{"id":14133,"date":"2017-02-09T01:00:18","date_gmt":"2017-02-09T09:00:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=14133"},"modified":"2021-10-29T07:01:01","modified_gmt":"2021-10-29T14:01:01","slug":"cheating-signs-how-to-tell-partner-thinking","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/relationship-advice\/relationship-problems\/cheating-signs-how-to-tell-partner-thinking\/","title":{"rendered":"Cheating Signs: How to Tell If Your Partner Is Thinking About It"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

In many cases of infidelity, those who have been cheated on admit that they saw the signs, but ignored them or told themselves that they were being paranoid or insecure. While many things you notice your partner doing can be explained by reasons other than infidelity, we spoke to a few different relationship experts about the cheating signs that shouldn\u2019t be ignored.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These are the 13 cheating signs that may indicate someone is cheating, or perhaps just thinking about it:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. They\u2019re extra-protective of their phone.<\/strong>
\n(And their computer, social media, etc.). It\u2019s not unusual for a person to be glued to their phone. \u201cHowever, if all of a sudden your partner starts guarding it, (e.g. hides it and becomes visibly nervous when you touch or get near it) it’s likely there’s something they don\u2019t want you to see,\u201d says Jonathan Bennett<\/a>, a dating coach and co-author of Eleven Dating Mistakes Women Make (And How To Correct Them)<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. They withdraw their attention.<\/strong>
\nIf it feels like your partner isn\u2019t as attentive, they could be giving that attention to someone else. For example, Bennett says, \u201cIf you used to get a lot of text messages throughout the day, then suddenly get only a couple [a week] with no explanation, someone else might be getting that attention.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. They go out with their single or divorced friends more.<\/strong>
\nYou were the only one they wanted to be with, but now your partner is spending a lot more time with their single friends. “If they go out more often, are gone for long periods of time, and it seems like they\u2019re reliving their twenties, this could indicate that they\u2019re dissatisfied with some aspect of their home life,\u201d says Jenna James<\/a>, author of Bait Him Back and Bait Her Back<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. There is a physical or emotional disconnect.<\/strong>
\nIf your partner seems distant and unwilling to share about basic things like how their day went, when not too long ago they did, this is a red flag. \u201cThere’s less touching, talking, and it may even feel like you\u2019ve gone from soul mates, to roommates,\u201d says Danine Manette<\/a>, an infidelity expert and author of Ultimate Betrayal: Recognizing, Uncovering and Dealing with Infidelity<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. There are changes in their routine.<\/strong>
\nAs your partner becomes less interested in being at home and more interested in being with their new crush, they often begins leaving earlier, staying later, taking longer, or going more often to places without you. \u201cGenerally, more time begins being spent away from you and away from home,\u201d says Manette.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. Your sex life has changed.<\/strong>
\nThis can be tricky because a decrease in intimacy could indicate they\u2019re getting it somewhere else. \u201cThough for a woman, not wanting sex can be caused by many things that are completely innocent,\u201d says James. There could also be an increase in sexual activity as your partner is more turned on, thinking about that other person as well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. It takes longer for them to return calls and texts.<\/strong>
\nBefore, your partner would promptly call or text you back and now, sometimes they don\u2019t get back to you at all. This is another example of how you are no longer the main focus in their life, and there is something or someone who is.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

8. Changes in attitude toward you.<\/strong>
\nIf the person you’re with tends to criticize you in areas that were fine before (your weight, appearance, housekeeping skills, etc.) it could point to a problem. \u201cThis is because he\/she is typically comparing you to the new potential love interest,\u201d says Manette. Conversely, they may begin being overly<\/em> attentive or give you more gifts and compliments because they’re feeling guilty about what they\u2019re considering doing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

9. They don\u2019t make eye contact with you.<\/strong>
\nAs kids, we\u2019re taught that looking someone in the eyes means you\u2019re telling the truth. So pay attention to where your partner is looking. \u201cTheir guilt over what they\u2019re planning to do makes it difficult for them to look you in the eye when the two of you talk,\u201d says Ruth Houston<\/a>, an infidelity expert and author of Is He Cheating on You?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

10. They never get mad anymore.<\/strong>
\nOne of the surest signs that your partner has checked out on the relationship and no longer wants to emotionally invest in it is that they don\u2019t get angry anymore, says James. \u201cIf they suddenly take every setback in stride, it may mean he\/she is devoting their emotions to someone else.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

11. They adamantly proclaim, “I’ll never cheat on you”.<\/strong>
If your partner continuously states that they\u2019ll never cheat on you, watch out. \u201cThe objective here is convince you that they\u2019re loyal, trustworthy, and monogamous, so that when you think you see signs of cheating behavior, you are conditioned to dismiss them,\u201d says Donna Andersen<\/a>, author of Red Flags of Love Fraud- 10 signs you\u2019re dating a sociopath<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

12. There is an increased interest in your schedule.<\/strong>
\nIf they want to know where you\u2019re going, how long you\u2019ll be gone, when you\u2019re coming back, etc. it could be a cheating sign. This increased interest is often misinterpreted as jealousy, or greater concern for you, when actually it\u2019s just the opposite, says Houston. \u201cThey\u2019re trying to figure out when, where and how they can see their intended affair partner without getting caught.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

13. A change in their tone\/language.<\/strong>
\nYour interactions with your partner went from romantic and flirty to cold and casual. \u201cMaybe you used to get called babe or honey and now you get addressed more like a friend. That\u2019s a red flag that your partner\u2019s romantic interest is shifting elsewhere,\u201d says Bennett.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

14. You have a gut feeling.
\n<\/strong>You know your partner better than anyone else so you’ll be the first to notice questionable changes in behavior, schedule, and the way they interact with you in general. \u201cMost people report that in retrospect they saw the signs but either ignored them or explained them away.  Typically, however, where there\u2019s smoke, there\u2019s fire,\u201d says Manette.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Remember, all of the cheating signs above could also happen for other reasons, but if you’re getting that gut feeling and find that your partner is exhibiting a lot of these behaviors, it may be time to keep an eye out.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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