Oftentimes the red flags are pretty clear in a relationship that\u2019s not working\u2014things like constantly fighting, cheating, or finding out the other person actually really likes listening to Nickleback. (You know, the obvious.) But then there are the not-so-obvious signs that it’s time to break up, the ones that indicate that your relationship is going nowhere good. These are the subtle signs that sneak up on a relationship. The ones that you might brush aside time and again because, really, are they that big of a deal? In some cases, yes, they are.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The following eight subtle signs are basically your Bat Signal, trying to tell you that you\u2019re in a doomed relationship, and now it’s time to finally cut it loose and be free.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
1. You look forward to your alone time just a little too much.<\/strong> 2. You aren’t as excited about sex.<\/strong> 3. You’re annoyed by everything they do. <\/strong> 4. You\u2019re happier when they’re not around. <\/strong> 5. You\u2019ve given up on your goals. <\/strong> 6. You\u2019re constantly insecure. <\/strong> 7. You\u2019re more interested in your phone than them. <\/strong> 8. You\u2019re lonely. <\/strong> Though all relationships will have their ups and downs, as well as their dry periods, for the most part your relationship should enrich your life, not leave you feeling drained and unfulfilled. If you find yourself thinking that this all sounds really familiar, you might want to have the talk with your partner and let it go.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Are all their cute quirks suddenly excruciatingly annoying? <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":61,"featured_media":15425,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[983,998],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-15423","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-breaking-up","category-break-up"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n
\nIndependence is crucial to any successful relationship. Carving out some me-time whether it\u2019s attending a favorite fitness class or having a night out with friends is not only healthy but also perfectly normal. However, when you find yourself looking forward to your alone time more than hanging out with your partner, or even scheduling more time away from them than with them, then you have a problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nOr, basically, any form of physical contact. The idea of them touching you does nothing for you. Maybe it doesn\u2019t outright repulse you (or maybe it does) but it certainly doesn\u2019t turn you on anymore. If that initial attraction isn\u2019t there, and hasn\u2019t been there for a while, it signifies pretty big trouble in so-called paradise.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nWhether it\u2019s the way they chew their food or even the way they breathe, you find that you can\u2019t stand anything your partner does. Even their quirks, the ones you thought were cute at one time, like how they sing in the shower or hum while making dinner, make your skin crawl. If you find yourself rolling your eyes more than a few times at your partner\u2019s behavior, that\u2019s a sign of disrespect. And if you don\u2019t respect or accept your partner for who they are\u2026 then why are you with them?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nIs your mood lighter when you\u2019re not in the same room as your partner? Do you feel relieved when you don\u2019t have to see them? If you\u2019re generally happier when they\u2019re not around, then your emotions are giving you a clear cut sign that you\u2019re going to be much happier when you\u2019re officially single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nIf you\u2019ve had a number of goals and dreams fall to the wayside since you\u2019ve been in your relationship because it\u2019s taken up so much of your time and energy that you are ultimately left with nothing to offer yourself, that\u2019s a sign that you\u2019ve been putting someone else\u2019s needs before your own, which only fosters tons of regret and resentment. In other words, no bueno.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nYou fear your partner will cheat on you, or leave you on a regular basis. Not only are those bad vibes totally bad for your health and peace of mind, they also indicate that your relationship isn\u2019t rock solid. In fact, your fears might actually be turning into something true\u2014that you aren\u2019t meant for each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nIf you find yourself scrolling through your phone whenever you\u2019re chilling with your partner on the couch rather than inquiring about their day and learning about them, then it\u2019s official: you\u2019ve checked out of the relationship. If you\u2019re completely uninterested in what\u2019s going on with your partner, whether it\u2019s their work life or any struggles or triumphs they might be experiencing, then it\u2019s time to do both of you a favor and cut the cord.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nThe loneliest a person can feel is when they’re with someone. It\u2019s often a feeling of disconnection, being misunderstood, and feeling like you’re not being cared for the way we want to be that causes us to feel lonely in relationships. You might not be technically alone, but you don\u2019t feel valued, loved, or understood as much as you should by your partner, which is worse. You might as well be officially alone, and seek the companionship you deserve from someone else.<\/p>\n\n\n\n