{"id":17473,"date":"2018-09-25T14:00:42","date_gmt":"2018-09-25T21:00:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=17473"},"modified":"2021-05-31T10:59:03","modified_gmt":"2021-05-31T17:59:03","slug":"unhappy-relationships","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/relationship-advice\/relationship-problems\/unhappy-relationships\/","title":{"rendered":"Are You in an Unhappy Relationship?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Many couples stay in unhappy relationships for their kids, convenience, or fear of being alone. When you\u2019ve spent a long time with someone, the thought of being without them\u2014even in a toxic relationship\u2014can be daunting. Let\u2019s face it, letting go of anything long-term is tough.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s easy to get overly attached to a partner, and not notice the unhappiness of a relationship. If you\u2019ve felt confused about your relationship, here are a few signs that you might be in an unhappy relationship. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You\u2019re always looking at other attractive people.
\n<\/b>It\u2019s normal to find other people attractive, but if you\u2019re constantly fantasizing about other people, then you\u2019ll need to look more closely at your feelings. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re truly happy in your relationship, then you wouldn\u2019t be thinking about what life would be like with someone else. So if you\u2019re imagining waking up next to someone else, your heart probably isn\u2019t in your current relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You rarely get physical.
\n<\/b>If you find that the physical side of your relationship has died down or was never passionate to begin with, you might be in trouble. Maybe you don\u2019t want to hug and kiss your partner. Maybe you make excuses to avoid sex. Or maybe you\u2019re just not satisfied. Many couples who have been together a long time find themselves in ruts like this. You need to figure out whether this is a rut, or a lack of physical attraction to your partner. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You want to spend your free time with other people.
\n<\/b>When you find yourself with unexpected free time, who do you automatically want to spend it with? Is it your partner, friends, work colleagues, or someone else? Who are you excited to see the most? If your significant other isn\u2019t near the top of that list, it\u2019s a sign they\u2019re not that important to you. And if they\u2019re not, you won\u2019t be happy with them in the long term.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You have unhealthy arguments.
\n<\/b>Every couple fights. So don\u2019t worry about the occasional argument. However, you should be concerned about the way you speak to each other in those arguments, and the way you both react to conflict. If you\u2019re trying to hurt your partner in an argument,  or if you can\u2019t have a mature conversation when there\u2019s a conflict, there may be a lack of respect in the relationship that has nothing to do with the fight at hand. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You\u2019re lost for words.
\n<\/b>You know those couples you see at restaurants drinking and eating in silence? They\u2019ve run out of things to say to each other. Hard to watch, isn\u2019t it? If you feel this uneasiness or disconnect with your partner, there could be something wrong in your relationship. If you don\u2019t enjoy each other\u2019s company anymore, you may want to think about why you\u2019re still together.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You never say “we” anymore.
\n<\/b>A healthy couple refers to themselves as we, because they see their relationship as a team. This doesn\u2019t mean they lose their independence, but happy couples regularly share their lives. If one or both of you think without considering your partner or avoid making future plans together, it\u2019s important to stop and get clear on your real feelings for each other. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You don\u2019t trust your partner.
\n<\/b>If there\u2019s no trust, then there\u2019s no relationship. If you don\u2019t trust your partner, you\u2019ll question everything they do, check their phone, and live a life of paranoia. When there\u2019s a lack of trust in a relationship, it creates distance between you and your partner. This distance will only expand until the trust is restored. Whether your partner did something to break the trust, or you entered the relationship with trust issues\u2014be honest with yourself and your partner  about your relationship doubts. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You\u2019re not comfortable around each other.
\n<\/b>If you feel like you can\u2019t be yourself around your partner for fear of judgement, then this isn\u2019t the right relationship for you. This person is holding you back. It\u2019s up to you to choose how to deal with that. Being comfortable in your own skin is so important, because we carry that confidence (or lack thereof) in all aspects of our lives. If someone really loves you, they will encourage you to be who you are and love you for it. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The odd thing about unhappy relationships, is that sometimes you get so used to them and the cadence of your day to day lives that you don\u2019t realize how you\u2019re feeling right away. If you\u2019re not getting what you need from your relationship, and some of these signs feel familiar, it may be time to talk to your partner about how things are going. <\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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