Being mesmerizing isn\u2019t about how you look, what you wear, or even what you say. It\u2019s about the energy you radiate. A dating tip you may not hear as often, is that you should pay attention to how people respond to your energy and be aware of the energy you put out. The way people feel about you and the energy around you, is all about what you hold in your mind. What do I mean by this?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Well, if you always think of yourself in terms of how you compare to others or how others view you, you\u2019ll always find and feel lack within yourself. As a result, the energy you radiate will be about your self-doubt, your insecurities, or how you\u2019re not good enough. After a while, you\u2019ll start projecting those things onto others, and will seek validation from other people and forces outside of yourself. Instead of being positive, your energy will come across as desperate, restless, or even needy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You can be an attractive, beautiful person, but if others sense a negative or confused energy about you, they may have a hard time connecting with you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
On the other hand, when you feel secure with yourself, you project self-confidence and self-assuredness and the energy you radiate will be joy, groundedness, understanding, and tolerance. When you don\u2019t need other people\u2019s approval to be okay with yourself, you tend to gravitate towards and attract people who have the same positive energy that you do. That\u2019s the very basic foundation of being mesmerizing\u2014self-love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Now if you want to be mesmerizing to someone in a romantic context, there are four tips to follow that will help you get yourself in the right mindset:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
1. Stop thinking too far ahead. 2. Don\u2019t forget about your own happiness. 3. Don\u2019t wait around for the other person.<\/strong> 4. Don\u2019t make someone your priority, when you\u2019re only an option.<\/strong> If you follow these four tips you\u2019ll be a stronger person that others seek out and want to be with. Keep your energy positive, focus on being your best self, and you\u2019ll be amazed at how many people become interested in you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Katarina Phang is a dating\/relationship coach and Feminine Magnetism expert par extraordinaire who has worked and helped thousands of women from all corners of the world transform their relationships using her very\u00a0profound, unique, and counter-intuitive teachings of inner work\/personal transformation\u00a0through her\u00a0<\/em>Feminine Magnetism Method<\/em><\/a>. To hear more from Katarina, follower\u00a0her on <\/em>Facebook<\/em><\/a> or Twitter.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Are you paying attention to the energy you put off? <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":128,"featured_media":15235,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[884],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-15203","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dating-advice"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n
\n<\/strong>A lot of people start getting ahead of themselves the minute they meet someone they find attractive. They start to fantasize about this new person and form expectations about what a relationship will be like with them, instead of going with the flow and finding out as they go along. This is a common mistake thousands of people make. They cling to the fantasy and idea of the person they\u2019re with, instead of focusing on actually trying to get to know them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>For many people, the minute they\u2019re interested in someone romantically, they begin to revolve their life around the new relationship and can forget to nurture themselves. They try too hard to please the other person, thinking they\u2019ll become indispensable to them. Wrong. The more you please someone else, the more you invest emotionally and the more you\u2019ll expect reciprocation. This can make your energy pushy, anxious, and smothering and the entitlement you feel can push the other person away. By no means stop doing nice, pleasing things for the person you\u2019re interested in. But if you do something nice, you should do it because you want to make someone happy not because you expect them to owe you for it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nThe more you\u2019re hooked on someone, the more you need to spread your energy around or you\u2019ll become a mess. Fill your life with activities and interests that aren\u2019t related to the person you\u2019re interested in. And don\u2019t stop talking and meeting new people or seeing the people you\u2019ve already been seeing casually. Having your own life and interests will fulfill you and give you energy that transfers over into your relationships.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nMany people insist on being a girlfriend\/boyfriend to someone even thought the relationship hasn\u2019t been made exclusive yet. As a result they stop talking to other people and start expecting the same treatment as someone who\u2019s in a committed relationship, when the other person clearly isn\u2019t all the way in yet. The pressure doesn\u2019t help the other person fall any faster, and the resulting clinginess and insecurities about where you are in the relationship can push the other person away. Instead, pay attention to the other person\u2019s interest and level of investment. Even if you\u2019re not always on the same page, understanding and respecting where the other person is in the relationship and giving them the time to grow in their feelings for you will show what a strong, caring person you are.<\/p>\n\n\n\n