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Feeling nervous before a date? It\u2019s okay, first date nerves are totally normal, and we\u2019ve all been there. It\u2019s easy to tumble down a rabbit hole worrying about what to wear, what to talk about, and how to act on a first date. If you\u2019re feeling anxious<\/a>, there are some things you can do to restore calm. Check out our top 10 tips below!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How to Get Over First Date Nerves: 10 Tips <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

1. Plan a simple date<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes, going on an exciting, adrenaline-fueled date is fun, but an intricately planned activity is by no means mandatory, especially on a first date. In fact, sometimes it can be\u2026a bit much. If you tend to feel anxious before a date<\/a>, it\u2019s okay to keep things simple. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Going on a coffee date<\/a>, grabbing drinks, or meeting for dinner are all perfect first date ideas<\/a> and they take a bit of the pressure off. A walk around somewhere beautiful is always a winner – the scenery and the walk itself will give you plenty to talk about.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Make yourself comfortable<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re already nervous for a date, breaking in a pair of brand-new heels or trying to squeeze in a workout beforehand will only complicate things more. If you\u2019re prone to first date nerves, you can find small ways to make yourself more comfortable from the start. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Choose a familiar date spot, wear something you feel good in, and allow plenty of time to arrive. If you take control of the things you can<\/em> control, you\u2019ll be in a much better place before the date even starts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Do something you like beforehand<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Keeping yourself occupied and clearing your mind<\/a> will move your thoughts away from your first date nerves. Go for a run, bake cookies, or listen to your favorite song on repeat. Whatever it is, just make sure it\u2019s something positive that you enjoy!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Change your perspective<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

See if you can transform your nerves into confidence. Think of it this way: Getting the date is the hardest part of dating, and you\u2019ve already aced that. Now, all you have to do is enjoy it. Pretty impressive of you, huh?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Set realistic expectations<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your first date might go down in history as the best first date of all time. It could be a sweet story you sell to movie executives and one day tell your grandchildren. Or it might go terribly. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

We don\u2019t say this to make you more nervous, but to preemptively combat first date nerves. When you acknowledge that your first date won\u2019t necessarily be a hit, it can be oddly calming. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. Give yourself a mini pep talk and repeat as needed<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hey, self. You look great! Remember, this is just a first date. They happen every single day. There\u2019s no need to be nervous. Your date is just a person. If you hit it off, awesome! But if you don\u2019t, that\u2019s ok too. You\u2019re already doing great because they agreed to go on a date with you. So try to relax and be yourself. Did I mention that you look great? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. Or, get a pep talk from a friend<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sometimes, you just need to hear it from someone else in order for it to sink in.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

8. Focus on your date instead of yourself<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

And listen to what they\u2019re saying. The more time you spend getting to know your date, the less time you\u2019ll have to worry about why you\u2019re nervous or what could go wrong.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

9. Be yourself<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Like we said, your date is already interested in you. That\u2019s why they\u2019re on a date with you \u2013 to get to know more about the person who caught their eye. If you\u2019re feeling nervous, remember that the hard part is technically already over. Then, just keep being you and see where it goes. It\u2019s a recipe for success.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

10. Breathe<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

This is one of the most valuable steps in learning how to calm first date nerves. When in doubt, pause and take three deep breaths. We promise your date won\u2019t even notice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Put Your Focus on Connecting<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re feeling first date nerves, you\u2019re not alone. It happens to just about everyone. In fact, we bet your date is nervous too and probably hoping that you don\u2019t notice. But, online dating in 2022<\/a> is all about relaxing and focusing on the person you\u2019re connecting with. This will really help to make sure that you get the most out of the experience. Good luck!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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