{"id":17603,"date":"2018-10-19T01:00:45","date_gmt":"2018-10-19T08:00:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=17603"},"modified":"2021-05-31T10:51:00","modified_gmt":"2021-05-31T17:51:00","slug":"dating-tips-live-understand","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/dating-advice\/dating-tips-live-understand\/","title":{"rendered":"11 Dating Tips You Have to Live Through to Understand"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

The best dating tips are tried and true. Which means that some dating advice will only make sense once you\u2019ve experienced it for yourself. There are some things that you just have to go through to understand.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s easy to tell someone, \u201cYou\u2019ll get over your ex eventually. It just takes time.\u201d But if that person has never been through a serious breakup before, they might not believe you until they\u2019ve survived and lived to tell the tale. Some things you have to live through to fully understand.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here are 11 dating tips that you have to learn for yourself:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Trust your gut. It\u2019s usually right.
\n<\/strong>When you get a feeling about something, listen to it. Your intuition is a lot sharper than you might think. \u201cYour intuition is shaped by your past experiences, and your existing knowledge which you gained from them,\u201d Susanna Newsonen, MAPP writes in Psychology Today<\/a>. \u201cTrust that you have all the knowledge and experience you need to make the decision that\u2019s right for you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. The most important thing you can be is yourself.
\n<\/strong>When you\u2019re putting yourself out there, it can be tempting to be a version of yourself to stand out or impress somebody. But it\u2019s a waste of time to pretend to be somebody you\u2019re not just to impress a date. Embrace everything that makes you, you, and you\u2019ll find the right match.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Breakups suck, but you will get through them.
\n<\/strong>When a relationship is over, it feels like the end of the world. But it does get easier. Maybe not right away, but one day, you\u2019ll wake up and it\u2019ll hurt less. With experience, you\u2019ll learn how to mourn breakups and what gets you through them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. After you break up with someone, you should stop talking to them.
\n<\/strong>Distance is important after a breakup, and even though it might hurt, it\u2019s best to go cold turkey\u2014at least at first. Staying in contact with an ex or trying to be friends right away will confuse your head and your heart. Take some time away from them to mourn the breakup. Then, if you still want to remain friends, set some ground rules for what that looks like.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. After you break up with someone, you shouldn\u2019t jump into a new relationship.
\n<\/strong>It\u2019s important to spend some time on your own and reflect on your role in the relationship. It\u2019s okay to get back out there and meet new people, but don\u2019t immediately start something new or get exclusive again before you\u2019ve had some time to yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. Ghosting happens, and it usually has nothing to do with you.
\n<\/strong>People ghost for all kinds of reasons: they met someone else; they still have feelings for their ex; they took too long to text you back and now they feel awkward about it. Nine times out of 10, it\u2019s something with them and nothing to do with you. That doesn\u2019t make it any easier, but once you\u2019ve experienced it a few times, you\u2019ll understand and move on more quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. If they don\u2019t explicitly use the label boyfriend or girlfriend, you\u2019re not their boyfriend or girlfriend.
\n<\/strong>You can\u2019t assume how someone feels about you. The only way to know what someone is thinking or how they define your relationship is by asking them. Even if you\u2019ve spent a few months dating someone and think you\u2019ve reached boyfriend\/girlfriend territory, that doesn\u2019t mean they feel the same way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

8. They\u2019re not going to leave their boyfriend\/girlfriend\/husband\/wife for you.
\n<\/strong>They might want to, but most of the time, they\u2019re just not going to do it. Breakups are messy and they\u2019re probably not going to end a relationship (or engagement or marriage) over a crush on someone new.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

9. Ultimatums are a bad idea.
\n<\/strong>The second you force someone to make a big decision\u2014even if it\u2019s one they were ready to make on their own\u2014the situation is tainted. Having an open and honest heart to heart conversation that flows back and forth is always more productive than forcing someone to make a choice or give you an answer by a certain deadline.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

10. When a relationship is right, you\u2019ll just know.
\n<\/strong>I know. I hear how clich\u00e9 it sounds. But when a relationship is right, it just works. You won\u2019t feel insecure or inferior or worry that they\u2019re not \u201cin\u201d it. And when you do feel those things, you can voice them without being scared that you\u2019ll turn them off or send them away.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

11. Sometimes, other people\u2019s dating advice sucks.
\n<\/strong>People love to get involved in other people\u2019s relationships and give unsolicited advice. Remember that you don\u2019t have to listen to any of it if it\u2019s not right for you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A lot of these dating tips might sound obvious. If that\u2019s the case, it just means that you\u2019ve been there and learned that lesson already. The longer you date, the more dating wisdom you\u2019ll have\u2014and the easier it\u2019ll be to learn what works and what doesn\u2019t work.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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