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For women looking date older men, or who are already dating someone 60 or older, many of the rules and expectations you\u2019ve grown accustomed to in your youth have drastically changed. For example, when dating older men, you\u2019re dealing with someone who has decades of life experience, compared to someone in their 30s or 40s, who may still be figuring out their life. On the flip side, some tried and true dating rules apply regardless of how old you get. If you’re wondering what 60-year-old men in relationships are like, here\u2019s what some of the experts say you should expect. <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. They\u2019re not good at talking about their feelings.
\n<\/strong>Men, in general, are not good about expressing their feelings and even more so for men who are older. \u201cFew men in the over 60 generation are practiced in talking about their feelings. This means that patience is the key to getting men to reveal their emotions, and it\u2019s key for women not to judge what men share because that will turn them off sharing with you again,\u201d says Ken Solin<\/a>, a relationship author and columnist.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. You\u2019re competing with lots of other women. <\/strong>
\n<\/em>Single men over 60 are a vanishing demographic. \u201cMen in America die five years earlier than women. According to the U.S. Census Bureau, for every single man aged 60 there are three and a half single women,\u201d says Rich Gosse<\/a>, author and chairman of The Society of Single Professionals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. They generally do not date women in their own age bracket.
\n<\/strong>\u201cThe average 60-year-old woman dates 68-year-old men (and there are very few bachelors still alive and dating in this age bracket). The solution is to date younger, not older men,\u201d says Gosse.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Be ready to ditch the old geezer stereotype.
\n<\/strong>\u201cIt doesn\u2019t always hold true since many older men exercise regularly, still work, and actively pursue their hobbies. So, if you assume you\u2019re in for a boring, slow relationship, you could be wrong. If anything, many guys in their 60s have a lot of material resources and want to live life to the fullest,\u201d says Jonathan Bennett<\/a>, a certified counselor and relationship coach. You might be in for more of an adventure than you expected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Many men over 60 are still looking for hot, sexy women. <\/strong>
\n<\/em>Every man has his own definition of what is hot and sexy. \u201cIn many cases, these men may look for younger women because they’re still interested in having sex, but not necessarily in building relationships. Their minds are still locked into what turned them on when they were younger,\u201d says Davida Rappaport<\/a>, an adult dating expert.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. They rather settle quickly than date extensively. <\/strong>
\n<\/em>\u201cMy date-coaching clients over 60 frequently ask why men go immediately from one relationship to the next without any pause. I explain that few men take the time to process their feelings regarding a failed relationship, preferring to jump into the next one instead. I advise my clients not to date any men divorced less than a year for this reason,\u201d says Solin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. They still want sex. <\/strong>
\n\u201cJust because people are older doesn\u2019t mean their sex drive is non-existent. In fact, from 2000-2010, the CDC reported<\/a> that STDs among older individuals doubled. There\u2019s a good chance the guy you date will have a strong sex drive and the ability to act on it,\u201d says Bennett.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

8. Many men over 60 are retired. <\/strong>
\n<\/em>\u201cThese men often want to travel and are on the go\u2014looking for adventures and new things to do and explore. If you’re able to take time off and travel\u2014weekends and\/or otherwise, there are a lot of men out there who are looking for you. However, if you’re not financially equipped or have too many obligations, these types of men are not for you,\u201d says Rappaport.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

9. Some men over 60 may have young children still. <\/strong>
\n<\/em>\u201cIf you’re prepared to deal with an ex-wife and make time to do things with your guy\u2019s children, you might be ok looking for someone with young children or shared custody arrangements,\u201d says Rappaport.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

10. Don\u2019t hold your breath if he says, \u201cI\u2019ll call you.” <\/strong>
\n<\/em>Often there is no follow up. \u201cIt\u2019s difficult for men to look a women in the eye and tell her he\u2019s not interested in seeing her again,” explains Solin. “So, instead they utter the famous three words. Women should look a man in the eye at the end of a coffee date and ask him whether or not he\u2019s interested in another date.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

11. They\u2019re technically savvy. <\/strong>
\n<\/em>Newsflash! Men over 60 use smartphones\u2026”More older men than ever are using social media, smartphones, and other electronic methods to connect with others, including people they date. So, even if a guy is older, you can\u2019t assume he\u2019s technologically illiterate. If you want to keep his time and attention, you might have to embrace new technology, just to keep up,\u201d says Bennett.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

12. People over sixty have full lives.<\/strong>
\n“Children, grandchildren, work, groups, etc., so finding time to be dating or be with someone who is more mature can be a bit difficult to schedule. You will figure it out if you both are willing to make the time,” says Rappaport.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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