{"id":16869,"date":"2018-06-21T01:00:41","date_gmt":"2018-06-21T08:00:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=16869"},"modified":"2024-06-28T03:24:16","modified_gmt":"2024-06-28T10:24:16","slug":"8-dating-tips-to-stay-sane-while-online-dating","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/online-dating\/8-dating-tips-to-stay-sane-while-online-dating\/","title":{"rendered":"8 Dating Tips to Stay Sane While Online Dating"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Online dating has simultaneously solved a load of our problems, while creating a pile of brand new ones. <\/span>After matching, messaging, and chatting for weeks some of us end up on a merry-go-round of blurrggghhh dates that just don’t work out. <\/span>And then we\u2019re left looking around at all our happy, coupled up friends who are getting married and popping out kids, while our love life is still at a standstill.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s no wonder so many of us lose our confidence and get burnt out. If you’re starting to feel a little crazy from all the online dating apps, back and forths, games, and disappointments sit back, take a breath, and try to get your peace of mind back.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here are eight dating tips to help you stay sane while online dating:<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Make yourself a priority.<\/b><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

<\/b>Keep yourself busy and make time for fun and indulgent things outside of your dating life. This might mean getting your hair done, treating yourself to a massage, or going on a solo retreat. Whatever your budget is, there are so many ways to show yourself love and care.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Being kind to yourself is so important when you\u2019re facing rejection, and navigating this turbulent dating sphere. <\/span>So take some time for you.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Be honest and direct.<\/b><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

<\/b>If you enjoyed the date you went on, say so. And if you were bored senseless, and couldn’t imagine yourself ever being with this person even if you were the last two people on planet earth, say so. (Using politer words, obviously).\u00a0Being dishonest is a disservice to you and your date. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t be afraid to tell someone if you enjoyed their company or you\u2019d like to see them again. So many of us are worried that our feelings won\u2019t be returned, so we hold them back and we never say the words we want to.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Everyone appreciates honesty and directness\u2014dating is confusing enough without us making it worse for ourselves. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Be your own source of happiness.<\/b><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

<\/b>Don\u2019t be that person who ditches their family, friends, or work colleagues, and bulldozes their social life for their dating one.\u00a0Dating should be one part of your life. And the thing is, when you focus on finding joy in all the other amazing areas of your life, you\u2019ll find it easier to maintain perspective when it comes to your latest dating disaster.\u00a0Don\u2019t allow online dating to rule your life, and you\u2019ll be okay.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Don\u2019t take anything personally.<\/b><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

<\/b>Some people won\u2019t like you, won\u2019t find you attractive, and won\u2019t want to be in a relationship with you. And you know what? You need to realize that\u2019s life, and be okay with that.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone ignores your message, stops speaking to you, or doesn\u2019t want to go on a second date, don\u2019t take it so personally. You have no idea who this person really is, or what\u2019s going on in their head right now. <\/span>Likewise, this person doesn\u2019t know you. They are rejecting a snapshot, made-up version of you that exists solely in their head. <\/span>That\u2019s not even rejection really, is it?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Set reasonable expectations.<\/b><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

<\/b>Stop messaging people and going on dates believing that everyone is your soulmate.\u00a0Even if they are, you\u2019re better off setting reasonable expectations. This will stop the bad dates from being so sucky, and it\u2019ll make the good ones that much more of a wonderful surprise. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Love cannot be predicted. You cannot say when it will find you. So try and enjoy your online dating experience for what it is.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. Be yourself.<\/b><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

<\/b>Even if you think you\u2019re totally uncool, that\u2019s okay. Because the right person will think you\u2019re the greatest thing they\u2019ve ever seen since sliced bread.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

So don\u2019t hide who you are, don\u2019t pretend to be someone you\u2019re not, and be yourself unapologetically at all times. <\/span>When you do this, you\u2019ll save yourself so much time and heartache in the long run, speaking to people who aren\u2019t <\/span>your<\/span> people. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. Be clear on what you\u2019re looking for.<\/b><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

<\/b>If you don\u2019t know what kind of person or relationship you\u2019re looking for, how can you expect to find it?\u00a0That\u2019s like going to the grocery store with no idea of what you need to buy. You\u2019ll end up walking out with a load of stuff you probably didn\u2019t need, and having to come back again the next day with a list!<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It doesn\u2019t matter if you\u2019re looking for something serious, or something more casual\u2014as long as you make this clear from the beginning. <\/span>This way, you\u2019ll attract people who also want similar things, and you\u2019ll stop wasting time on conversations that are aiming for a dead end. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

8. Don\u2019t allow dating to run your life!<\/b><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

<\/b>If you\u2019re someone who can\u2019t help but check every notification as soon as your phone buzzes, do yourself a favor and switch them all off.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Set yourself a time limit for being on dating sites each day, and don\u2019t allow your dating life to dictate your day. You\u2019ll find the less obsessed you are with it, the less stressful it will feel. <\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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