{"id":14640,"date":"2017-06-01T01:00:32","date_gmt":"2017-06-01T08:00:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=14640"},"modified":"2022-09-23T06:35:39","modified_gmt":"2022-09-23T13:35:39","slug":"meet-women-real-life","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/dating-advice\/dating-advice-men\/meet-women-real-life\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Meet Women in Real Life"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

International dating<\/a> expert Hayley Quinn<\/a>, gives advice on how to meet women<\/a> in real life to help give you the skills you need to be great at dating women, wherever you meet them.\u00a0 <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n


\n<\/em>I know right now you may think that real life is a lot more intimidating than sending a woman you like a message on an online dating site, but I\u2019m going to share with you five easy steps to approach a woman in a non-creepy way. If you want to meet women offline, as well as online, follow along.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you meet a woman in real life (and online) it can be hard to know if and how you should compliment her before the opportunity is lost. Finding that balance between being respectful to her and having that edge that helps her to feel the \u2018spark\u2019 of attraction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You may think that women are used to meeting men all the time, but the reality for many women is that they feel like they hardly ever meet any men they like. This is why I want to help you learn to put yourself forwards in a way that\u2019s respectful to women while still being outgoing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

By following these five steps on how to approach women in real life, you\u2019ll show a woman that the kind of man she wants to meet exists\u2026 and that man is you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Get her attention.
<\/strong>The number one reason why approaching a woman may not work is that you don\u2019t have her full attention before speaking to her. By attention I mean you should have her eye contact. This means she won\u2019t be either a. surprised when you speak to her or b. not listening. If she sees you before you begin speaking to her she\u2019ll be more relaxed and you can also checkout her non-verbal signals (is she holding eye contact with you and smiling?) to see if she seems open to talking to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sometimes you may need to use a gesture or say \u2018hey\u2019 to get her to look up. Then I want you to pause and wait for her to fully realize \u2018a man is talking to me\u2019 before you continue speaking with her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I know that this is easier said than done, but I also really want you to concentrate on being as friendly and relaxed as possible. Sometimes to get into the zone listen to music you find motivating, and keep smiling (even if you feel nervous). It will help you to feel relaxed and help her see you as someone she can trust.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. State the obvious.<\/strong>
\nIf you want to talk to a woman but she\u2019s in the middle of hanging out with a girlfriend\/reading a book\/working on her laptop, instead of not saying hello at all I want you to let her know that you realize she\u2019s busy. It\u2019s better to show her that you\u2019re considerate of what else is going on for her rather than waiting for a perfect moment (that never comes) to say hi to her. You don\u2019t need to be overly apologetic you can simply say, \u2018Hey (pause) I know you\u2019re in the middle of\u2026. But I wanted to say\u2026\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Give her a compliment.<\/strong>
\nTry to avoid compliments that are overly focused on her looks or very generic. Chat up lines like, \u2018did it hurt when you fell from heaven\u2019 deserve to be banned for life. Also avoid clich\u00e9s like \u2018you have beautiful eyes\u2019 as this may well make her think that you\u2019re just another guy hitting on her. If possible compliment her on HOW she\u2019s doing something, \u2018I like how focused you are\u2019 \u2018I like how you have this big smile, it looks like you\u2019re having a great conversation\u2026\u2019 and if all else fails keep it low key with an implied compliment like, \u2018I just had to come and say hi.\u2019 It\u2019s a classic but a good one!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Introduce yourself.<\/strong>
After you\u2019ve paid a compliment<\/a>, lots of the time she may not expect or know how to continue the conversation. A simple way to signal to her that you want the conversation to keep going is to offer your name. This also builds some trust as she gets to know you on a more personal basis. Say, \u2018my name\u2019s John by the way\u2026\u2019 before you expect her to share her name with you. If she doesn\u2019t want to share her name this is a good cue that she\u2019s not open to talking to you and you can simply wish her a good day and leave the conversation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Keep the conversation going.<\/strong>
\nThe best way to do this (and there are lots of ways I can teach you to improve your conversations that I\u2019ll talk to you about in later articles) is to share information about yourself rather than asking her questions. I know this seems counter-intuitive but when it comes to meeting women in real life instead of putting her on the spot with a question it will create more trust with her if you can tell her a few things about yourself whilst inviting her to speak.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

E.g. Instead of saying, \u2018where are you from?\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Say, \u2018I don\u2019t know about you, but I live downtown.\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This will create a more open conversation where she feels more comfortable offering you information because you\u2019ve been open with her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The steps for how to meet local women<\/a> in real life may not be what you were expecting; but after working with thousands of men and women as a dating expert, I know that the conversation starters<\/a> that work best are those that are built on trust and mutual respect.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For more information on my five steps to approach someone, head to www.hayleyquinn.com\/approach<\/a> where I have a free cheatsheet for you.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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