{"id":13995,"date":"2016-12-22T15:55:57","date_gmt":"2016-12-22T23:55:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=13995"},"modified":"2021-05-31T13:41:07","modified_gmt":"2021-05-31T20:41:07","slug":"new-relationship-advice-focus-moment","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/relationship-advice\/healthy-relationships\/new-relationship-advice-focus-moment\/","title":{"rendered":"New Relationship Advice: Focus on the Moment You’re In"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

There\u2019s a tendency when things are going well in a new relationship\u2014when you\u2019re excited and things are moving forward the way you want them to\u2014to get swept up in all the forward momentum and excitement. Part of growing closer to someone is creating a space for them in your heart, in your mind, and in your life. So it\u2019s only natural to start thinking about the future and what space they might take up there too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t do it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Well, ok, I’m not saying don\u2019t do it at all. (Indulging in a little fantasy about a possible future with someone can be fun, and maybe even healthy.) Just don\u2019t let that possible future be your main focus. Otherwise, you may find yourself missing out on all the of wonderful things about the moment you\u2019re in.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Instead, consider these ways to enjoy the pleasures of your new relationship and the moment you’re in now:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Be present.<\/strong>
\nIt may sound simple but when you care about someone, one of the best things you can give is yourself. During the early stages of a relationship, when you\u2019re still getting to know your partner, it\u2019s important to pay attention to the present moment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ordering food at a restaurant, relaxing on the couch, or talking in the car may seem like small insignificant things but they\u2019re also part of what brings you closer together. You may learn what position your partner loves to lounge in, notice a habit they have of bouncing on their feet when they order a meal, or learn that they once drove cross-country to help a friend move. These are the details that make up a person, your experience with them, and the life you\u2019re building together.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Notice the little things.<\/strong>
\nBeing present makes the person you\u2019re with will feel cared for, but it\u2019s also rewarding for you. At the dating site Zoosk<\/a> where I work with the design team, we often talk about the concept of \u2018first comes like\u2019 moments\u2014those moments in a relationship that happen before love. They\u2019re the moments where you notice something about your partner that makes you smile, laugh, or feel curious and you realize that there\u2019s something there you want to see more of. Maybe it\u2019s finding out that they cry at sad movies or admiring the way they walk across a room. You never know what it could be. But later you may look back at these moments and realize they were really the beginning of your journey towards love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Find the romance in everyday occurrences.<\/strong>
\nThis is one of the best parts of the beginning of a relationship\u2014discovering the small joys in a quiet evening in, deciding to ignore the dishes together, laughing over the antics of your friends, or being comfortable enough with someone to use the bathroom with the door open. (Gasp!) There are a lot of dynamics that change when you become a couple\u2014not every dinner is going to be a special, date night event. And, eventually, you may even lose a little of that \u2018just met someone\u2019 excitement. But there are new discoveries to be made about each other that can be exciting in a different way. Experiencing small, mundane moments together can lead to a new level of intimacy and closeness that\u2019s incredibly rewarding.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As your relationship progresses and you grow together as a couple, you may discover that things like romance, thoughtfulness, and even love don\u2019t always look the way you expect them to. Sometimes caring about someone can be as simple as going out of your way to pick someone up, watching a TV show you don\u2019t like, or sending a text to say \u2018I\u2019m thinking of you.\u2019 Starting a relationship is a big step, but make sure you don\u2019t forget to enjoy the little steps along the way. It will make the journey a whole lot more fun.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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