{"id":17611,"date":"2018-10-20T14:00:53","date_gmt":"2018-10-20T21:00:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=17611"},"modified":"2021-05-31T10:50:35","modified_gmt":"2021-05-31T17:50:35","slug":"emotionally-unavailable-man","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/dating-advice\/dating-advice-women\/emotionally-unavailable-man\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Easily Spot an Emotionally Unavailable Man"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Most women know better than to try to connect with an emotionally unavailable man\u2014but we\u2019re not always good at recognizing them.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you\u2019re reading this, then you\u2019ve probably wondered, \u201cWhy do I do all the work in my relationships?\u201d Maybe you\u2019ve read books on the subject or attended a few seminars to improve your love life. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I see you. I empathize with your struggles and respect the work you\u2019ve put in. Today I\u2019m here to help you change the only thing you can: the way you protect your heart and mind. That means recognizing from the start the men who will hurt you.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Three things you should know about emotionally distant men:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><b>1. Good men can be emotionally unavailable&#8230;<br>\n<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I do not want to demonize emotionally unavailable men. They\u2019re not all jerks and they don\u2019t all hate romance. They could very well just not want a relationship. Being simultaneously single and off the market only means that they\u2019re not looking to fall in love right now\u2014that doesn\u2019t make them bad.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><b>2. &#8230;which means they can also have positive traits (and you need to ignore them).<br>\n<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They can be charming and sensitive. They can be great communicators, but if they don\u2019t want to be your boyfriend, that\u2019s that. With the emotionally unavailable sort, you need to ignore the positives and see these men for who they are. If they indicate there\u2019s no long-term romantic future, then take that and leave.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><b>3. Emotionally unavailable men aren\u2019t the only ones at fault.<br>\n<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It\u2019s not hard to spot an emotionally unavailable man. They\u2019re non-committal. They go silent whenever they want. Sure, that behavior is on them, but it\u2019s also your responsibility to read the signs. Furthermore, many men will be honest and explicit about their intentions to date (or not to date) you. They will say that they\u2019re not looking for a relationship. It\u2019s your responsibility to take them at their word. Don\u2019t assume you can change their mind. Respect their choice and move on<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It\u2019s not in your power to make a man emotionally available. He has to want that on his own. Focus on what\u2019s in your control: your tolerance for his lack of commitment.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><b>Start by paying attention to his actions:<br>\n<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&#8211; He doesn\u2019t refer to you as his girlfriend.<br>\n<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&#8211; There\u2019s substantial silence between dates.<br>\n<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&#8211; He says, \u201cI\u2019m not looking for anything serious right now.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If he does any of these, he\u2019s unavailable\u2014no matter how nice, attractive, successful, caring, or funny he is. You\u2019re wasting your time, but you don\u2019t have to.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Keep your heart open, but keep your eyes open too. Look for these signs and cut your losses when you see them. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You deserve to be in a fulfilling partnership where you\u2019re both available for long-term love.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/danielle-dowling.com\/certified-life-coach-los-angeles\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Dr. Danielle Dowling&nbsp;<\/span><\/i><\/a><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">is a Doctor of Psychology,&nbsp;<\/span><\/i><a href=\"https:\/\/danielle-dowling.com\/coaching-programs\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">life coach<\/span><\/i><\/a><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">,&nbsp;and speaker who helps women release limitations and re-introduces them to the dreams they\u2019d forgotten or put on the shelf. If you want clarity on what you truly want, to be able to pinpoint and clear away the obstacles and patterns that are holding you back, and create the magnetic, radiant life you\u2019ve always desired\u2026. you\u2019re in the right place.&nbsp;<\/span><\/i><a href=\"https:\/\/danielle-dowling.com\/schedule-call\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">S<\/span><\/i><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">chedule a complimentary discovery call<\/span><\/i><\/a><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> or learn more about finding your soulmate at <\/span><\/i><a href=\"https:\/\/danielle-dowling.com\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">https:\/\/danielle-dowling.com<\/span><\/i><\/a><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Sure, their behavior is on them, but it\u2019s also your responsibility to read the signs.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":173,"featured_media":17612,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[884,886],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-17611","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dating-advice","category-dating-advice-women"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v26.0 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>How to Easily Spot an Emotionally Unavailable Man<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"I\u2019m here to help you change the only thing you can: the way you protect your heart and mind. 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