Dates are only as fun as you make them. I strongly believe that. If you want to have a fun and successful first date, pay close attention to these three things\u2014choosing the right location and activity, having a positive attitude and open-mind, and making the conversation engaging. To help you achieve this, let me tell you about a fun date I went on recently\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It was a beautiful day. There wasn\u2019t a single cloud in the sky and the temperature was in the mid-to-high 70s. We had planned to grab coffee at a local caf\u00e9, but because it was so nice out, we decided to head to the lake instead. <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Pick an activity that interests both of you at a location where you both feel comfortable. So yes, this entails asking your date how they feel about the activity and location beforehand versus telling them where to meet you. If you\u2019re not sure what type of date to plan, present your date with a few options. So, if you like to hike, drink, or visit a great caf\u00e9 (like I do), present them with these three options and you\u2019ll immediately be able to gauge their level of interest and comfort, and then go from there. This also shows your date that you care about them, as you\u2019re taking their interests into account and engaging them in the planning process. Furthermore, learn to be flexible when planning a first date. When you\u2019re not flexible, your date will pick up on it and feel less comfortable around you. The best first dates are the ones where things just flow, and this starts with an open-mind and a spontaneous spirit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n As I was getting ready for the date, I listened to songs that I knew would elevate my mood, and then went over to my favorite local bakery to pick up some almond croissants to snack on at the lake. So it\u2019s safe to say that I was in a great mood before heading to the lake. I also made sure to try and keep an open-mind and be as friendly as I could be on the date. <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Go on first dates with a goal of making a new friend, not to meet your soul mate. A lot people make the mistake of approaching first dates like interviews to land a relationship. When you do this, you\u2019re not only putting too much pressure on yourself and your date, you\u2019re setting yourself up for disappointment, which in turn takes the fun out of dating. Do this instead\u2014say one of childhood friends who lives in a different city tells you that one of their friends is visiting your town and wants you to meet them\u2014treat your date like they\u2019re a friend of a friend. This will guarantee to put you a little more at ease (and you\u2019ll be a little less judgmental too) when getting to know your date, which allows for a better date flow.<\/p>\n\n\n\n