{"id":14324,"date":"2017-03-27T10:52:11","date_gmt":"2017-03-27T17:52:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=14324"},"modified":"2021-05-31T13:34:56","modified_gmt":"2021-05-31T20:34:56","slug":"single-and-not-settling","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/single-life\/single-and-not-settling\/","title":{"rendered":"Single and Not Settling! The Three Ts of Surviving the Dating World"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

How do you navigate the dating world when you\u2019re single and really want to meet someone? It\u2019s not always easy. In fact, it\u2019s almost always hard. But while making my way through the single life, I\u2019ve learned a few things about how to, not just survive the dating world, but master it. In my new book Single and Not Settling! A Journey of Surviving the Dating World<\/em><\/a> coming out in April, I give tips on how to make sense of the craziness of dating, and give suggestions on how to find the one for you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But before you dive into the deep end, it\u2019s important to make sure you\u2019re ready. To help you get in the right dating mindset, follow what I call the Three Positive Ts of Dating:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Talk positive about your single status.
\n<\/strong>Speaking positively about being single may help create a positive outcome.  Being single isn\u2019t something to be ashamed of, and yet most people feel  like if you talk about it, you\u2019re being negative and dwelling on it too much. If you tell people you\u2019re single and embrace the fact that you are searching for the right one and know that they\u2019re out there for you, other people will be more apt to see you in good light. They may even know someone they\u2019d like you to meet and will want to introduce you to them if they feel like you have a happy and upbeat personality. But if you\u2019re sad and depressed about being alone nobody will want to set you up with their friends. It\u2019s said that over 50% of couples meet through an introduction. So, don\u2019t forget. Attitude is everything!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Travel out of your immediate area to meet new people.
\n<\/strong>Many of us become complacent and comfortable living our lives in our own backyard. However, there are tons of trips out there for singles who want to meet each other\u2014whether it\u2019s day trips, weekend trips, or extended vacations. Find a destination you\u2019ve always wanted to travel to, save up the money, and book the trip. It\u2019s completely normal to travel alone when you\u2019re single, so don\u2019t feel you are the only one. If you can\u2019t afford a trip, go ahead and travel outside of your neighborhood or go to the next zip code. Accept invitations to events that require a drive and see some new faces. You never know who will be there!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Try new things outside of your comfort zone.
\n<\/strong>Everyone\u2019s daily routine is pretty much the same\u2014wake up, go to work, come home, eat dinner, shower, and then watch TV before bed. No matter what the season, we tend to get used to and go through the paces of that familiar structure. As much as we say we want to meet someone, many times we don\u2019t take the necessary steps to make it happen. Try something new! Get up a little earlier and head to the gym. Talk to the person next to you on the treadmill. Take an adult-education class. Instead of sitting at your desk on your lunch break at work, go out for lunch at least once or twice a week. It\u2019s ok to sit alone and have a slice of pizza. You never know who might come over and ask for the hot pepper flakes. Instead of rushing home after work, why not take a Martial Arts class like kick-boxing or karate?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bottom line is you need to think outside the box and get out of that comfort zone. Sometimes you have to make a slight change in order to see big results.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To read more of Tonia\u2019s work and learn about her new book Single and Not Settling! A Journey of Surviving the Dating World<\/em><\/a>, visit toniadecosimo.com<\/a> or follow her on Twitter at @ToniaDeCosimo<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Three simple things you can do to change your dating mindset.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":96,"featured_media":14335,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[899],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-14324","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-single-life"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\nSingle and Not Settling! The Three Ts of Surviving the Dating World<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Before you dive into the deep end, it\u2019s important to make sure you\u2019re ready. To help you get in the right dating mindset, follow these three positive tips.\" \/>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/single-life\/single-and-not-settling\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Single and Not Settling! The Three Ts of Surviving the Dating World\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"Before you dive into the deep end, it\u2019s important to make sure you\u2019re ready. To help you get in the right dating mindset, follow these three positive tips.\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:url\" content=\"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/single-life\/single-and-not-settling\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:site_name\" content=\"The Date Mix\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:publisher\" content=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/Zoosk\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:author\" content=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/TheToniaDeCosimo\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:published_time\" content=\"2017-03-27T17:52:11+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:modified_time\" content=\"2021-05-31T20:34:56+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:image\" content=\"https:\/\/dq1eylutsoz4u.cloudfront.net\/2017\/03\/27114235\/single-and-not-settling.jpg\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:width\" content=\"800\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:height\" content=\"600\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:type\" content=\"image\/jpeg\" \/>\n<meta name=\"author\" content=\"Tonia DeCosimo\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:card\" content=\"summary_large_image\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:creator\" content=\"@https:\/\/twitter.com\/toniadecosimo\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:site\" content=\"@Zoosk\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:label1\" content=\"Written by\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data1\" content=\"Tonia DeCosimo\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:label2\" content=\"Est. reading time\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data2\" content=\"3 minutes\" \/>\n<!-- \/ Yoast SEO plugin. -->","yoast_head_json":{"title":"Single and Not Settling! The Three Ts of Surviving the Dating World","description":"Before you dive into the deep end, it\u2019s important to make sure you\u2019re ready. To help you get in the right dating mindset, follow these three positive tips.","robots":{"index":"index","follow":"follow","max-snippet":"max-snippet:-1","max-image-preview":"max-image-preview:large","max-video-preview":"max-video-preview:-1"},"canonical":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/single-life\/single-and-not-settling\/","og_locale":"en_US","og_type":"article","og_title":"Single and Not Settling! The Three Ts of Surviving the Dating World","og_description":"Before you dive into the deep end, it\u2019s important to make sure you\u2019re ready. To help you get in the right dating mindset, follow these three positive tips.","og_url":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/single-life\/single-and-not-settling\/","og_site_name":"The Date Mix","article_publisher":"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/Zoosk\/","article_author":"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/TheToniaDeCosimo\/","article_published_time":"2017-03-27T17:52:11+00:00","article_modified_time":"2021-05-31T20:34:56+00:00","og_image":[{"width":800,"height":600,"url":"https:\/\/dq1eylutsoz4u.cloudfront.net\/2017\/03\/27114235\/single-and-not-settling.jpg","type":"image\/jpeg"}],"author":"Tonia DeCosimo","twitter_card":"summary_large_image","twitter_creator":"@https:\/\/twitter.com\/toniadecosimo","twitter_site":"@Zoosk","twitter_misc":{"Written by":"Tonia DeCosimo","Est. reading time":"3 minutes"},"schema":{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org","@graph":[{"@type":"Article","@id":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/single-life\/single-and-not-settling\/#article","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/single-life\/single-and-not-settling\/"},"author":{"name":"Tonia DeCosimo","@id":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/#\/schema\/person\/c8f828dd1e77f5c3fc0abd0fb294a3ff"},"headline":"Single and Not Settling! The Three Ts of Surviving the Dating World","datePublished":"2017-03-27T17:52:11+00:00","dateModified":"2021-05-31T20:34:56+00:00","mainEntityOfPage":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/single-life\/single-and-not-settling\/"},"wordCount":670,"publisher":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/#organization"},"image":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/single-life\/single-and-not-settling\/#primaryimage"},"thumbnailUrl":"https:\/\/dq1eylutsoz4u.cloudfront.net\/2017\/03\/27114235\/single-and-not-settling.jpg","articleSection":["Dating Tips for Singles from Dating Experts"],"inLanguage":"en"},{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/single-life\/single-and-not-settling\/","url":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/single-life\/single-and-not-settling\/","name":"Single and Not Settling! The Three Ts of Surviving the Dating World","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/#website"},"primaryImageOfPage":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/single-life\/single-and-not-settling\/#primaryimage"},"image":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/single-life\/single-and-not-settling\/#primaryimage"},"thumbnailUrl":"https:\/\/dq1eylutsoz4u.cloudfront.net\/2017\/03\/27114235\/single-and-not-settling.jpg","datePublished":"2017-03-27T17:52:11+00:00","dateModified":"2021-05-31T20:34:56+00:00","description":"Before you dive into the deep end, it\u2019s important to make sure you\u2019re ready. To help you get in the right dating mindset, follow these three positive tips.","breadcrumb":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/single-life\/single-and-not-settling\/#breadcrumb"},"inLanguage":"en","potentialAction":[{"@type":"ReadAction","target":["https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/single-life\/single-and-not-settling\/"]}]},{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en","@id":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/single-life\/single-and-not-settling\/#primaryimage","url":"https:\/\/dq1eylutsoz4u.cloudfront.net\/2017\/03\/27114235\/single-and-not-settling.jpg","contentUrl":"https:\/\/dq1eylutsoz4u.cloudfront.net\/2017\/03\/27114235\/single-and-not-settling.jpg","width":800,"height":600,"caption":"A happy single woman"},{"@type":"BreadcrumbList","@id":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/single-life\/single-and-not-settling\/#breadcrumb","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"Home","item":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/"},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"name":"Single Life","item":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/single-life\/"},{"@type":"ListItem","position":3,"name":"Single and Not Settling! The Three Ts of Surviving the Dating World"}]},{"@type":"WebSite","@id":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/#website","url":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/","name":"The Date Mix","description":"Dating and Relationship Advice for Today's Daters","publisher":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/#organization"},"potentialAction":[{"@type":"SearchAction","target":{"@type":"EntryPoint","urlTemplate":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/?s={search_term_string}"},"query-input":{"@type":"PropertyValueSpecification","valueRequired":true,"valueName":"search_term_string"}}],"inLanguage":"en"},{"@type":"Organization","@id":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/#organization","name":"The Date Mix","url":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/","logo":{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en","@id":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/#\/schema\/logo\/image\/","url":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/TDM-logo.jpg","contentUrl":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/TDM-logo.jpg","width":400,"height":400,"caption":"The Date Mix"},"image":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/#\/schema\/logo\/image\/"},"sameAs":["https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/Zoosk\/","https:\/\/x.com\/Zoosk"]},{"@type":"Person","@id":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/#\/schema\/person\/c8f828dd1e77f5c3fc0abd0fb294a3ff","name":"Tonia DeCosimo","image":{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en","@id":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/#\/schema\/person\/image\/","url":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/avatar_user_96_1533061739-96x96.jpg","contentUrl":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/avatar_user_96_1533061739-96x96.jpg","caption":"Tonia DeCosimo"},"description":"Tonia DeCosimo is a successful entrepreneur and dating and relationship author. She received her B.S. degree in Elementary Education and English from Manhattan College. Her career path took her into the fields of marketing, publishing, and sales consulting in which she has worked successfully for the past 25 years. During that time, she has built and managed several companies including her own. When she's not busy building her career or dishing out dating advice, Tonia is the proud step-mom of two teenagers, residing in Long Island with her husband. Tonia has been working with Zoosk to create unique, engaging content around online dating and relationships.","sameAs":["https:\/\/toniadecosimo.com\/","https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/TheToniaDeCosimo\/","https:\/\/x.com\/https:\/\/twitter.com\/toniadecosimo"],"url":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/author\/tonia-decosimo\/"}]}},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14324","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/96"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=14324"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14324\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/14335"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=14324"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=14324"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=14324"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}