{"id":17297,"date":"2023-03-28T00:29:49","date_gmt":"2023-03-28T07:29:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=17297"},"modified":"2023-03-28T00:35:54","modified_gmt":"2023-03-28T07:35:54","slug":"is-he-flirting-with-me","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/single-life\/flirting\/is-he-flirting-with-me\/","title":{"rendered":"Is He Flirting With Me Or Just Being Nice? Here’s How To Figure It Out"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Is he flirting with me or being nice<\/em>? Was that a normal blink or an \u201cI want you!\u201d blink? <\/em>If your inner monologue often sounds like this, don\u2019t fret. Flirting<\/a> comes naturally to some people, but it\u2019s totally normal to feel you need to work on it. For most of us, this involves planning out our next move, wondering whether we\u2019re laughing too much and too often, and constantly worrying about where we should put our hands! Yes, the struggles of knowing how to flirt<\/a> are real!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, even if you\u2019re a master at flirting, spotting those surefire signs a guy is flirting with you isn\u2019t always easy. After all, it\u2019s difficult to be fully aware of another person\u2019s intentions. When it comes to dating, this often makes it tough to figure out if a man is being nice to you, or letting you know they\u2019re interested.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To help you on your way to answering the age-old question, \u201cIs he flirting with me?\u201d, we\u2019ve put together an extensive guide to spotting those definite signs he\u2019s flirting. Discover all you need to know below!  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

What is Flirting?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Before trying to answer the question, \u201cIs he flirting with me?\u201d it\u2019s worthwhile taking a step back a recapping what flirting actually is<\/a>. As Merriam-Webster\u2019s definition of flirting<\/a> states, to flirt is \u201cto behave amorously without serious intent.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Commonly, this behavior involves something spoken or written \u2014 or the use of body language \u2014 that suggests interest in a person beyond friendship. This can often be subtle and indirect, making it tricky to spot whether someone is showing interest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How to Tell if a Guy Is Flirting With You: 15 Surefire Signs <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

The best way to answer the question, \u201cIs he flirting with me?\u201d is to look out for the most common signs of flirting. These will give you an idea of what his thoughts and intentions are, helping you to figure out what steps to take next.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Below, we\u2019ve put together a list of 15 of the most definite signs a guy is flirting with you, so you\u2019ll have the best chance of knowing how he\u2019s feeling!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sign #1: A telling touch<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

One of the most obvious signs a man is flirting is if they\u2019re physically reaching out. The initial touch will probably be subtle and playful. When you\u2019re walking next to each other, pay attention to how close he gets to you. Does he reach out and help guide you as you cross the street? Does his hand linger on your back for just a millisecond longer than a friend would keep it there? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If it seems he\u2019s consistently making physical contact in this way, it\u2019s a good sign he\u2019s flirting and that this is more than a nicety!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sign #2: Lots and lots of text messages<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

A good way to tell if it\u2019s flirtatious or friendly is by checking your messages. Does he text you throughout the day, either reaching out to you directly or speaking to you in a group thread? If so, you\u2019re likely on his mind. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Flirting over text<\/a> can be a fun and relaxed way to connect. Just make sure you\u2019re confident he\u2019s on the same page before you start crafting those spicy flirty texts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sign #3: He follows you on social media<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Similarly, following and interacting with you on social media is another indication of flirtatious behavior. Is he sending you hilarious Instagram reels all the time? Does he like all your tweets and Facebook posts?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Any kind of extra attention when it comes to smartphone use is usually a pretty good sign a guy is flirting with you. If you want to flirt back in the same way, send him in some of Zoosk\u2019s TikTok videos<\/a> so you can both laugh and share stories about your dating experiences!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sign #4: Teasing<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Just as it was in our high school days, one of the most common flirting techniques is the gentle tease. We\u2019re not talking about him pulling your pigtails \u2014 we hope that was left behind in the schoolyard \u2013 rather, subtle teasing at your expense.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Of course, this needs to be gentle and good-natured. Often, it involves inside jokes or gently poking fun at you for something. So, whether he\u2019s given you a funny nickname, made jokes about your guilty pleasure music choices, or poked fun at you for your undevoted love of romance novels<\/a>, gentle teasing is one of the easiest ways to tell if a guy is being flirtatious.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sign #5: Eye contact<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

This is one of the surest signs he\u2019s flirting. Do you notice him catching your eye a lot, whether he\u2019s talking to you or not? We look at people we\u2019re attracted to, we can\u2019t really help it. So, if you\u2019re asking yourself, \u201cIs he being friendly or flirty?\u201d, pay attention to whether your eyes lock every time you both laugh. It\u2019s a strong sign he\u2019s into you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sign #6: He isn\u2019t checking his phone<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

If he\u2019s into you, you\u2019ll have his full attention. Whenever you\u2019re together, if you notice that his phone stays in his pocket, it shows you\u2019re holding his interest. If a guy likes you and is flirting, you\u2019ll be the pinnacle of his focus and everything else will be background noise, including his phone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Conversely, if he\u2019s taking it out every minute or two to read messages, he might not<\/em> be as into you as you\u2019re hoping and probably isn\u2019t likely to be flirting.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sign #7: Body language<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

You\u2019ve probably heard it a thousand times, but it remains true. Body language is one of the best signs a guy is flirting with you. Is his body turned toward you when you sit next to one another? Are his feet pointed at you? Does he find a lot of excuses to be near you, physically touching you or just standing as close as possible?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Flirting isn\u2019t just about the thing he says. If he\u2019s sending you visual hints through his body language, he\u2019s probably interested. Body language cues are one of our best tools for flirting, so look out for them!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sign #8: He tries to impress you<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

One of the signs that a man is flirting is when he goes out of his way to impress you. Do you find that he\u2019s often telling you about himself and his achievements? This could be a sign that he\u2019s hoping to capture your attention and win your affection.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This might not be straight-out bragging though. Flirting in this way is often done by guys who\u2019re genuinely interested and are doing their best to impress you. After all, it\u2019s only natural that we want to present our best selves to someone we\u2019re attracted to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sign #9: He gives you a lot of compliments<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Compliments are a classic sign of flirtatious behavior. Whether it\u2019s appreciating your cooking or commenting on your outfit, a guy who showers you with praise is a good sign he\u2019s flirting. Just make sure that the compliments feel real. If they come across as over-the-top, it can be an indication that he\u2019s not being genuine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sign #10: He\u2019s always trying to make you laugh             <\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Have a sense of humor is one of the most important things to look for in a guy<\/a>. And, knowing how to tell if he\u2019s flirting often comes down to how the conversation between you plays out. If the guy is making a lot of effort to crack some jokes and make you laugh, it\u2019s a good indication that he\u2019s flirting.,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sign #11: He wants to spend one-on-one time together<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

When it comes to signs he\u2019s flirting, making excuses to spend one-on-one time with you is one of the most obvious picks. Does he invite you for a coffee date<\/a> with friends but then pretends that the others canceled at the last minute so now it\u2019s just you and him? Does he offer to stay late at work and help you out with a group project?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Whatever form it takes, showing a desire to spend one-on-one time with you is one of the clearest signs a man is flirting and that he\u2019s into you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sign #12: He gets nervous around you<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

When it comes to dating, we all get nervous. But did you know that nervousness is a potential indication of flirtatious behavior and a sign that he might like you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This can show in different ways, whether he stutters a bit when talking to you, fidgets a lot, or turns a bit red and sweaty. And, if he\u2019s normally a confident guy, spotting this nervousness can be a surefire sign he\u2019s trying to flirt with you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sign #13: He\u2019s always finding ways to start a conversation (and keep it going)<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

When asking yourself the question, \u201cIs he flirting with me?\u201d think about how your conversations are. Does he make the effort to come up with new things to talk about or take the time to go deeper into topics and have meaningful discussions? Does he demonstrate that he\u2019s listening intently to what you\u2019re saying and is totally focused while you\u2019re talking?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If so, it shows he genuinely enjoys talking to you and that he\u2019s interested in what you\u2019re saying. These are strong signs he\u2019s flirting and a good indication that he\u2019s into you!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sign #14: He always seems happy when you\u2019re around<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

What\u2019s his demeanor like when he\u2019s around you? An easy way to tell if he\u2019s flirting is by seeing how is when you\u2019re with him. If his face lights up when you walk in the room and his mood heightens, there\u2019s a good chance he\u2019s into you and he\u2019ll start flirting.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sign #15: He tells you directly!<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Finally, and this one might sound obvious, when a guy straight up says he\u2019s into you, you can be sure he\u2019s flirting. Being explicit and direct leaves no doubt in the mind. This is the best scenario from which to kickstart a new meaningful relationship!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Is He Flirting With Me? Yes! Now It\u2019s Time to Respond!<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

So, is he flirting with me or just being nice? If you\u2019ve recently spent time with a guy and spotted some of those surefire signs he\u2019s flirting, it\u2019s time to figure out your next move!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Flirting can be a great way to build up a genuine connection with someone new. So, once you\u2019re confident you\u2019ve spotted his flirtatious behavior \u2014 and you feel physically and emotionally attracted<\/a> to him too \u2014 join in the fun and get flirty yourself! Ask him some flirty questions<\/a>, see where things go, and you\u2019ll be on the path toward a meaningful, lasting relationship in no time!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

How do you decipher whether or not someone is flirting with you?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":220,"featured_media":30290,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[974],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-17297","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-flirting"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\nIs He Flirting with Me or Just Being Nice?<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"How do you tell whether or not a guy is flirting with you? Here are a few signs that he\u2019s trying to tell you something.\" \/>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/single-life\/flirting\/is-he-flirting-with-me\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Is He Flirting with Me or Just Being Nice?\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"How do you tell whether or not a guy is flirting with you? Here are a few signs that he\u2019s trying to tell you something.\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:url\" content=\"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/single-life\/flirting\/is-he-flirting-with-me\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:site_name\" content=\"The Date Mix\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:publisher\" content=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/Zoosk\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:published_time\" content=\"2023-03-28T07:29:49+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:modified_time\" content=\"2023-03-28T07:35:54+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:image\" content=\"https:\/\/dq1eylutsoz4u.cloudfront.net\/2018\/08\/27134522\/is-he-flirting-with-me.jpg\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:width\" content=\"800\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:height\" content=\"600\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:type\" content=\"image\/jpeg\" \/>\n<meta name=\"author\" content=\"Dan Hackett\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:card\" content=\"summary_large_image\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:creator\" content=\"@Zoosk\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:site\" content=\"@Zoosk\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:label1\" content=\"Written by\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data1\" content=\"Dan Hackett\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:label2\" content=\"Est. reading time\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data2\" content=\"9 minutes\" \/>\n<!-- \/ Yoast SEO plugin. -->","yoast_head_json":{"title":"Is He Flirting with Me or Just Being Nice?","description":"How do you tell whether or not a guy is flirting with you? Here are a few signs that he\u2019s trying to tell you something.","robots":{"index":"index","follow":"follow","max-snippet":"max-snippet:-1","max-image-preview":"max-image-preview:large","max-video-preview":"max-video-preview:-1"},"canonical":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/single-life\/flirting\/is-he-flirting-with-me\/","og_locale":"en_US","og_type":"article","og_title":"Is He Flirting with Me or Just Being Nice?","og_description":"How do you tell whether or not a guy is flirting with you? Here are a few signs that he\u2019s trying to tell you something.","og_url":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/single-life\/flirting\/is-he-flirting-with-me\/","og_site_name":"The Date Mix","article_publisher":"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/Zoosk\/","article_published_time":"2023-03-28T07:29:49+00:00","article_modified_time":"2023-03-28T07:35:54+00:00","og_image":[{"width":800,"height":600,"url":"https:\/\/dq1eylutsoz4u.cloudfront.net\/2018\/08\/27134522\/is-he-flirting-with-me.jpg","type":"image\/jpeg"}],"author":"Dan Hackett","twitter_card":"summary_large_image","twitter_creator":"@Zoosk","twitter_site":"@Zoosk","twitter_misc":{"Written by":"Dan Hackett","Est. reading time":"9 minutes"},"schema":{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org","@graph":[{"@type":"Article","@id":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/single-life\/flirting\/is-he-flirting-with-me\/#article","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/single-life\/flirting\/is-he-flirting-with-me\/"},"author":{"name":"Dan Hackett","@id":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/#\/schema\/person\/aab47cd31eaefd6c54d3143561520560"},"headline":"Is He Flirting With Me Or Just Being Nice? Here’s How To Figure It Out","datePublished":"2023-03-28T07:29:49+00:00","dateModified":"2023-03-28T07:35:54+00:00","mainEntityOfPage":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/single-life\/flirting\/is-he-flirting-with-me\/"},"wordCount":1868,"publisher":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/#organization"},"image":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/single-life\/flirting\/is-he-flirting-with-me\/#primaryimage"},"thumbnailUrl":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/zoosk-is-he-flirting-with-me-header-image.png","articleSection":["Flirting"],"inLanguage":"en"},{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/single-life\/flirting\/is-he-flirting-with-me\/","url":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/single-life\/flirting\/is-he-flirting-with-me\/","name":"Is He Flirting with Me or Just Being Nice?","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/#website"},"primaryImageOfPage":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/single-life\/flirting\/is-he-flirting-with-me\/#primaryimage"},"image":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/single-life\/flirting\/is-he-flirting-with-me\/#primaryimage"},"thumbnailUrl":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/zoosk-is-he-flirting-with-me-header-image.png","datePublished":"2023-03-28T07:29:49+00:00","dateModified":"2023-03-28T07:35:54+00:00","description":"How do you tell whether or not a guy is flirting with you? Here are a few signs that he\u2019s trying to tell you something.","breadcrumb":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/single-life\/flirting\/is-he-flirting-with-me\/#breadcrumb"},"inLanguage":"en","potentialAction":[{"@type":"ReadAction","target":["https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/single-life\/flirting\/is-he-flirting-with-me\/"]}]},{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en","@id":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/single-life\/flirting\/is-he-flirting-with-me\/#primaryimage","url":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/zoosk-is-he-flirting-with-me-header-image.png","contentUrl":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/zoosk-is-he-flirting-with-me-header-image.png","width":906,"height":696,"caption":"A woman looking at the man she\u2019s interested in wondering, \u201cIs he flirting with me?\u201d while they walk down the street together."},{"@type":"BreadcrumbList","@id":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/single-life\/flirting\/is-he-flirting-with-me\/#breadcrumb","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"Home","item":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/"},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"name":"Single Life","item":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/single-life\/"},{"@type":"ListItem","position":3,"name":"Flirting","item":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/single-life\/flirting\/"},{"@type":"ListItem","position":4,"name":"Is He Flirting with Me or Just Being Nice?"}]},{"@type":"WebSite","@id":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/#website","url":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/","name":"The Date Mix","description":"Dating and Relationship Advice for Today's Daters","publisher":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/#organization"},"potentialAction":[{"@type":"SearchAction","target":{"@type":"EntryPoint","urlTemplate":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/?s={search_term_string}"},"query-input":{"@type":"PropertyValueSpecification","valueRequired":true,"valueName":"search_term_string"}}],"inLanguage":"en"},{"@type":"Organization","@id":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/#organization","name":"The Date Mix","url":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/","logo":{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en","@id":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/#\/schema\/logo\/image\/","url":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/TDM-logo.jpg","contentUrl":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/TDM-logo.jpg","width":400,"height":400,"caption":"The Date Mix"},"image":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/#\/schema\/logo\/image\/"},"sameAs":["https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/Zoosk\/","https:\/\/x.com\/Zoosk"]},{"@type":"Person","@id":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/#\/schema\/person\/aab47cd31eaefd6c54d3143561520560","name":"Dan Hackett","image":{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en","@id":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/#\/schema\/person\/image\/","url":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/avatar_user_220_1605090984-96x96.jpg","contentUrl":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/avatar_user_220_1605090984-96x96.jpg","caption":"Dan Hackett"},"description":"Dan Hackett is a dating and relationships writer. Originally from England, he's been writing about all things romance for several years now and has contributed to online dating sites such as EliteSingles and SilverSingles. Elsewhere, he recently wrote his first novel - though he's not tried to get it published yet. Instead, he's currently sitting on it like a goose on an egg, mortified at the prospect of releasing it into the world. Dan has been working with Zoosk to create unique and insightful content around all aspects of online dating, love, and relationships.","sameAs":["https:\/\/worldhangover.com\/"],"url":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/author\/dan-hackett\/"}]}},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17297","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/220"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=17297"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17297\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/30290"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=17297"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=17297"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=17297"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}