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Generally, women have an advantage over men while online dating. Especially when it comes to taking the initiative and making the first move. When single women send the initial message to start a conversation on a dating app, they are four times more likely to get a response than men<\/a> are. But don\u2019t let that go to your head\u2014getting a response from a guy you\u2019re really interested in can still be tough. And when you\u2019re staring at that blank text space where your amazing message should be, it\u2019s not always easy to know what to say.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A girl can drive herself crazy continually checking her dating profile and waiting for a notification. It\u2019s like the new waiting by the phone, and it can make you start to doubt every word in every message you send. Was saying \u201chi\u201d too generic? Was asking about his dog too personal? Was the message too short? Was it too long? Maybe he\u2019s just not that into you\u2014but why not?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re wondering how to talk to men online, here are a few handy tips.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Pick the right dating app or site.
\n<\/strong>First of all, you have to make sure you\u2019re in the right place to find romance. Some niche sites have relatively few dating prospects in your area, so the silence may not be your fault\u2014it might be because the dating profiles you\u2019re messaging are inactive. That\u2019s a bummer, but it\u2019s easily remedied. Just sign up for a dating platform with a large and active membership base. Do your homework by looking at customer ratings and reading expert reviews of popular dating apps, so you can join a legit dating platform where guys will be happy to meet you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Be authentic, upbeat, and interesting.
\n<\/strong>Everyone has a story to tell. Your life history, your opinions, your personality all make you you<\/em>, and that\u2019s something worth sharing with a date. You don\u2019t have to write an autobiography on your profile or in your messages, but definitely reference the best bits. If you\u2019ve been out of the country on a  trip or for study abroad, mention that in passing. If you have a particular talent, bring it up in conversation as seamlessly as you can. You want him asking follow-up questions and wondering what else you have going on.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Guys often like to pursue, so you probably won\u2019t have to work too hard to get his attention. Just make sure you have interesting things to say once you\u2019ve got it. As Heath Ledger said in \u201cCasanova\u201d\u2014be the flame, not the moth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Keep it light.
\n<\/strong>This is a good tip for guys and gals longing for long-term love. Don\u2019t bring up commitment too early in the conversation. Even if you hear wedding bells ringing in your head, play it cool or he\u2019ll have warning alarms ringing in his. It reeks of desperation to talk about meeting parents, going on trips together, or otherwise riding off into the sunset when you\u2019ve just met someone online. Let all that unfold naturally. The time to talk about your relationship is after two or three great dates\u2014it isn\u2019t after two or three messages on a dating app or website.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Ask questions that get him talking.
\n<\/strong>This tip is pretty straightforward, but it\u2019s worth noting. If you want to get a guy to talk to you, give him something to say. Ask questions about his life, hobbies, aspirations, and opinions. If you can pull something specific from his dating profile\u2014\u201cI see you like Marvel comics, what did you think of the latest movie?\u201d\u2014all the better!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If his profile doesn\u2019t have many personal details, you can ask general conversation starters<\/a> to get the ball rolling. This\u2019ll help you get to know each other and find common ground. Try to strike a good conversational balance between the two of you. I\u2019d recommend ending every message with at least one question; that way, you hold up your end of the conversation while giving him things to say back.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Stay positive.
\n<\/strong>Look, we all feel frustrated, impatient, cynical, and down every once in a while, but unfortunately that black mood isn\u2019t going to make dates line up at your door. People want to be around people who make them feel good. A little sarcasm and dark humor is fine. A consistently negative attitude is not. Instead of complaining about the dating scene, the weather, your job, your family, or other parts of life, focus on the positive things\u2014your passions, your hopes, your bffs\u2014so your date will see your best and most attractive side.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the dating world, the getting-to-know-you phase is about making your date smile and feel good about themselves. Those happy feelings are going to make them want to talk to you more and more frequently.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You don\u2019t have to act like Pollyanna or look like Margot Robbie to attract date prospects online\u2014just be yourself and keep these tips in mind. If you approach online dating with a light-hearted attitude, you\u2019re bound to start meeting single men<\/a> who you can really connect with. Of course, getting a guy to talk to you isn\u2019t always as simple as typing \u201cHi\u201d and pressing send. Sometimes you need to catch your crush\u2019s eye by asking good questions, telling interesting stories, and being friendly and flirty in every message.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Amber Brooks is a Contributing Editor at DatingAdvice.com. When she was growing up, her family teased her for being \u201cboy crazy,\u201d but she preferred to think of herself as a budding dating expert. As an English major in college, Amber honed her communication skills to write clearly, knowledgeably, and passionately about topics that interest her. Now with a background in writing, Amber brings her tireless wit and relatable experiences to DatingAdvice.com.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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