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Dating as a woman can be difficult, but dating as a bisexual woman can be even harder. If you\u2019re into both guys and girls, you might be familiar with some of the stereotypes that bi women face. Straight men think it\u2019s hot, or assume you\u2019re automatically interested in a threesome, or ask, \u201cBut isn\u2019t that just a phase some girls go through?\u201d Lesbians can sometimes feel suspicious of your intentions, and might wonder if you\u2019re experimenting with your sexuality and using them. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s difficult to face biphobia and the stigma that comes with it. There\u2019s no one right way to deal with it, but we\u2019ve got a few ideas. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Talk about it.
\n<\/b>Being clear about who you are is important for so many reasons. In the dating realm, it helps to be transparent and open about your identity. The whole point of dating is getting to know someone, so being able to talk about your bisexuality and what it feels like to you is key to creating any meaningful connection. Approach your dating life with honesty about who you are. You don\u2019t need to conform to anyone\u2019s biphobic perceptions of you. Hopefully you feel safe enough to talk about it not just with potential dates, but also with your larger social circles. (If you\u2019re not able to be out yet, that\u2019s okay too. Take the time you need to take.) <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Be ready to educate.
\n<\/b>Bisexual erasure is real, and it contributes to a lot of the stigma that bi folks deal with while dating. <\/span>According to GLAAD<\/span><\/a>, \u201cBisexual erasure is a pervasive problem in which the existence or legitimacy of bisexuality (either in general or in regard to an individual) is questioned or denied outright.\u201d As a result of this, bisexual people face higher rates of mental illness and other diseases than lesbian, gay, or straight people do. The common straight person probably doesn\u2019t have a handle on that information, so you may have to educate them about it. Lesbians may know a little bit more, depending on their knowledge of the overall queer community, but having the facts at hand can make those conversations easier. At the same time\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t waste time with lost causes.
\n<\/b>It\u2019s not your job to convince a biphobic person that they\u2019re wrong about not just you, but about all bisexual people. If you want to give them that emotional labor, you can. But you don\u2019t need to waste time on dates with men (or women) who are clearly not willing to examine their internal biases. It\u2019s totally okay to cut and run if a date is obviously unable to hear where you\u2019re coming from, or unwilling to treat you with respect.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Get ready to deal with objectification.
\n<\/b>There are a lot of straight couples looking to spice things up in the bedroom by bringing in a third party. These couples are known as unicorn hunters. \u201cUnicorn\u201d is a term often used to describe a bisexual woman who sleeps with a straight couple, but does not form emotional attachments. If you\u2019re into being a unicorn, more power to you. If you\u2019re not, try to include that in your online dating profile somehow. That can cut down on the amount of couples who slide into your DM\u2019s inquiring about your unicorn status. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Know that your identity is valid.
\n<\/b>It\u2019s sad that there\u2019s so much biphobia and bierasure in the queer community. If you aren\u2019t able to be around people who affirm you, it can be difficult to remember that your bisexuality is just as valid as anyone else\u2019s sexual identity. It doesn\u2019t mean you need to buy into other\u2019s negative narratives about bisexuality. You may need to feel defensive of yourself for a little while; that\u2019s okay. Remember that you can be your own ally, and that no one\u2019s preconceived notions of who you are or who you sleep with can define you. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Find your allies.
\n<\/b>The world became a bit brighter for me once I was able to connect with other bisexual people. Having bi friends is part of a key support system for me. They\u2019ve been through the biphobic reactions on dating apps just like I have, and they\u2019re here for me to commiserate with. Mostly, having friends who share my identity in this way helps me feel less alone. That\u2019s part of the confidence I need to exist as my truest self. <\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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