{"id":15128,"date":"2017-09-18T01:00:06","date_gmt":"2017-09-18T08:00:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=15128"},"modified":"2024-06-28T03:40:57","modified_gmt":"2024-06-28T10:40:57","slug":"gender-equality-affecting-modern-dating","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/dating-advice\/gender-equality-affecting-modern-dating\/","title":{"rendered":"Gender Equality in Modern Dating"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Feminism and gender equality are not only topics that are shaping our professional lives, but our personal lives too. Classic dating tropes, such as waiting for the guy to call the woman first or having him pay for the first date, seem, well, outdated. Nowadays it\u2019s not uncommon for a woman to pick up the check, text first or initiate sex. Though some people might favor traditional gender roles when it comes to dating, there are those\u2014both men and women\u2014who are open to dismantling old-fashioned dating norms so both genders can&nbsp;call the shots in a relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In this (kinda, sorta) liberated time, when we&#8217;re trying to&nbsp;find someone interesting and set&nbsp;up a date, what do we do? For example, is opening a door for a woman still considered chivalrous, or is it now just downright inconsiderate?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Here are some important points to think about when it comes to respecting gender equality while dating. (P.S. it\u2019s really not that complicated.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading has-medium-font-size\"><strong>She can pay if she wants to&#8230;for the right reasons.<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p><strong> <\/strong>Match&#8217;s <a href=\"http:\/\/www.singlesinamerica.com\/2017\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\">2017 Singles In America<\/a>\u00a0survey\u00a0showed that 47 percent of women offered to pay the bill\u00a0because they wanted to show their independence. However, the troubling truth is that 74 percent of women offered to pay so they wouldn\u2019t feel obligated to do anything with a man they didn&#8217;t want to. Ugh. Here\u2019s the thing: paying for the date shouldn\u2019t be a transactional experience. No one should foot the bill to prove anything, or to keep score. Simply put, paying for someone\u2019s cocktail should be considered an act of gratitude. It means, \u201cThank you for spending this time with me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Though a woman has every right to pay for her date, she should only do so if she truly wants to express her appreciation\u2014and not because she doesn\u2019t want to put out. However (and this is where it gets confusing) women are looking for kindness and a sign of interest from her male companion, which is usually symbolized by his paying for the first date. So, how about we try this: the man, who doesn\u2019t expect anything more but the company of his date, pays for the first date, and then the couple can split the upcoming dates afterwards. Deal?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading has-medium-font-size\"><b>Chivalry<\/b><strong>\u00a0isn\u2019t dead\u2026but it\u2019s being polite that matters.<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p><strong> <\/strong>Some women complain that chivalry\u2014a man showing up with flowers at his date\u2019s door, for example\u2014is dead, while others might balk at the sight of a man opening a door for them. So what gives? Perhaps Emma Watson put it back when she tackled the\u00a0topic of dating-while-feminist\u00a0in her\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.self.com\/flash\/celebrity-blog\/2015\/03\/emma-watson-international-womens-day-facebook\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Facebook Q&amp;A on International Women&#8217;s Day<\/a> in 2015. \u201cI love having the door opened for me&#8230; But isn\u2019t that just politeness?\u201d She said. \u201cWould you mind if I held the door open for you? I\u2019m polite and you\u2019re polite and we\u2019re making the world a better place with this small, kind polite gesture.&#8221; Politeness and respect are two key ingredients when starting, and continuing, a relationship. If we can see and appreciate sweet gestures from our beloved for what they are\u2014and not have any other attachment or expectation from them\u2014then chivalry isn\u2019t dead at all, nor does it have to be.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Men don\u2019t mind at all if women make the first move.<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p><strong> \u201c<\/strong>It\u2019s all about the chase for guys,&#8221; we\u2019ve been told. \u201cIf a guy wants you, he\u2019ll make the first move,\u201d or, \u201cDon\u2019t show too much interest or he\u2019ll be turned off,\u201d are other dating tropes we\u2019ve heard time and again. Which is probably why some women are shy to express their interest first. But here\u2019s the thing: According to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/dating-advice\/dating-advice-women\/online-dating-first-message-to-a-man\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">a study of online dating data<\/a>, women who send an\u00a0online dating first message are 2.5 times more likely to get a response than men are. Also, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.cbsnews.com\/videos\/study-says-men-want-women-to-make-the-first-move\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">studies<\/a> (not to mention tons of thinkpieces) show that men have no problem with women making the first move, whether it\u2019s the first date, first kiss, or first time having sex. So, basically, whoever is feeling who first, man or woman, just go for it! It\u2019s so much better than waiting around and wondering, what if.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Dating, and how men and women relate to each other will probably always be complicated, just like solid relationships will always be built on communication, trust, and mutual respect. As long as you and your date are committed to supporting and respecting one another, as well as doing away with the dating tropes you don\u2019t like and keeping the ones you do, you can only go upwards as a team (made of independent individuals, of course).<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Who pays? Who makes the first move? 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