{"id":14985,"date":"2017-08-23T01:00:48","date_gmt":"2017-08-23T08:00:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=14985"},"modified":"2021-05-31T13:23:19","modified_gmt":"2021-05-31T20:23:19","slug":"dating-tips-for-men","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/dating-advice\/dating-advice-men\/dating-tips-for-men\/","title":{"rendered":"The 21 Most Important Dating Tips for Men"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Text versus call, hike versus drink, ask more or fewer questions\u2026 The ins and outs of dating can be very confusing for men these days. However, many of the tried and true dating tips never change. So in an effort to help out the fellas out there, we asked dating and relationship experts from across the board what the most important dating tips for men are.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here are the top 21 dating tips for men from top experts:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Be personable. <\/strong>
\n\u201cDon’t email or text to ask a woman out for the first time. The latter are impersonal, and dating is all about getting to know someone personally. It also sets a poor tone for the relationship’s communication dynamics.\u201d – Erika Martinez<\/a>, Psy.D. Licensed Psychologist<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Don’t move too fast.<\/strong>
\n\u201cFor most women, online dating involves a certain level of risk and anxiety so spend time getting to know her online and through phone and video chats before suggesting meeting in person to ensure she feels comfortable.\u201d – Dr. Wyatt Fisher, Clinical Psychologist<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Take initiative.<\/strong>
\n\u201cWhen you’re talking or texting while planning the date, as the guy always have a time and place in mind. You never want to get into one of those exchanges like… ‘What do you want to do? Oh I don’t know, what do you want to do?’ Be confident and make a recommendation.\u201d \u2013 Radio Wright<\/a>, Online Dating Expert<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Meet in public.<\/strong>
\n\u201cMake your first few dates in public and drive separately to let the lady know making her feel safe is your top priority.\u201d- Dr. Wyatt Fisher, Clinical Psychologist<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Go somewhere you’re comfortable.<\/strong>
\n\u201cYou might think that you\u2019re being a gentleman by letting your date decide where you go on your date, but women like to see that you can take control. Help cut through any nerves by arranging to meet up in familiar territory that will help you feel more comfortable.\u201d \u2013 Nicolas Aujula<\/a>, Relationship Coach and Therapist<\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. Call her to confirm.<\/strong>
\n\u201cDoctors and dentists do it; so should you. Since men usually don’t pick up the women they date, calling to confirm a date is pretty easy and puts the women at ease.\u201d – Stef Safran<\/a>, Matchmaking and Dating Expert<\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. Look your best.<\/strong>
\n\u201cA lot of guys don’t think about how they look before going on dates, even though women pay attention to the little details related to appearance. Make sure you are well-groomed (check for dirty fingernails, freshly apply deodorant, shower). Second, make sure your clothes match, aren’t wrinkled, and look decent on you.\u201d –David Bennett<\/a>, Dating Coach at The Popular Man<\/p>\n\n\n\n

8. Confidence is key.<\/strong>
\n\u201cThe way you enter a room or share a glance are indicators of your confidence working for you or against you. When you feel odd or awkward people can pick up on that uneasiness which will equate to whether or not you are perceived as attractive. One of the best ways to make a good first impression is by showing your confidence.\u201d – Denise Levy, Professional MatchMaker<\/p>\n\n\n\n

9. Remember your manners.<\/strong>
\n\u201cWomen appreciate these old-school good manners. They also convey that you’re appreciative of her choosing to spend her time getting to know you.\u201d – Erika Martinez, Psy.D. Licensed Psychologist<\/p>\n\n\n\n

10. Turn off your phone.<\/strong>
\n\u201cThere\u2019s nothing more annoying then phones going off while you’re trying to spend quality time with someone. Turn your phone off completely. If she knows that you\u2019ve turned your phone off to focus entirely on the date, she\u2019ll appreciate that you’re taking the time to engage with her fully.\u201d \u2013 Nicolas Aujula, Relationship Coach and Therapist<\/p>\n\n\n\n

11. Keep the conversation fun.<\/strong>
\n\u201cSince guys tend to be very analytical, it’s easy for them to turn conversations into a fact-sharing session. Women find conversations like this boring. It’s fine to share facts, but make sure to add in humor, intrigue, and flirtatious overtones. This will make her excitedly hang on your every word.\u201d -David Bennett, Dating Coach at The Popular Man<\/p>\n\n\n\n

12. Avoid the ex conversation.<\/strong>
\n\u201cYour date will not be interested and it can make things feel awkward. If your date does bring up the subject, try to keep answers short. Reassure her that your past is history and that you want to spend your time getting to know her instead.\u201d\u2013 Nicolas Aujula, Relationship Coach and Therapist<\/p>\n\n\n\n

13. Do more than dinner and drinks.<\/strong>
\n\u201cMost women aren’t dying to sit down for two hours to share a boring meal with a stranger, playing an awkward game of 20 questions. Instead, plan something more fun and adventurous. (Like bowling, hiking, kayaking.) Especially on the first few dates when impressions matter the most. Give them a date they’ll remember.\u201d-David Bennett, Dating Coach at The Popular Man<\/p>\n\n\n\n

14. Compliment her.<\/strong>
\n\u201cPeople put effort into getting ready for a date so take the time to compliment the other person and mean it! Not jus, ‘I like your dress’ but ‘I like how your dress brings out the color of your eyes.’ Always look for the best in others and it will bring out the best in you!\u201d- Denise Levy, Professional MatchMaker<\/p>\n\n\n\n

15. Keep it light-hearted.<\/strong>
\n\u201cTry to keep your conversation light-hearted. On your first date, you don\u2019t want to get into an in-depth conversation about why you don\u2019t enjoy your job, or other issues. Avoid talking about religion, politics, or recent news that’s controversial. Women want a guy who can make them laugh. Yes you do have to be serious sometimes, but in the early stages of dating, have some fun.\u201d\u2013 Nicolas Aujula, Relationship Coach and Therapist<\/p>\n\n\n\n

16. Stay in the moment.<\/strong>
\n\u201cThis is usually done out of lack of confidence hoping the girl wants to see you in the future. Women will feel this neediness. Just enjoy the date and if things go well, make future planes when you talk on the phone next.\u201d\u2013 Radio Wright, Online Dating Expert<\/p>\n\n\n\n

17. Leave a little mystery.<\/strong>
\n\u201cWhen you are getting to know someone you do not want to lay all your cards out on the table or tell your entire life story. The sense of mystery keeps them coming back for more and creates a certain chemistry that will make you stand out from others.\u201d- Denise Levy, Professional MatchMaker<\/p>\n\n\n\n

18. Make sure she gets home.<\/strong>
\n\u201cMake sure she gets in her car, cab, etc. safely. Women’s safety is important, showing her that you care about her, shows her that you are a gentleman.\u201d- Stef Safran, Matchmaking and Dating Expert<\/p>\n\n\n\n

19. Let her take the first step towards intimacy.<\/strong>
\n\u201cThis will help her feel like you care about her and not just her body and help her feel safe and that she’s in control of the pace you’re moving without pressure.\u201d- Dr. Wyatt Fisher, Clinical Psychologist<\/p>\n\n\n\n

20. Be honest.<\/strong>
\n\u201cWomen can handle rejection. More people complain about the flakiness and the ghosting. If you are not interested, don’t lead her on. After all, you never know if the next woman you date somehow knows her.\u201d- Stef Safran, Matchmaking and Dating Expert<\/p>\n\n\n\n

21. Don’t play games.<\/strong>
\nWe get that you don’t want to seem needy, clingy, desperate, or overzealous. But if you’d like to see her again, just let her know. \u201cYou can weave it into the conversation at the end of the first date (e.g. ‘This was a great evening. Would you open to seeing each other again soon?’) If she says ‘yes’, then say, ‘Awesome. I’ll call you on ___ and set something up.’ Then follow through and call when you say you would.\u201d- Erika Martinez, Psy.D. Licensed Psychologist<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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