Our current dating scene is packed with countless non-committals who are just looking to hook up. If you want to separate the guys hungry for action from those hungry for love, there are a few tell-tale signs to look out for. Whether it\u2019s offline or online, there are always subtle hints that a guy\u2019s a trained romancer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Here\u2019s how to spot a player, either online or off:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
1. He comes on strong.
\n<\/b>If a guy\u2019s in a hurry to move things forward quickly, it\u2019s usually not because he wants commitment. Chances are he\u2019s just smitten with lust. Although this can happen to non-players too, the good guys will deal with their excitement in a more respectful manner and won\u2019t bring up physical intimacy right away. If you\u2019re online and he\u2019s already telling you how hot your body is or making suggestive comments, he could be testing the waters to see if you\u2019re down for a casual hookup.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Real relationships take time, patience, and investment over a long period of time. Players, on the other hand, are good at sweeping you off your feet. You may feel like he\u2019s just being flirty and fun, but if you\u2019re not looking for something casual, you may want to slow things down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
2. He says he\u2019s \u201copen\u201d to a relationship.
\n<\/b>Ladies, hear this now, loud and clear: if he says he\u2019s \u201copen\u201d to a relationship, that means he\u2019s not looking for one. This phrase is a cloudy grey-area response to hide the fact that he won\u2019t commit to you. With this response, he\u2019s cleverly saying, \u201cI\u2019m not interested in a relationship, but I\u2019m not against them in theory.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Right. If he says, \u201cI\u2019m not against vegans in theory,\u201d that doesn\u2019t mean he\u2019s going to become a vegan. It\u2019s a sly way of giving you just enough hope he will commit that you\u2019ll stick around without having him confirm it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A guy who\u2019s ready to commit will tell you clearly\u2014no cryptic code, no mixed messages. You get pure clarity because he wants to know you\u2019re ready for him too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
3. He makes sex jokes early.
\n<\/b>He may play it off as innocent but it\u2019s not. A gentleman doesn\u2019t open conversations with references to nudity, showers, or sex of any kind.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Even if he tries to cover up his comments with a cute little monkey emoji, the truth is still there in front of you. He\u2019s just testing the waters to see how many times you\u2019ll dodge his sex jokes. He\u2019s a player.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
4. He only texts you late at night.
\n<\/b>We all know this sign well. There\u2019s no exceptions. If he\u2019s only texting you after 11:00 a.m., and claims he misses you, it\u2019s not your smile he\u2019s missing. He\u2019s just fantasizing about how long it will take to get you over before he has to fish for backups.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This behavior is one of the most obvious signs he\u2019s a player. The only exception to this rule is if he\u2019s wishing you sweet dreams\u2014that\u2019s a keeper!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
5. He doesn\u2019t ask personal questions.
\n<\/b>Ever float on cloud 9 with a guy, only to realize you barely know each other? It\u2019s easy to get carried away in a new romance without stopping to notice if he truly cares. Does he know where you went to high school? About your family? About your plans and dreams? Some guys are experts at making you feel like there\u2019s a connection, even if don\u2019t know much about each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Once you get the infatuation dust out of your eyes, and see things clearly, you\u2019ll realize he cares little about getting to know you (beyond your lady regions). So if he\u2019s not asking you deep, probing questions about your life, it\u2019s because he doesn\u2019t need the answers. He\u2019s a player. Move on.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
6. He asks for sexy pics.
\n<\/b>Guys who request racy pics of you are on the hunt\u2014and it\u2019s NOT for your heart. He\u2019s seeking short-term satisfaction and he\u2019s not hiding his intentions. Don\u2019t mistake his interest in building a photo collection of you as a sign he likes you. He\u2019s a player who\u2019s looking for someone who wants to play.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
7. He gives over-the-top compliments.
\n<\/b>A guy who makes grand, over-the-top claims to impress you is aiming for short-term reward. If he barely knows you and is making comments like, \u201cYou\u2019re the perfect girl,\u201d or, \u201cI\u2019d marry you tomorrow,\u201d he\u2019s intentionally trying to bring your guard down\u2014and not in a good way. He knows that if he can create the illusion of a future, it\u2019s just as convincing and much easier than actually having to invest time and energy on building one.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
These tall tales just get you giddy and excited about the idea of potential love. But in reality, you become much more vulnerable to his game. Beware of these players and always watch his actions, not his words.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
8. He won\u2019t introduce you to his friends. <\/b>
\n<\/b>A guy\u2019s friends symbolize the people he respects. By keeping you separate from his circle of buddies, he\u2019s indirectly showing that he doesn\u2019t see you two together long-term. Since he doesn\u2019t desire a future with you, introducing you to his friends would just be futile.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
However, be warned: there are players who will introduce you to his friends. But fortunately you can detect if he\u2019s player based on his friends treat you. Are they genuinely interested in getting to know you because they\u2019ve heard so many wonderful things or do they regard you with little interest? When a guy is serious about someone, his friends will extend that respect and excitement onto you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
9. He openly mentions other women.<\/b>
\n<\/b>It\u2019s a sleaze-ball move no matter how he spins it. In the early stages and dating, complimenting other women or worse, bragging about previous conquests, shows he\u2019s not concerned about offending you or making you feel special.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Perhaps months down the road, after you\u2019ve built a trusting rapport, you can jokingly refer to celebrity crushes and such, but in the early dating stages, he should be making you feel like you\u2019re his queen. There\u2019s also a chance he\u2019s just insecure and hoping to show off, but in most cases, this behavior is also a sign he\u2019s a player.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If a guy shows these signs, he\u2019s not the commitment type; he\u2019s the one-hit-wonder type. Players are very skilled at masking their true intentions because they want to be successful seducers. Unless you\u2019re able to see the real deal, you\u2019ll continue to risk getting hurt. Protect yourself by dating carefully and selectively so you never fall for a wolf in Romeo\u2019s clothing.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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