If you\u2019re one of the lucky ones, you\u2019ll meet a lot of great men while dating in your 40s. But meeting the right man takes work, effort, and more than a little luck. Chances are that eventually, you\u2019ll meet the man who wants to get married and have a long and lasting life with you. However, when you\u2019re dating in your 40s, you\u2019ll come across a number of men who just don\u2019t meet your expectations on your way to finding the right one.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
To help you navigate the dating scene while you search for Mr. Right, here are a few of the men you\u2019ll meet while dating in your 40s:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Divorced Man with Kids<\/strong> The Much Older Man<\/strong> The Guy Who Just Wants To Have Fun<\/strong> The Guy Who\u2019s Still Single at 40<\/strong> The older we get and remain in the dating game, the more complex the characters become. All their past lives and baggage are dragged with them into the present, as is yours. Meeting all these different types and learning from the experience will make you an expert in determining which type of man to embrace and which type to run from. In the meantime, remain optimistic, have fun, and realize there\u2019s no more \u201cnorm\u201d when it comes to dating. Learn the characters and learn to laugh it off. No matter what happens, at least you\u2019ll have good stories to tell.<\/p>\n\n\n\n To read more of Tonia\u2019s work and learn about her upcoming memoir, visit toniadecosimo.com<\/a> or follow her on Twitter at @ToniaDeCosimo<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Before you meet Mr. Right, chances are you’ll meet a few of these guys first. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":96,"featured_media":13703,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[975],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-13702","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dating-in-your-40s"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n
\nThis man has already been through it all but is still looking to get married quickly so he\u2019ll have a mother figure, nannie, or housekeeper to help him with his kids. If he\u2019s an awesome dad and you get along great with his children, it\u2019s very easy to fall for the whole package too soon. This makes it difficult to focus on knowing whether your relationship with him has the right foundation for a healthy and loving future together. It\u2019s easy to fall in love with the idea of an instant family and kids, but remember that you\u2019re not just taking on one person; you\u2019re taking on the whole crew. And sometimes that crew involves ex-wives, ex in-laws, and a whole host of shared friends and family members who will become part of your life too. This can be a wonderful thing, but it\u2019s a serious commitment that shouldn\u2019t be taken lightly. Be sure you\u2019re both marrying each other for the right reasons.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nIf you\u2019re in your 40s, you may be tired of dating guys your own age and looking for a more mature man\u2014a man who may be ten or more years older than you. This kind of older man, with a father-figure persona, will most likely treat you like a queen. Chivalry isn\u2019t dead with this kind of man and he\u2019ll tell you everything you want to hear. Many people who have married older men are extremely content in this type of relationship. Some may think he\u2019s the best thing since sliced bread, but others may quickly realize that they\u2019ll soon be his nurse taking care of him in his declining years. Before you jump to this decision, remember that the age gap becomes more of an issue the older you get and be sure that he\u2019s what you really want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nAt this point in your life, if you come across men who have never married or are divorced and want to stay that way, chances are that they\u2019re \u201cconfirmed bachelors\u201d who are just looking to have some fun. If that\u2019s your goal too, then this type of guy is your perfect match. However, if you\u2019re looking for something with a future, you need to put your cards on the table early and gauge his reaction. If you think you can get him to fall in love with you and that he will change his mind, you may be sadly disappointed and will have wasted precious time. Or, you could be the woman who brings about his 360. Either way, it\u2019s like playing a table in Vegas\u2014 May the odds be ever in your favor!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nIf you are a woman in your 40s dating a man in his 40s who has never been married, you may be in luck or you may be up the creek without a paddle. This guy may still be searching for the right one, just as you are. He may fit your criteria and now you\u2019ve finally hit the motherlode. Or, he may simply be a leech who\u2019s desperate to bring someone home to his mother. This second type of man may be eager to please you, which is a refreshing change, but it\u2019s often too much too soon. After two dates, he\u2019ll start talking about marriage and the names of your future kids. The trick is to figure out if he\u2019s your perfect match or just desperate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n