Now that online dating is a normal way to meet people, new issues have come up that are totally different from the things daters use to worry about. If you\u2019re wondering what you should do or how should you feel when the person you\u2019re dating reveals that they still have an active online dating profile, we\u2019ve outlined seven different scenarios that will likely come up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Check them out to get some insight into what\u2019s normal online dating behavior, and what\u2019s definitely not ok.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Scenario 1: His profile is live but you\u2019re not official yet. Scenario 2: Your friend finds the profile of woman you\u2019re seeing. Scenario 3: You\u2019re putting a lot into the relationship but he\u2019s still using the app. Scenario 4: You\u2019re just not sure if she\u2019s still actively online dating. Scenario 5: You\u2019re on an app that lets you change your status. Scenario 6: You think about online dating differently. Scenario 7: He refuses to stop online dating. Remember, online dating is still new and it changes all the time. As a result, the social norms and expectations we have for dating before changes right along with the technology we\u2019re using. Be open minded, and if you\u2019re confused or unsure, just ask the other person. Could be you end up laughing over your mutual confusion. Could be you find out he or she isn\u2019t as into the relationship as you though. Either way, you\u2019ll know where you stand and be ready for whatever\u2019s ahead.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" How to find out for sure and what to do about it.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":109,"featured_media":14378,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[888],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-14369","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-online-dating"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n
\n<\/strong>So, you\u2019ve been on a couple of dates and the two of you seem to have really hit it off, but then you noticed that the guy you\u2019re super interested in changed his profile photo on the dating app you met on, which means that he must still be active. Should you be upset? Probably not. Cut him some slack on this one, because if you haven\u2019t had \u2018the relationship talk\u2019 and made things official and exclusive yet, then he might just be covering all his options in case you don\u2019t feel the same way he does. Things might (and should) change after you\u2019ve decided to be exclusive. That\u2019s when the profile needs to come down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>Do you have a friend that also uses the same dating service as you? If he came across the profile of the woman you\u2019re dating and asks you about it, it could get a little weird. First off, try to figure out when was the last time she actually used the app. It might be that she simply hasn\u2019t thought to delete her profile yet. It\u2019s actually really common to leave a dating profile live on a site or app even if you\u2019re seeing someone or not actively online dating. If you really want to find out if she\u2019s still using the app, you could ask your friend to reach out and see if she responds but we wouldn\u2019t recommend it. If she does respond, you\u2019ll feel hurt and things could get awkward. Instead, just ask her if she\u2019s still using the app and start a conversation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>If you discover that the guy you\u2019re with still has his profile live and that he\u2019s been active within the last few days, then it might be time to consider whether you\u2019re investing more in the relationship than he is. Sometimes we can fall head over heels in a short amount of time and simply assume that the same thing is happening to the other person. Unfortunately, this isn\u2019t always the case. He might still be treating your relationship as a casual thing and assuming that you are too. If you want something more, you need to tell him how you feel. Even if he\u2019s not on the same page as you, at least you\u2019ll know and can move forward.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>This is probably the most obvious piece of advice but it can also be the most difficult to put into action. Rather than sneaking around, trying to piece all the information together, you really should just come out and ask her exactly why she still has an active dating profile. This will give her a chance to explain herself and you the opportunity to weigh all the facts before deciding whether you\u2019re happy with where the relationship is headed. Maybe casual is fine with you for a while, maybe it\u2019s not. Either way, it\u2019s better to know where you both stand. Could be she\u2019s been waiting for you to bring it up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>Many dating apps and sites give you the option to change your relationship status from single to married to everything in between. If the person you\u2019re seeing insists on keeping his profile, ask that he makes it clear that he\u2019s already in a relationship. This might help clear up confusions, and other people will see that his profile is there more as a placeholder than an active advertisement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>It might be the case that you and your significant other just have completely different attitudes towards the way online dating sites and apps should work. You might see them as something to use to genuinely try to find a life partner, whereas she might seem them as a place for a little bit of innocent flirting and a self-esteem boost when she\u2019s bored or feeling low. Having a dating profile doesn\u2019t necessarily mean that you\u2019re looking to stray from your relationship, so make sure you understand the other person\u2019s angle whilst at the same time sharing your own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>Ultimately, if you really want the person you\u2019re with to delete his dating profile and he refuses, then it\u2019s time to reconsidering whether he\u2019s the type of person you want to have a real relationship with. Bottom line\u2014online dating is dating. If you want to be exclusive and give up the app and he\u2019s not ready to stop seeing other people then a relationship isn\u2019t going to work. If he has such a disregard for your feelings, then he isn\u2019t going to be the most compatible partner for you in the long run.<\/p>\n\n\n\n