{"id":16680,"date":"2018-05-23T01:00:35","date_gmt":"2018-05-23T08:00:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=16680"},"modified":"2021-05-31T12:38:05","modified_gmt":"2021-05-31T19:38:05","slug":"online-dating-tips-for-men","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/dating-advice\/dating-advice-men\/online-dating-tips-for-men\/","title":{"rendered":"10 Online Dating Tips for Men"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

I\u2019ve been online dating for a while now, and I\u2019ve seen guys make all kinds of rookie mistakes in the process of asking me out. Like the time one guy asked for my phone number after we\u2019d been chatting, and I gave it to him thinking we could continue our conversation over text. Nope. He called me, and I dropped my phone like it was a spider crawling up my arm. If you\u2019re new to online dating, you might not know that there aren\u2019t many universal rules about online dating, but one is never calling someone without asking permission first is definitely one of them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But it\u2019s easy to make these kinds of rookie mistakes while online dating. Especially if you\u2019re new to it or if you\u2019re used to more traditional forms of dating.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here are 10 smart online dating tips for men:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Choose the right site(s).
\n<\/strong>Singles today have so many options to help them meet people online. There are literally thousands of dating websites and apps available for every type of person. All you have to do is figure out which one is right for you. You can read articles, forums, and reviews<\/a> or ask your single friends about their favorite dating websites to help you choose the best dating app or site. Most platforms offer a free signup, download, or trial period so you can get the lay of the land pretty quickly and affordably.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Add personality.
\n<\/strong>Creating a dating profile is an important part of online dating because it\u2019s how you introduce yourself to potential love interests. It\u2019s your r\u00e9sum\u00e9. This isn\u2019t something you should breeze through without thinking about. Your dating profile should offer a good representation of who you are, what you like, and what you\u2019re looking for. Not sure how it\u2019s done? You can look up online dating profile examples<\/a> to give you an idea of what to say to stand out.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Be specific.
\n<\/strong>Sure, it\u2019s easy to copy\/paste the same, \u201cyou have a lovely smile\u201d message to every woman you match with, but that\u2019s not going to yield many responses. Because online daters, especially women, see that sort of thing all the time, and it\u2019s not very flattering to receive a generic flirty message.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you can\u2019t take two seconds to read the person\u2019s profile, then why should he or she take the time to answer you? What reason have you given them to believe you\u2019re worth it? You don\u2019t have to spend forever memorizing the profile and crafting a perfect message\u2014something simple like, \u201cI love horror movies too, what\u2019s your favorite?\u201d or \u201cHey, cute dog, is it yours?\u201d will do just fine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Respect boundaries.
\n<\/strong>Everyone sets different boundaries to keep themselves safe and sane as they meet people online. Some people are more lenient, and others are more strict. It depends on what they\u2019re comfortable with, and that\u2019s naturally going to differ. One person may be happy to chat for a couple minutes and then get drinks that night, but another may need some more time before agreeing to go out.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There\u2019s no set rule for when it\u2019s OK to ask for a phone number or a date, so just tread carefully and don\u2019t take your crush\u2019s consent for granted. She doesn\u2019t know you yet and vise versa.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Ask questions.
\n<\/strong>If you\u2019ve explored online dating at all, then you know that people sometimes disappear on you. You think everything is going splendidly, and then the conversation just stops without warning or apology. Ghosting has become so commonplace that Merriam Webster added it to its dictionary. If you want to keep someone from losing interest in your conversation, then you\u2019d better make sure you\u2019re giving the other person plenty of things to say.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This is pretty basic, but it needs to be said. You have to ask questions to keep a conversation going. After you\u2019ve talked about your job, your hobbies, your goals, and all that good stuff, you should throw the ball back in your crush\u2019s court by saying, \u201cHow about you?\u201d or asking a good personal question<\/a>. If they still disappear on you, at least you\u2019ll know you did everything you could to keep them engaged.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. Focus on the positive.
\n<\/strong>When you\u2019re just getting to know someone, you should keep the conversation light, if you can. Stick to feel-good topics and give a wide berth to anything that could be considered a downer. That means no disparaging an ex, talking down about yourself, or ranting about politics. Saying pessimistic or mean-spirited things isn\u2019t going to endear you to very many people. Singles want to be around people who make them feel good (don\u2019t you?) so try to accentuate the positive, at least for the first few days, as you establish a rapport with your crush.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. Make a move.
\n<\/strong>No, men don\u2019t have<\/em> to make the first move. But, if you\u2019re ready to take things up a notch, then you should go for it rather than wait around. It\u2019s going to save time in the long run.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you\u2019ve flirted enough to establish that there\u2019s something there, you should come right out and see if that person is interested in going on a date. It\u2019s always great if you can give a reason why you\u2019re attracted to that person in particular, so they know they\u2019re not just another date in your calendar. And make sure you give a timeframe, as in, \u201cWould you like to go on a date this weekend?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

8. Have a plan.
\n<\/strong>I\u2019ve seen a lot of guys mess up in the planning stages of a first date. We\u2019ve both agreed to meet up, and maybe we\u2019ve even picked out a day, but then it can all fall apart with a single phrase: What should we do?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019ve asked someone out, the burden is on you to plan the date. Suggest coffee, drinks, or dinner. Ask what your date\u2019s favorite food is and then recommend a restaurant. It isn\u2019t hard to come up with first date ideas, and it\u2019s going to make you look prepared, thoughtful, and competent, which is pretty attractive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

9. Exchange numbers.
\n<\/strong>Make sure you\u2019ve exchanged numbers with your love interest before going on your first date together. This is mainly for logistical reasons. That way, you can text when you arrive at the date spot and have a way to get in touch quickly if you need to cancel or you can\u2019t find each other Exchanging numbers beforehand also takes the some of the pressure off you at the end of the date, so the only thing you have to ask is, \u201cWould you like to do this again sometime?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

10. Get offline.
\n<\/strong>Finally, the best advice I can give online daters is to remember to get offline as soon as you\u2019ve established a connection with someone. Getting to know someone in person is the only way to know for sure if you have chemistry and can make a relationship work.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Spending months talking to someone online may feel comfortable and safe, but you can\u2019t be pen pals forever. The point of online dating is to date in real life. Otherwise you\u2019re just playing pretend. So get out there and make something happen!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hayley Matthews is editor-in-chief at DatingAdvice.com, a popular site featuring advice from more than 250 dating coaches, matchmakers, and other relationship experts. In addition to expert tips and guides, the site also publishes reviews of online dating sites. When Hayley isn\u2019t writing about dating and relationships, she\u2019s listening to The Beatles or watching Harry Potter.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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