{"id":13681,"date":"2016-11-02T01:00:05","date_gmt":"2016-11-02T08:00:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=13681"},"modified":"2021-05-31T13:59:37","modified_gmt":"2021-05-31T20:59:37","slug":"surprising-reasons-love-will-last","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/relationship-advice\/healthy-relationships\/surprising-reasons-love-will-last\/","title":{"rendered":"The Surprising Reasons Your Love Will Last"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

You love spending time with your significant other, and you\u2019ve been talking about your future more and more lately, but will your love last? While no one will ever be able to know for sure, there are a variety of reasons why the best relationships last as long as they do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Wondering if your relationship will stand the test of time? Here are a few things you might not have thought of that can tell you if your love is the lasting kind.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. You Value Yourselves
\n<\/strong>There\u2019s a popular saying, \u201cYou can\u2019t love someone else until you\u2019ve loved yourself.\u201d You\u2019ve probably read it on mugs, bumper stickers, and Instagram posts many a time before. While the phrase itself may be corny and typical, the sentiment behind it is true\u2014you provide the best example of how someone else should treat you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Another saying that takes this same thought further is, \u201cPerhaps we should love ourselves so fiercely that when others see us, they know exactly how it should be done.\u201d When you know how to love yourself, you\u2019re not in a relationship with someone just for how they make you feel but for what you both bring to each other. In turn, you\u2019re not only fulfilled by your relationship, but by what you have inside of yourself, making you a stronger person and a better partner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. You Can Deal With Financial Hardships
\n<\/strong>As it turns out, having a job isn\u2019t just great for your bank account; it\u2019s also great for your relationship. According to The State of Divorce in the U.S.<\/a>, employed females are 5% less likely to get a divorce than unemployed females while men who are employed are 10% less likely to get a divorce. It\u2019s no secret that finances are one of the main reasons why couples fight.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Being with someone who has a steady stream of cash coming in can definitely reduce the need to fight about money, and therefore increase overall happiness, but all couples (even those who are well-off) need to discuss money at some point. Being with someone who you can openly discuss finances with and who is able to deal with financial hardships should they come along, is a good sign you\u2019re able to tackle tough situations together and could have something that will really last.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. You\u2019re More Than Just Romantic Partners
\n<\/strong>Friendship breeds long-lasting love because, the truth is, love changes. That burning, intense, obsessive love that\u2019s at the very beginning of a relationship isn\u2019t the way the love during the course of your entire relationship will be like. That early romantic love often morphs into something new\u2014a companionship and intimacy that looks a lot like friendship. But that doesn\u2019t mean the romance is gone. It just means that you\u2019ll begin to love your partner as a full person, not just as the person who plays hooky from work and hides under the covers with you for days on end.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. You Try New Things Together<\/strong>
\nIf you love trying new things as a couple, your relationship is more likely to stand the test of time. Research finds that couples that experience intense love, over a long period of time, try new things together, whether they\u2019re taking a trip to Italy or spending time in the garden. Even doing mundane tasks around the house together strengthens that bond, enhances the experience, and allows you to evolve and expand as one, rather than just as individuals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. You Maintain Your Independence<\/strong>
\nNeediness breeds resentment from both partners\u2014the one that\u2019s needy and the one who can\u2019t give the other person what they need. However, people that maintain a strong sense of self in a relationship, pursuing their own passions and watching their significant other do the same, are happier and more in love with their partner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This independence allows you to the see the other person in a new and ever-evolving light, as they grow in their passions, skills, career, or hobbies. Studies have found that neediness makes people less appealing and pushes people away, while independence makes others more attractive. Have you ever watched your significant other engrossed in another task and felt happy and impressed to see them so engaged in something, even if it was something outside of what the two of you share together? If so, you may have experienced this feeling yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Every relationship is different, and what makes one successful might make another a failure. Knowing what works for you and your partner is important, but maintaining a level of independence, contributing financially, and valuing yourself are all universally known traits of happy couples.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Jessica Thiefels has been writing for more than ten years and is currently a lifestyle blogger. She\u2019s written for Lifehack, Reader\u2019s Digest, AARP, and more. Follow her on Twitter <\/em>@Jlsander07<\/em><\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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