{"id":15427,"date":"2017-10-20T01:00:42","date_gmt":"2017-10-20T08:00:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=15427"},"modified":"2021-05-31T13:05:58","modified_gmt":"2021-05-31T20:05:58","slug":"10-signs-he-still-loves-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/relationship-advice\/healthy-relationships\/10-signs-he-still-loves-you\/","title":{"rendered":"Does He Still Love Me? 10 Signs the Answer Is Yes"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

If you\u2019re a female in a relationship, chances are you\u2019ve come across an article or 300, ruthlessly targeted at you, that\u2019s titled along the lines of 10 Signs He Loves You<\/em> or 25 Ways He Shows He Cares<\/em>. Unless you\u2019re the world\u2019s most secure human being, chances are you\u2019ve clicked on one or all 300 of them. They all say things like \u201cHe puts his phone down when you\u2019re together,\u201d or \u201cHe asks you questions about your future,\u201d or, \u201cHe goes out of his way to hold your hand or touch you when you\u2019re hanging out.\u201d A quick Google search will turn up literally dozens of these lists. And the lists aren\u2019t wrong, exactly. But… well, they aren’t the whole story either.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A while back, I clicked through a Cosmo story that was a checklist of all the signs that my boyfriend truly loves me and had a hiccup of panic when I couldn’t identify with more than one or two. No, I\u2019m not in a loveless relationship, I\u2019m in an old one. My boyfriend and I live together, and our conversations aren’t often conducted over an intimate dinner with constant eye contact, they\u2019re shouted across two rooms as one of us is unloading the dishwasher and the other is answering work emails. He never inquires about my hopes and dreams because he knows them all. He\u2019s seen me stress cry when achieving one of them was particularly hard. I stay away from him when we\u2019re lounging on the couch because when he gets home from the gym and hasn\u2019t showered yet it’s not the time to snuggle up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To some this may sound like lowering the bar. But for every new-love behavior that falls by the wayside, there is another that indicates the deep and comfortable love that takes its place.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So for all the long-attached girls out there, here\u2019s a vastly underrepresented list of signs that he still loves you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. He reveres the traditions you share.<\/strong>
\nThis can be anything from a standing date night, to the understanding that you two split up at Costco to get double the samples. If he finds these traditions important, it means he\u2019s established a structure in his life that you\u2019re a necessary part of.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. He senses when you’re feeling off. <\/strong>
\nIf you\u2019ve had a bad day, watched too many \u201cColorblind man sees color for the first time,\u201d videos and you\u2019re in a funk, or even if you\u2019re just PMSing, and he senses something is wrong, he\u2019s in tune with your non-verbal cues and can pick them up from a mile away. That\u2019s real intimacy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. He respects your routines.<\/strong>
\nFor some people taking an hour-long shower is pure necessity. Or maybe you like to watch E! after dinner blissfully uninterrupted. If he accepts the routines that keep you balanced, even if he doesn\u2019t get them, it means he accepts you for who you really are, and not just when you\u2019re on your best behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. He pitches in.<\/strong>
\nSomeone who takes on housekeeping duties, or offers to run to pick up the take out, or valiantly kills the bugs you can\u2019t handle wants to be a contributing part in the structure of your life. Letting you lean on him so that your life is a little easier is a non-verbal way of telling you he loves you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. He ditches the phone when you need him to.<\/strong>
\nWe all hit a level of comfort with our partners where we know they won\u2019t be offended if we scroll through our twitter feeds at dinner. But if he can identify when you need some quality time, and is willing to put the phone down, it means he values you above whatever the internet has to offer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. He talks about your future together. <\/strong>
\nTalking about your future transitions into planning to be in it, and voicing those hopes. It shows that he\u2019s not afraid to think about you long-term, and even excited about the prospect.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. He’s into the comfortable silences.<\/strong>
\nBeing alone together is the hallmark of comfortable love. If you\u2019ve got a clinger who doesn\u2019t seem comfortable with the two of you doing your own thing while sharing the same space, (or if you\u2019re the clinger) there\u2019s a good chance he doesn\u2019t feel like there\u2019s enough love in the relationship, and needs the validation of being paid attention to all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

8. He likes to include you in mundane decision-making.<\/strong>
\nBeing in a rock solid relationship means discussing big decisions with each other. But if he still feels like he needs your input when he\u2019s purchasing sweatpants or deciding which setting to use on the dryer, it means that he values your input across the board, and that you add value to his daily life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

9. He\u2019s still playful.<\/strong>
\nOld relationships sometimes have the reputation of being dusty or joyless, but a loving seasoned relationship still has plenty moments of joy, and aren\u2019t just reduced to two people living parallel to each other. If he\u2019s still exhibiting those traits that charmed you in the beginning, it\u2019s a sign that he still feels that spark that initially drew you to each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

10. He embraces your less-than-charming habits.<\/strong>
\nEarly on, everyone is still hiding their bad habits and quirks, and when they’re finally revealed it can be a make or break moment. If you and your partner live together, or have been together for a while, there’s a good chance he\u2019s seen the gambit, and if he\u2019s still around, and not nagging you about every hairball on the bathroom floor, or the sleep-yoga you do when you\u2019ve had too much caffeine, it means he loves and accepts every fiber of your being. Even the uncute fibers.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Being in a solid and loving long-term relationship basically boils down to feeling that you\u2019re loved, regardless of how exactly your man shows it. And if you\u2019ve perused this list and you\u2019re not feeling it, it doesn\u2019t necessarily mean the love isn\u2019t there. It may mean that you and your partner just have different ways of communicating love. Every relationship and every love is different. Finding the ways you share and show your love with each other is part of what makes your relationship unique.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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