{"id":17233,"date":"2018-08-19T14:00:06","date_gmt":"2018-08-19T21:00:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=17233"},"modified":"2022-05-23T02:30:30","modified_gmt":"2022-05-23T09:30:30","slug":"how-we-date-online","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/online-dating-tips\/how-we-date-online\/","title":{"rendered":"Dating Up: A Study on How We Date Online"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Courtship is a process as old as us, but until recently it\u2019s been tough to tell with any accuracy just how we do it. Now with online dating services, that\u2019s all changed. Services like Match and Tinder collect data on daters that can tell us more about how we go about looking for love. In a <\/span>recent study published in Science Advances<\/span><\/a>, University of Michigan professor Elizabeth Bruch teamed up with an unnamed major dating site to pull the curtain back on this age-old process. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here are a few key highlights that reveal how people are using online dating sites: <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

How It Works
<\/b>The study pulled data from the website\u2019s base of heterosexual daters in four major cities: Boston<\/a>, Seattle<\/a>, New York<\/a>, and Chicago<\/a>. Basically, the study assigned different dating profiles an attractiveness score on a scale of zero to one, one being the hottest profile and zero being the least. This number was determined by responses to messages sent (since men send 80% of the first messages) and messages received. The more attractive the profiles someone received messages and responses from the more attractive their profile ranked. Simple enough? Surprisingly (or perhaps unsurprisingly), the habits of daters across different cities were remarkably similar, if not almost identical. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Reaching Up the Ladder
\n<\/b>Bruch\u2019s research found that \u201cmen and women both reach up the desirability ladder.\u201d Meaning they try to date people who are more attractive than they are. Of course, the big question is by how much? The answer: about 25%. The study also found that the average response rate for a man contacting someone more attractive than them was never higher than 21%, but that didn\u2019t stop them from trying.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Check the Strategy
\n<\/b>But that\u2019s not all. Using this data, the researchers were able to offer insight into how daters\u2019 message strategy varied depending on the attractiveness of their potential partners. When writing to people more attractive than themselves, both men and women wrote messages that were up to twice as long, although this is more true for women than men. Also, \u201cwomen show an increase in their use of positive words when communicating with more desirable partners while the men show a decrease.\u201d Interesting.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Take All the Shots
\n<\/b>Another interesting find? Both men and women combine dating up with dating across and dating down. In other words, we all try to date people more attractive than ourselves, but we balance out our odds by messaging people equally or less attractive to cast a wide net. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Shooting for the Stars
\n<\/b>Out of your league doesn\u2019t mean impossible. \u201cThe chances of receiving a reply from a highly desirable partner may be low, but they remain well above zero, although one will have to work harder and perhaps wait longer, to make progress.\u201d For all of our ambitious daters out there this is probably the best news you can get.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

A Few Final Tidbits
<\/b>Once desirability was determined, the researchers were able to split off other desirable demographics from the profiles. The work found that women\u2019s desirability drops from age 18 to 60, as they get older. Men actually increase in desirability until age 50, when they begin to decline. In the studied cities, Asian women<\/a> and white men were the most desirable. For men, desirability increases with education, \u201cfor whom more education is always more desirable. For women, an undergraduate degree is most desirable; postgraduate education is associated with decreased desirability among women.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Of course, these stats while revealing don\u2019t necessarily tell us everything there is to know about the world of dating. For one, this is how people date online, and when there are more options available, one can be more discerning. Also in an <\/span>interview with The Atlantic<\/span><\/a>, Bruch said \u201cwhat we are seeing is overwhelmingly the effect of white preferences. This site is predominantly white, 70 percent white. If this was a site that was 20 percent white, we may see a totally different desirability hierarchy.\u201d Despite the limitations of the study, it\u2019s exciting to see these small pieces of how we date decoded. It\u2019s far from the whole story, but hopefully we\u2019ll have a bit more of the rosetta stone uncovered.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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