Ending a relationship is difficult\u2014to say the least. We feel emotionally exhausted, insecure, and lonely. No wonder so many of us decide to start rebound dating shortly after. On one hand, rebound relationships are fun, definitely an ego booster, and it\u2019s a great way to disengage from your ex, as well as have sex on the regular. On the other hand, although rebounds, by nature, aren\u2019t supposed to be serious, we usually find ourselves becoming attached, and most times, hearts get broken again\u2014which is what we were trying to overcome in the first place. And then there are those rare occasions when your rebound actually turns out to be your soulmate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Deciding to be in one or not is just as confusing as rebound themselves. Good thing we laid out the pros and cons of rebound relationships. Here\u2019s everything you to need to consider before you get involved.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
PRO:<\/strong> It\u2019s Fun. CON: The Attraction is Temporary<\/strong>. PRO: It Makes the Transition Easier<\/strong>. CON: It’s Only a Temporary Distraction<\/strong>. PRO: <\/strong>It Gives You the Opportunity to Discover What You Want. CON: <\/strong>You\u2019re Not Over Your Ex Completely. Bottom line: rebounds are tricky. But what makes them easier is being on the same page as your rebound. Communicate what your needs are. Set your boundaries. Be clear about how you feel, and whether or not you\u2019re looking to be casual or serious.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Yes, there are those rare blue moon instances in which a rebound relationship could develop into a long-term, committed relationship. But what really helps those instances, and all relationships moving forward, is doing the emotional work. That means spending the time to feel your feelings and figuring out what went wrong in your previous relationship, so you can make your new relationship better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Of course it doesn\u2019t hurt to have some fun along the way\u2014as long as both parties are aware that it\u2019s strictly play, that is.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" The pros and cons of dating on the rebound. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":61,"featured_media":15963,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[884,973],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-15961","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dating-advice","category-moving-on"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n
\n<\/strong>Sex, enjoyable dates, as well as feeling admired and desired with few to zero strings attached\u2014what\u2019s not love? After the upheaval of broken relationship, nothing beats a light-hearted romp with someone who adores you, or at least thinks you\u2019re hot.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nOf course you think your rebound is better than your ex\u2014by the end of everything, you couldn\u2019t stand the sight of them. Be honest, everyone is better than your ex at this point. And because you\u2019re so busy having fun, it\u2019s hard to see beyond that. However, if things with your rebound continue longer and get deeper, then you run the risk of receiving a huge reality check. Maybe your rebound isn\u2019t that great or cute after all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nGoing from a long-term relationship, including a marriage, to singledom is, to say the least, life-altering. Which is why having someone help you navigate these strange waters is so comforting. Thanks to rebound dating, you get to discover what it\u2019s like to finally be with someone new, emotionally and physically. You feel safe and comforted. A rebound helps you feel confident and hopeful about dating again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nUntil you take the time to fully process your feelings from your previous relationship, your rebound relationship is only serving as a (albeit fun) distraction from the nitty gritty stuff. After being with someone for so long, you can\u2019t simply erase that experience from your mind. We\u2019re not living in the Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind. <\/em>Which means it\u2019s necessary to do the work\u2014the healing, the therapy, the space\u2014to fully get over what happened so you can truly move on from your ex.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>The best way to figure out what you want in a new partner and relationship is by trial and error. You know that you don\u2019t want your ex, but that experience doesn\u2019t fully encompass everything you need and desire from a healthy, happy relationship. By casually dating other people, you get to figure out which personality traits and characteristics you are truly compatible with, and which ones you are not. You get to choose what\u2019s a deal breaker rather than \u201changing in there,\u201d waiting for something to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>Oh sure, you think your ex is grade A jerk but that doesn\u2019t mean you\u2019re fully over him or her. Nor does that mean you have completely forgotten the good times you shared together. You might even find yourself romanticizing about \u201cwhat was\u201d and maybe even fantasizing about what still \u201ccould be\u201d. Rebounds are quick relief from heartache, and if you haven\u2019t been able to fully allow yourself to grieve for your past relationship and your ex, then you\u2019re not being fair to yourself or to your rebound relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n