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When I joined my first dating site a couple years ago, I felt like I was lost in a sea of unwanted attention. I didn\u2019t know how to turn down the \u201csups\u201d and \u201cheys\u201d in my inbox, so I just responded to everyone. And I quickly learned why it\u2019s so tempting to ghost someone (stop communication without telling him or her why) while online dating. I wasted a lot of time on forgettable conversations and the same pick-up lines because I was waiting for some stranger to throw me a lifeline instead of simply swimming for myself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What I learned from that experience was this: When navigating online dating, the most successful women plot their own course. I know it\u2019s tempting for single women to sit back and play defense while waiting for their Prince Charming to come knocking, but being proactive can save them a lot of time and headache in the long run.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here are six practical online dating tips for women:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Have realistic expectations.
\n<\/strong>As much as singles wish there were a magical algorithm-based shortcut to love, the truth is you have to do some legwork to get a date. Online dating makes it easier to find potential love interests, but no website or app can gift wrap a happily-ever-after for you. You have to use those high-tech tools to showcase your charming self and get your crush\u2019s attention.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Single women should expect to do their part in the wooing process. That means knowing what you want, being an engaging conversationalist, and, yes, even sending the dreaded first message to someone you like. Although men are more likely to send the first message on most dating platforms, women actually get better results than men do when they have the courage to start the conversation and show interest from the get go. Female online daters are 2.5 times more likely to receive a response<\/a> to a first message than men are, so go ahead and initiate a chat next time someone catches your eye. The odds are in your favor!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Ask around.
\n<\/strong>Anyone new to the online dating scene shouldn\u2019t be too quick to commit to the first dating platform you see. Many brand new apps or free dating sites don\u2019t offer a safe and scam-free environment for women. Ask your friends which dating sites they\u2019ve used and which ones they\u2019d recommend. Search online for full reviews of the top dating apps<\/a> written by dating experts. Look into customer testimonials, membership demographics, and any other information you can find before deciding which dating sites or apps are best for you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Add more than one photo.
\n<\/strong>On a dating site, a selfie speaks a thousand words. You don\u2019t want yours to say, \u201cI use Snapchat too much\u201d or \u201cI took this photo in my car and put zero effort into my profile.\u201d You should have at least one non-blurry, unfiltered photo of yourself on your dating profile, but more is always better because it shows you\u2019re a real person with many facets to your personality. Your photos are often your first impression while online dating, so make the most of it and showcase what makes you who you are.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

According to Zoosk\u2019s internal stats, four is the magic number when it comes to online dating photos. Members who uploaded four or more photos received the most messages<\/u><\/a>. That\u2019s right, you can get guys to message you more just by adding another selfie to your profile. If you have pictures of yourself traveling abroad or doing something awesome, use them to catch a guy\u2019s attention and make your dating profile stand out. Make sure your face is clearly visible so people know you have nothing to hide.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Don\u2019t rush but don\u2019t take forever.
\n<\/strong>Every woman has her own pace when it comes to dating. Some people are anxious to skip the small talk and start planning a date right away while others are content to spend months trading messages before even mentioning meeting in person. You should find the middle ground between these extremes so you don\u2019t wind up on a date with someone you haven\u2019t vetted at all and don\u2019t waste your time talking to someone who has no intention of ever meeting you. I typically wait a week before agreeing to a date because that helps me weed out flaky guys who can\u2019t keep up an interesting conversation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If it\u2019s been a week of chatting and he hasn\u2019t asked you out, ask him out yourself! Say something like, \u201cWe should continue this conversation in person,\u201d or \u201cAre you doing anything this weekend?\u201d His response will let you know what his intentions are, and then you can either go on a date or move on to someone else.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Be authentic.
\n<\/strong>Don\u2019t lie on your dating profile. Don\u2019t even fib. The whole point of joining a dating platform is to find someone who likes you\u2014maybe even someone who loves you. So be you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s common for women to lie about their weight and age. Single women may want to hide their curves and their gray hairs while online, but guys are going to see them in person eventually and then feel cheated and deceived. That\u2019s not a good first impression. If you\u2019re honest about who you are, you\u2019ll wind up in better quality relationships based on a real connection.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. Don\u2019t be discouraged.
\n<\/strong>Online dating is basically a numbers game. You might hit it off with someone right away or you might have to talk to dozens upon dozens of guys before finding the one you\u2019re looking for. It can be frustrating to continually get your hopes up for someone who turns out to be so<\/em> not worth it, but giving in to your frustration isn\u2019t going to help you succeed the next time. Just keep going and keep it light. Dating is supposed to be fun, so don\u2019t take it too hard if things don\u2019t work out the first or second or hundredth time. You can always conduct a new search and try again tomorrow.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

My online dating journey wasn\u2019t always smooth sailing, but I soon found my way once I learned how to politely reject guys I wasn\u2019t interested in and pursue the guys I wanted to get to know. Bottom line: You can\u2019t wait for your dreamboat to come to you\u2014you have to make an effort to swipe, like, favorite, and message your way to an actual date.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you go into a dating site or app with the right attitude and frame yourself in a positive light, you\u2019re going to seem more attractive and have more fun throughout the online dating process. Once you join a reputable dating platform, you have advanced matching and search tools at your disposal, so all you need is the self-confidence and the nerve to propel yourself to the type of guys you\u2019re interested in meeting. As long as you\u2019re enjoying yourself, that\u2019s what matters most. Good luck!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Amber Brooks is a Contributing Editor at DatingAdvice.com. When she was growing up, her family teased her for being “boy crazy,” but she preferred to think of herself as a budding dating expert. As an English major in college, Amber honed her communication skills to write clearly, knowledgeably, and passionately about topics that interest her. Now with a background in writing, Amber brings her tireless wit and relatable experiences to DatingAdvice.com.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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