Dating can be expensive; and it’s not just the money you spend. It\u2019s about the investment of your heart, your time, and your emotional energy. And you definitely don\u2019t want to waste another minute on the wrong person. But how can you know if you\u2019re dealing with a Mr. Wrong before the relationship goes too far?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You deserve someone who wants you totally and completely, because you\u2019re worth it. If you find yourself stressing out about your new relationship, here are a few signs that the man you\u2019re with isn\u2019t worth your time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
1. He<\/strong> lies or exaggerates the truth. If you can\u2019t be sure that your date is being honest you’ll always doubt him. And there\u2019s nothing more exasperating than a guy who exaggerates the truth. For example, your date tells you he\u2019s the VP of his company, only later you find out he\u2019s a part-time salesman on commission. Or maybe your date boasts that he received a football scholarship to Notre Dame but had to turn it down because his dad was very ill. Turns out his dad was ill and he was accepted to Notre Dame, but he never even played football in high school and no scholarship was ever offered.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It\u2019s true that some people may stretch the truth in order to impress you, but habitual lying and a pattern of deception are far from healthy behaviors<\/p>\n\n\n\n 2. Your date is a financial mess. He promises you the world but delivers nothing. He is an expert at justifying, explaining, and defending his position. He\u2019s so good at it that you start doubting your reaction. Please, take a look at how many times this guy lets you down and stop making excuses for him. In baseball, it\u2019s three strikes and you are out. How many strikes does it take for you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n 4. He never plans ahead. 5. He\u2019s selfish. 6. He doesn\u2019t want you to meet his friends or family. 7. He never calls when he says he will. 8. He gets too serious too quickly. 9. The relationship is one sided. 10. Commitment isn\u2019t in his vocabulary. You deserve a great relationship!<\/p>\n\n\n\n Are any of these red flags familiar to you? Are you experiencing them right now or have you experienced them in the past? Think of them as flashing lights alerting you to the fact that no matter how charming or attractive your date is actions always speak louder than words. I know how hard it is to meet someone, but staying with Mr. Wrong will eventually lead to heartbreak.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Always remember that you\u2019re worth it and that you deserve a loving, committed, equal partner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Fran Greene LCSW is a nationally renowned relationship expert. Flirting is her hobby, love is her passion, and her dream is for you to have a loving relationship! She has a private practice working with singles who want to maximize their social life and couples who want to improve their relationship. And she’s also an accomplished online dating coach. To learn more about how to get back into the dating world check out her newest book Dating Again with Courage & Confidence<\/a>. She is also the author of The Flirting Bible<\/a>. <\/i><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Does your relationship seem one-sided? It may be time to walk away. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":139,"featured_media":15936,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[886],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-15933","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dating-advice-women"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n
\n<\/strong>All meaningful relationships are based on mutual trust. If you can’t trust the person you\u2019re with, everything else is meaningless. It doesn’t matter if he\u2019s drop dead gorgeous (even if you\u2019ve never dated such a hunk), has a great job (even if you\u2019ve always wanted to date a doctor), or takes you on great vacations (even if you could never have afforded to go to those fabulous resorts on your own), a man who does not honor his word has no value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>Your date takes you out for expensive dinners and showers you with extravagant gifts. Wow,<\/em> you think, This guy is so different than the stingy boyfriends of my past. <\/em>Simultaneously, he asks if he could borrow money, which he promises to pay back when he gets paid but he never does. He has an expensive car yet he’s driving on bald tires because he can’t afford new ones. It’s your birthday and he says I wanted to get you a really nice gift but money is tight, so if you don’t mind I’ll get you a gift next week. Sadly, you never get anything. Financial fitness is essential for a healthy relationship. Irresponsible spending is a warning sign that this guy isn\u2019t ready for something serious.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>If your date has broken promises to you over and over again you do not ignore it. Do any of these sound familiar?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>He calls you at the last minute to go out. He\u2019s never sure when he\u2019ll be available and thinks you\u2019re crazy for wanting to know when you\u2019re going to see each other. Your plans together constantly change to meet his needs. And yet, when it comes to his friends, sports, and work his life is scheduled weeks ahead. Do you want to be your date’s last priority? Feeling special and important is crucial for a relationship to flourish. We all have busy lives, yet we make the time for what\u2019s important. A guy who\u2019s into you knows that if he wants to see you he has to book you ahead of time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>If it’s all about him, all the time, he\u2019s being selfish. When you\u2019re dating someone who\u2019s selfish there\u2019s very little room for your voice to be heard or your needs to be met. Even picking a movie or a restaurant becomes a battle. What does a bank account and an ideal relationship have in common? The more you deposit the greater the return. Men who understand the value of compromise know that the more you put in, the more you get. And the more you give the more the interest gets compounded. If compromise, concession, finding middle ground, and negotiation don\u2019t exist in your relationship, then it\u2019s time for you to give him his walking papers.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>If your date is genuinely interested in you he\u2019ll want everyone to meet you\u2014and that includes his friends, family, and coworkers. He\u2019ll also want to show you off at weddings, work, and social events. If none of this is happening, and your relationship is exclusive, it\u2019s time to find out what the deal is. Is he dating someone else, or is a future with you out of the question? Why are you being kept a secret? If you bring it up and he says, sure I want you to meet my family and friends but I\u2019m not ready, it’s time to ask yourself if you\u2019re ok with that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>Unless there’s a natural disaster or a major catastrophe there\u2019s no excuse for not calling. Okay, his battery went dead, or he misplaced his phone, or he overslept\u2026 it happens. But, does he always have an excuse and the only thing you can count on is that he doesn’t call when he says he will? A guy who is into you will call you when he says he will. And also when you least expect it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>Picking out china after one date, going on a vacation together after two dates, or moving in together after three dates is outrageous. Does your date want you or does he desperately want a relationship with anyone? Don’t be misled by this whirlwind. When it\u2019s too good to be true, it usually is.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>One of the most revealing signs that you’re with Mr. Wrong is that you\u2019re working way too hard to make the relationship work. Do you find yourself putting in all the effort to please your date, doing all the planning, and constantly making sure that he\u2019s happy? It\u2019s exhausting when you\u2019re the only person invested in making the relationship work. There\u2019s no way to sustain a relationship like this, and it\u2019s up to you to cut your losses before he does.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>You meet this great guy\u2014You really like him and he does all the right things, he calls when he says he will, takes you out on great dates, he\u2019s affectionate, tells you he really likes you, wants you to meet his friends, and you\u2019re on cloud nine. Then you tell him that you\u2019ve never been happier and he stops calling. When you ask him what happened he says that he wants to slow things down. You give him his space and hope for the best. Then he tells you he misses you and things start getting better and better again. You\u2019re back on cloud nine and tell him that your feelings are growing for him. His immediate response is to tell you he\u2019s not ready for anything serious and that he\u2019s feeling pressured. Although the chemistry is right and you feel that you\u2019re a perfect fit, if he\u2019s not willing to commit to you in the way you need, he\u2019s not right for you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n