{"id":17089,"date":"2018-07-21T01:00:15","date_gmt":"2018-07-21T08:00:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=17089"},"modified":"2021-05-31T12:12:28","modified_gmt":"2021-05-31T19:12:28","slug":"how-to-apologize-to-your-girlfriend","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/dating-advice\/dating-advice-men\/how-to-apologize-to-your-girlfriend\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Apologize to Your Girlfriend"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Chances are if you’re reading this, you did something that upset your girlfriend, and now you need to apologize. Apologizing to your girlfriend might sound like a daunting task, but it\u2019s actually easier than you think. There are a few key things that every woman wants to hear when she\u2019s looking for an apology, so we\u2019ll tell you exactly what you need to say. Here are six tips on how to apologize<\/a> to your girlfriend…<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How to apologize to your girlfriend: the masterclass<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Understand why she’s upset.<\/strong>
\nKnowing how to apologize to your girlfriend starts with knowing why you\u2019re apologizing. Crafting an apology for snapping at her over dinner or embarrassing her in front of her friends is much different than, say, crafting an apology for cheating on her. But in any case, the key to a good apology is making it clear that you understand why she\u2019s upset, and that she has every right to be upset.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Do it in person.<\/strong>
\nWhen it\u2019s time to have the apology talk, if you can, apologize in person. Unless you\u2019re apologizing for something small and non-relationship threatening, don\u2019t apologize over text; it will mean more if you do it in person. (If you\u2019re in a long distance relationship or not in the same place at the time, then apologize over FaceTime, Skype, or at least on the phone.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That way, you can also bring a peace offering, if it feels right. It can be flowers if she likes flowers, but it doesn\u2019t have to be. A cute greeting card, a coffee, or her favorite dessert will help ease the tension and break the ice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Make sure to actually say sorry.<\/strong>
\nNow, on to the actual apology itself. Start by actually saying the words \u201cI\u2019m sorry.\u201d It\u2019s not an apology without them. Then, acknowledge what you did wrong. It sounds simple\u2014you both already know what you did wrong\u2014but simply stating what you did wrong back to your girlfriend will go a long way. It will make her feel heard and understood. Try saying, \u201cI didn\u2019t mean to hurt your feelings, but I did, and I\u2019m sorry. I was wrong for doing what I did.\u201d It\u2019s simple, honest, and direct. Most of all, it\u2019s effective.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Acknowledge her feelings.<\/strong>
\nAlso, acknowledge that you respect how she feels right now. All your girlfriend wants to hear you say is, \u201cI know you\u2019re upset, and you have every right to be.\u201d So say it. Knowing how to apologize to your girlfriend begins with validating her feelings.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Have answers to her questions.<\/strong>
\nNext, state that you regret hurting her. Anyone can say they\u2019re sorry, but you want her to know that you actually mean it. So do a little digging. Why do you think you did to upset her? How do you plan on moving forward so it doesn\u2019t happen again? Have answers to these questions and tell her. Don\u2019t make excuses. Don\u2019t be sarcastic. Don\u2019t crack jokes. Own your behavior and be genuine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. Ask her to forgive you.<\/strong>
\nFinally, end by asking for forgiveness. Depending on what you\u2019re apologizing for, her forgiveness may not be a given, so don\u2019t assume that it is. Asking, \u201cDo you think you can forgive me and trust me when I say that this won\u2019t happen again?\u201d will show her that you don\u2019t take her or your relationship for granted. If she accepts your apology, say thank you. If she needs time to think, give it to her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And don\u2019t forget about the little things. Understanding how to apologize to your girlfriend requires empathy and compassion, so make eye contact with her, and don\u2019t mumble through your apology. If she wants to talk, let her talk without interruption. If you can show that you\u2019re making an effort in every way, she\u2019ll be more likely to take you and your apology seriously.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most of all, mean what you say. If you\u2019re apologizing to your girlfriend just because you don\u2019t want her to be mad at you, and you don\u2019t actually think you did anything wrong or have any intention of taking her hurt feelings to heart, then it might be time to reconsider the relationship<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

If you\u2019re apologizing just because you don\u2019t want her to be mad at you, then you’re doing it wrong. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":79,"featured_media":17090,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[885,898],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-17089","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dating-advice-men","category-relationship-problems"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\nHow to Apologize to Your Girlfriend: Everything You Need to Know<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"There are a few key things that every woman wants to hear when she\u2019s looking for an apology. 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