{"id":15097,"date":"2017-09-14T01:00:45","date_gmt":"2017-09-14T08:00:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=15097"},"modified":"2021-05-31T13:21:49","modified_gmt":"2021-05-31T20:21:49","slug":"how-to-tell-someone-you-love-them","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/relationship-advice\/healthy-relationships\/how-to-tell-someone-you-love-them\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Tell Someone You Love Them"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

As the founder of the company Love Notery<\/a>, I’ve written love stories for couples at every committed stage of their relationship, from their engagement through their 10-year anniversary and beyond. In learning about how my clients fall in love, I always ask how they said \u201cI love you\u201d for the first time. And what I learned about how to tell someone you love them for the first time may surprise you. You might think that the first, \u201cI love you\u201d is said in a romantic setting\u2014and it often is\u2014but it also actually happens quite a bit during arguments.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s nerve-racking to say those three little words for the very first time. Will he reciprocate? What if she doesn\u2019t feel the same way? All of these questions swirl around in your head while you have this unrelenting desire to express your love for your partner and when emotions are highest, like during an argument, those words can just pour out.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As you can imagine, saying \u201cI love you\u201d for the first time in the middle of an argument stops it straight in its tracks while each person considers the weight of those words and how they feel about what has just been said. Though saying \u201cI love you\u201d during an argument may be more common than you would think, there are also other more fulfilling ways to get this emotional declaration off your chest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First, let\u2019s address the timing issue.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When should you say, \u201cI love you?\u201d
\n<\/strong>Say it only after two months. Go on at least seven dates. Never say it first. These are only a few examples of some of the rules you may have heard about when it\u2019s the right time to express loving feelings for your partner, and they all focus on timing. But the truth is that there\u2019s not a specific right time to say \u201cI love you\u201d because the right time is when you feel it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The better measure of when to say \u201cI love you\u201d is to evaluate how emotionally vulnerable you feel with your partner. Do you trust him? Does it feel good to disclose deeper aspects of yourself with her?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How you feel is the thermometer to tune into rather than any relationship \u201crules\u201d you’ve heard of.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How do you say \u201cI love you\u201d for the first time?
\n<\/strong>Words without actions cannot adequately express your feelings for another person. When you\u2019re ready to say \u201cI love you\u201d to your partner, carefully consider how your actions up to this point have reflected your feelings toward him or her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If all you do is fight, \u201cI love you\u201d may be received by your partner with an eyebrow raise. If you’ve been building intimacy along your dating journey, then \u201cI love you\u201d may likely be received in a more mutual way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How you decide to say \u201cI love you\u201d is best communicated when you two are connecting in a romantic way, and with eye contact and true sincerity behind your words. Make sure you consider who your partner is. Do they prefer romantic gestures in private for example?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here are some ideas of intimate moments to say \u201cI love you\u201d:<\/p>\n\n\n\n