Dating is kind of the worst, right? It\u2019s exhausting, complicated, and, let\u2019s be honest, annoying. It makes you want to skip the process and start a relationship that\u2019s already eight years in when you can choose watching TV over going out, and not have to make small talk because you already know everything you\u2019ve ever wanted to know about the other person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Unfortunately, dating doesn\u2019t work like that. But what do you do if you\u2019re a person who hates dating but still longs for a serious relationship? Here are some dating tips to help you fall in love with dating (or at least like it a little bit more).<\/p>\n\n\n\n
1. Change up the convo. <\/strong> 2. Trick yourself into liking it. <\/strong> 3. Don\u2019t take it too seriously.<\/strong> 4. Wait it out. <\/strong> 5. Stop being so judgey.<\/strong> 6. Get real. <\/strong> Dating doesn\u2019t have to be something you dread. It\u2019s when you start enjoying dating as much as you enjoy your own company that you\u2019ll probably end up meeting the date that will turn into that amazing relationship.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Do you hate dating but feel like you have to do it anyway? You’re not alone. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":61,"featured_media":15503,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[884,899],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-15502","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dating-advice","category-single-life"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n
\nMost people suffer from dating burnout because they\u2019re tired of asking and answering the same questions. You know the ones: \u201cWhat do you do for a living?\u201d \u201cWhere did you grow up?\u201d \u201cWhere did you go to school?\u201d Snoooooze. Instead of repeating the basic boring topics, switch things up. Be quirky with something like, \u201cWhat\u2019s your fave flavor of cheese and why?\u201d Or dare to dig deep with, \u201cWhat was one of your proudest moments of your life?\u201d Change it up, and you might change your attitude.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nYou hate dating because you hate dating. Meaning, instead of repeating to yourself how much you hate dating, flip the tired script in your head. Brains love making patterns, so if you keep telling your brain that you hate dating, it will look for evidence to support that notion. However, if you start telling yourself how enjoyable dating is, and how you look forward to meeting new people, then you will start feeling, and seeing, what you\u2019re putting out there. Create a new story, and you might find yourself a new, happy ending.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nOn a related note, people who are successful and happy with their dating life seem to have a certain lightness about the whole ordeal. They don\u2019t sweat the small stuff. If the date doesn\u2019t work out, they tend to think, \u201cOh well! Onto the next one.\u201d Or not. They date when they feel like dating, and take a break when they want to. Their lives don’t revolve around dating, which means their approach to dating is one of ease and fun.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nA lot of us cling to a person who\u2019s probably more meh than awesome because we\u2019re so done with the dating process. We think, \u201cWell, they\u2019re good enough. At least I don\u2019t have to date anymore!\u201d Don\u2019t do this. You\u2019re just setting yourself up for failure and an eventual return to the dating pool anyway. (Not to mention heartbreak and sadness, and even more frustration.) Instead, be patient. Try to see the bigger picture of dating, which is to find the perfect match for you, not one who will just do. Remember: there isn\u2019t a time clock. You will meet the person when you\u2019ve given yourself the time and space to enjoy the process.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nIt\u2019s easier to come up with reasons why not to continue seeing someone than to see them again, especially if they don\u2019t cross off all your boxes or they remind you of your ex. You might think that being super selective is helping you out in the long run (like potential heartbreak), but it\u2019s actually causing you to be more anxious and negative. By resolving to be more in the moment with your date and attempting to see their good qualities, you might find yourself having fun and liking someone new despite yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nConventional dating wisdom tells us we need to play games, look for signs, and adhere to a set of rules in order to snare a new partner. This not only puts out a false impression of yourself, but also makes dating so unnecessarily complicated. Manipulating and strategizing is exhausting. Instead, try flowing with the natural rhythm of the rapport with your date, and acting from your most natural impulses. \u201cJust be yourself\u201d might sound trite, but there’s nothing more attractive, and easy, than being you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n