Do you fall in love hard and fast? Me too. I can feel strongly about someone pretty quick and falling in love too easily is something I’m very familiar with. I once went exclusive with a boyfriend in one weekend and a month later we even went away on a romantic European vacation. And were we really happy and in love? Not quite. We broke up a month later.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Falling head over feels at record speed is usually the M.O. of a) someone who\u2019s been out of the dating game for a while b) deeply sensitive or c) obsessed with romantic quotes and pins on Pinterest… or all of the above.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Even though there’s nothing wrong with falling in love and allowing yourself to be vulnerable with someone new, falling in love with someone too quickly can end in a whirlwind of crushed feelings and dashed dreams. Because love is such a powerful emotion, it\u2019s important to protect your heart and make sure you\u2019re falling for someone who\u2019s not only falling for you too but who\u2019s also going to catch you in a committed loving and healthy relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Which is why taking things slowly and establishing boundaries are important to do when you first start to date someone. A healthy relationship involves two secure, independent people who aren\u2019t in a rush to make something happen because they are patient enough to let<\/em> something happen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If you\u2019re someone who’s always falling in love too easily, here are some ways to avoid it:<\/p>\n\n\n\n 1. Be honest with yourself.<\/strong> 2. Create boundaries<\/strong>. 3. Check in with your friends and family<\/strong>. 4. Recognize the red flags<\/strong>. 5. Be the captain of your emotions.<\/strong> Love is a wonderful thing. It\u2019s even more wonderful when it\u2019s not only shared between two people, but when it\u2019s earned. Falling in love with someone\u2014like real love\u2014takes time, and that\u2019s what makes it so meaningful. Establishing boundaries and taking things slowly doesn\u2019t mean you don\u2019t care about the other person\u2014it just means you care about your own heart too. Remember: slow and steady wins the race.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" If you tend to fall hard and fast, here are some things you can do to slow yourself down. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":61,"featured_media":16487,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[884,987,891],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-16486","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dating-advice","category-love","category-relationship-advice"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n
\nSure, it\u2019s super exciting to fall for someone new. There are romantic dates to look forward to and physical intimacy and, sometimes, literal fireworks (if you\u2019re lucky). But all these fancy nights don\u2019t make for true love. Take a moment to decipher your feelings\u2014are you truly in love with this person or are you just excited about all the things you\u2019re doing together? Checking in with yourself, especially during the first few months of dating someone new, is crucial to keeping your head straight. By the way, it\u2019s perfectly okay to admit to yourself that you\u2019re not in love with the new person you\u2019re dating. It doesn\u2019t mean you won\u2019t be! It just means you’re not yet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nBoundaries are important for every relationship, which is why establishing them as soon as possible is beneficial for the longevity of your relationship. Plus, it helps to keep your heart in check. Constantly spending time with your partner will make anyone feel as if they\u2019re meant to be because you\u2019re practically living in a bubble together. Taking time apart is not only healthy, but will also help you get perspective on the direction of the relationship. In the beginning of a relationship, seeing each other once or twice a week is both normal and healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nYour loved ones know you best. Let them know that you\u2019re trying to take things slow with dating and ask them to keep an eye on how you\u2019re doing with your free flow of feelings. Every couple of weeks or so, check in with them and talk to them about your relationship. Ask them outright for their honest opinion on whether you\u2019re falling too hard or being unrealistic with your expectations. Try not to get defensive. Remember, this is supposed to help you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nBeing able to see and take note of red flags is a huge thing, especially in new relationships. It\u2019s so easy to ignore your new love interest’s flaws because you\u2019re just so excited about them and everything they might represent to you, like marriage or weekend getaways. But no one is perfect. Someone’s flaws might be acceptable to you, but some might not be. This is why it’s important to be honest with yourself and to check in with your friends and family.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nIn the end, no one can control your emotions but yourself. And you can <\/em>control your emotions. Though we tend to think that feelings, like love, can hit us from out of the blue, we can choose how we regulate our feelings. Just because we think we feel something doesn\u2019t mean it needs to be true. Start by seeing the bigger picture of your relationship\u2014have you two just started dating? How well do you know this person? It\u2019s also a good idea to look at your emotional triggers. What do you think causes you to fall hard and fast? Is it because you\u2019re scared of being alone? Mastering your emotions will help you keep perspective on what\u2019s really developing between you and your new partner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n