way to bring you around his people, it\u2019s most probably a good sign. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cA man who can really envision a future with you will want to integrate you into all parts of his life,\u201d says relationship writer and speaker James Michael Sama<\/a>. So, if you\u2019ve become a regular part of his friend group, it can be a good indicator that he\u2019s serious about you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. He treats you with respect<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

If you express emotion and your man consoles and listens to you, he\u2019s probably in it for the long haul. \u201cSome guys can take your emotional expressions too personally. If he makes you feel worse and not better, then he is not mature enough,\u201d says relationship expert and author, Mastin Kipp<\/a>. If your man feels as emotionally mature as you are, that\u2019s a great sign.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. He reaches out first <\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Initiating contact is important, especially if you\u2019re in a long-distance relationship<\/a>. A guy who makes sure you know you\u2019re on his mind, even when he can\u2019t be physically present for you, is great. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Whether he does it through romantic love paragraphs<\/a> or flirty texts<\/a>, he should be able to prioritize you as the number one in his life. If he does, it\u2019s a good sign he\u2019s serious.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. He doesn\u2019t look single on social media<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Many men (and women) won\u2019t post pictures of the person they\u2019re dating for the specific reason that they don\u2019t want to look like they\u2019re in a relationship. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If after several months and hundreds of selfies together, he\u2019s only posted pictures of him and his buddies on his socials, proceed with caution. A guy who\u2019s serious about a relationship usually wants the world to know it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. He brings up the future<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Does he talk and commit to plans, whether they\u2019re tomorrow or five months from now? A guy who\u2019s serious about you won\u2019t be playing you or wasting your time because he knows what he wants. If he often backs out of things, claiming to be \u201ctoo busy\u201d, it could be a sign that he\u2019s not taking the relationship seriously. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the flip side, a guy who doesn\u2019t hesitate about committing to things further down the road is likely to be in it for the long haul. Simply put, if your man\u2019s a planner, he\u2019s serious about you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. He rarely breaks commitments<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

It can be as big as promising to go to your friend\u2019s wedding with you or as small as calling when he said he will. When trying to answer the question, \u201cis he serious about me?\u201d it\u2019s important to pay attention to what he does, rather than what he says. If your guy shows up when he says he will, you can be quite confident that he\u2019s ready to make a more serious commitment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. He doesn\u2019t cringe over PDA <\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Some people aren\u2019t comfortable with public displays of affection<\/a>. That\u2019s totally fine. But, pay attention to whether he acts single even when he\u2019s out with you. Does he care if people think you\u2019re his sister, cousin, or friend? Is he checking out other girls, or even flirting with them while he\u2019s with you? Remember, a guy that\u2019s proud to be with you typically wants the whole world to know it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

8. He\u2019s supportive, not competitive<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

A relationship is a two-person team. You and your partner work together to build each other up and support one another. When he backs you, never tries to one-up you, and brags about your accomplishments, he\u2019s serious!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

9. He knows so much about you<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re asking yourself the question, \u201cis my boyfriend serious about me?\u201d, think about how much he demonstrates a desire to get to know you. If he doesn\u2019t spend too much time talking about himself and focuses instead on asking you questions \u2014 and listening to your answers \u2014 it\u2019s a good sign that he\u2019s really into you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Communication and conversation are key to any good relationship<\/a>. When he cares enough to get to know you, it\u2019s a pretty strong sign that his intentions are good. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

10. He\u2019s willing to make changes for you<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

No one should completely change who they are just to fit a new relationship. But, if he\u2019s willing to kick a few annoying habits he knows you hate, it\u2019s a surefire sign that he\u2019s for real.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Relationships are often about compromise. If he\u2019s willing to go to extra lengths to adjust his behavior to make you happy, it\u2019s likely he\u2019s pretty serious about you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

11. Your intuition says he\u2019s the one <\/h3>\n\n\n\n

What is your intuition telling you? Do you have a gut feeling that he\u2019s the one<\/a>? Sometimes, analyzing his words and actions can only get you so far and it\u2019s that instinctive feeling that gives you the final answer. Trust yourself and what your intuition is telling you. More often than not, that\u2019ll help you find the answer you\u2019re looking for.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Bottom Line<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

In the end, if you feel it and find that you\u2019re asking yourself the question \u201cis he serious about me?\u201d less often, you\u2019re on the right track. Look out for these signs he\u2019s serious and if you feel confident that he\u2019s for real, it might be time to talk about going exclusive<\/a>. Good luck!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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