Remember the three day rule? After meeting a girl, a guy had to wait three days before he could call her so he didn’t seem too excited but didn’t seem uninterested either. I\u2019m not sure if those days are easier or harder than today. Because now you don\u2019t have to call after meeting someone. In fact, most people don\u2019t. Who uses a phone for calls anymore? No, you’re most likely going to text after a date, and you’ll probably do it right away. But there’s another big thing that has changed over the years.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Who’s going to text who? It used to be expected that it would be the man reaching out but that\u2019s not the world we live in anymore. For one thing, not every couple is a man and woman so, in those cases, who does the reaching out? And if it is a man and woman, the woman has the power to reach out herself. But there\u2019s still something in the back of a lot of women\u2019s heads that says, \u201cIs it okay for me to text him?\u201d There\u2019s still a stigma that says that guys always do the asking on dates or to prom or to marry.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
But let\u2019s start small. The answer to the question, “Should I text him?” is yes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Here are some tips to help you go about it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
When do I text him? <\/strong> If by the end of the day, he hasn\u2019t texted, shoot him a quick text to tell him it was nice meeting him. When it comes to dating, guys are nervous too. And they\u2019re wondering if you\u2019re interested too. Reaching out to him on the same day, after a little time, shows that he was on your mind. Also, if you wait too long to message him, your meeting won\u2019t be fresh in his mind.<\/p>\n\n\n\n How do I communicate my intention?<\/strong> Watch your wording. Convey what you want and don\u2019t be afraid to be a little direct. He wants to know what you’re interested in. And if you want different things, it\u2019s okay to tell him so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Also, since this is texting, think about how texting can be construed. If you\u2019re using emojis, think about how those emojis are usually taken. Some are obvious, like if you\u2019re using an eggplant, he can kind of guess what you want. A heart might be flirting. Winky face might mean you\u2019re flirting, but flirting how? Sexually? Or just being cute? It\u2019s hard to guess.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Texting can often be a minefield. Saying \u201ck\u201d means you\u2019re mad. \u201cK\u201d with a period means you\u2019re really mad. \u201cOkay\u201d means it\u2019s actually okay. \u201cKk\u201d also means it\u2019s actually okay. But if you add a period to either of those it means it might not be okay. It\u2019s a lot to worry about. Which is why I say it\u2019s really important to be as direct as possible with what you say.<\/p>\n\n\n\n How can I make him understand my intent?<\/strong> You can only control how you convey your intent. You can\u2019t control how he takes the meaning. What might also help with this is limiting how long you talk over text. If you want to talk and get to know him better, set up a Facetime date. Or a casual date in person. It\u2019s easier to get to know people better and to convey intent and understand meaning when you can hear and see someone. It\u2019s easier to make a better connection this way as well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Maybe I should just wait for him?<\/strong> So text him. Let him know you’re interested. It’s the best way.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" It’s 2018, and guys want to know that there’s equal attraction between you. So go for it! <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":156,"featured_media":17634,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[884,886,995],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-17633","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dating-advice","category-dating-advice-women","category-texting"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n
\nSay you met a guy a coffee shop in the morning and you exchanged numbers. At the end of the day, he hasn\u2019t texted, but you really liked him. Don\u2019t get in your head and start asking why he hasn\u2019t texted. The answer is probably just that he had a busy day. Don\u2019t overthink it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nYour intention could be a number of things at this point. Maybe you just want to talk and get to know him better. Maybe you want to try going on a date with him. Maybe you just want to hook up. No matter what your intent is, it\u2019s totally okay but it\u2019s important to make sure your intent is getting across.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nShort answer: you can\u2019t. All you can do is try to be as direct as possible. And if you find him saying something that seems like he doesn\u2019t really seem to be getting what your intent is, remind him. You have the power to tell him what you\u2019re feeling and you don\u2019t have to compromise what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nNo! There\u2019s nothing wrong with being the girl reaching out to the guy. In fact, guys appreciate you showing an interest. Guys like being shown that you\u2019re into him the same way you want him to show that he\u2019s into you. The idea of a guy wanting to do some chasing is honestly pretty outdated. Because the only guys who want that are the ones who are pretty immature or stuck in the past. More mature guys who are ready to meet women want to feel that there\u2019s equal attraction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n