Many people joke about having a \u201cwork husband\u201d or a \u201cwork wife\u201d they spend a lot of time with at the office. But what happens when that relationship starts to feel flirtatious\u2014and not in a harmless, joking way, but in a serious way?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Married men and women flirt for a variety of different reasons. They might be attracted to you, enjoy the attention, or just be doing it for fun. Whatever the reason, it\u2019s best to proceed with caution and think twice before flirting back.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you suspect it\u2019s happening but aren\u2019t sure, look for these signs that your married coworker is flirting with you. Once you know it\u2019s happening, there are a few ways you can put a stop to it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
1. They invent reasons to see you at work. 2. They pay you compliments. 3. They always sit next to you. 4. They ask you to get lunch or coffee a lot\u2014but they don\u2019t ask other people. 5. They tease you constantly. 6. They avoid talking about their partner. 7. But they\u2019re super interested in your personal life. 8. They send flirtatious emails and messages. 9. They get jealous when you talk to other coworkers. 10. They always pick you. So, what do you do if your married coworker is flirting with you? Put some distance in your professional relationship. Avoid situations where you\u2019ll be alone together, especially outside of the office. And if you have to be a little cold to get your point across, that\u2019s fine, too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If your boss or a person in a position of power is flirting with you, or if you feel uncomfortable with your coworker\u2019s behavior, you can always confide in HR. You have the right to a safe work environment, free from unwanted flirting.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Many joke about having a work husband or a work wife, but what happens when that relationship starts to feel oddly flirtatious?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":79,"featured_media":17336,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[884,974],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-17335","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dating-advice","category-flirting"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n
\n<\/strong>If you notice your married coworker hovering around your desk, bumping into you in the break room, or leaving to get lunch at the same time you do a lot, it\u2019s probably not on accident. They\u2019re looking for ways to see you, and they\u2019re trying (or not trying) to be subtle about it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>Whether it\u2019s \u201cyou look nice today\u201d or \u201cyou\u2019re so beautiful,\u201d if your married coworker lays the charm on thick, they\u2019re probably flirting with you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>In meetings, at lunch, at happy hour\u2014if your married coworker is always claiming the empty seat next to you, it\u2019s not on accident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>Grabbing lunch and going on a coffee run are normal parts of working in an office. And it\u2019s not uncommon for people to have lunch or coffee buddies, either. But if your married coworker has only one buddy\u2014you\u2014it\u2019s definitely a sign that they\u2019re flirting with you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>When people have crushes, they tend to revert back to the kindergarten way of flirting: calling names and pulling pigtails. If your married coworker teases you a lot, it\u2019s likely their way of flirting with you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>Part of your married coworker trying to get your attention includes not<\/em> drawing attention to the fact that they\u2019re married. They probably exclude details about their personal life and opt for \u201cI\u201d instead of \u201cwe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>And your dating life in particular. If you\u2019re single, they\u2019ll ask a ton of personal questions about the kinds of people you meet and date. And if you\u2019re in a relationship, they\u2019ll be curious to know all the details. (Even though they don\u2019t want to share the details of their own relationship.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>If they sound more like Tinder messages than Slack messages, you\u2019ll know they\u2019re flirting with you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>If you want to know if your married coworker is flirting with you, see how they react to your other office friendships. If they get easily jealous and try to interrupt or ask you about it later, they\u2019re definitely flirting\u2014even if they\u2019re doing it subconsciously.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>If it seems like your married coworker favors you, you\u2019re probably not imagining it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n