The honeymoon period has an undeserved good reputation. It\u2019s that time when you and your partner are coming up with pet names for each other. He becomes your Boo Bear. She becomes your Honey Buns. You\u2019re all over each other 24\/7. You\u2019re finding out little things about each other that makes you love each other even more every day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Alright, I guess it does deserve some of its good reputation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
But here\u2019s are some things you don\u2019t get during the honeymoon period… You don\u2019t get the weird satisfaction of hearing him let a burp out, knowing that he\u2019s that comfortable in front of you. You don\u2019t get to hear about the shitty things going on at work, when she\u2019s vulnerable in front of you. You don\u2019t get to be honest and say that, man, you really hate the way he makes scrambled eggs. And this just scratches the surface of why the honeymoon period has to end eventually.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You need to stop living under the fear of fighting. The first big fight is the first big trial. Not every couple makes it out of the first fight. In fact, the longer you stay in the honeymoon period, the less likely you are to make it past the first fight. You\u2019ve become complacent, comfortable in your floating love nest. You\u2019ve learned to step over egg shells so masterfully that, when you do finally step on tiny one, it sounds like the loudest crack in the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n You need to go deeper and learn the not-so-fun things. You may feel like you know your partner, but you know the fun things. You don\u2019t know the things that they’ve been too afraid to show you. Only after the honeymoon phase can both partners feel that they know the full person they\u2019re with.<\/p>\n\n\n\n You need to know how to deal with the not-so-fun things.<\/strong> Even without the big fight, those glasses eventually fall off. Getting comfortable is a double-edged sword. You know your partner so well that it feels like the surprises are gone. And while that may not be true, it\u2019s hard to shake that feeling when you went from being hot and heavy to an old married couple in just a few, short years. And maybe what was cute before isn\u2019t quite as cute as you thought.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Some people fall into the trap of never growing in relationships and that\u2019s what makes it so hard when the honeymoon period ends. You need to keep growing with your partner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n You need to feel the difference between infatuation and love.<\/strong> It\u2019s the type of love that\u2019s hard to grow when everything\u2019s easy. It takes time and it takes work. It takes understanding how lucky you are. It takes knowing that you can work through fights and they\u2019re nothing to fear.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It may be fun but the honeymoon can\u2019t last forever. And if you try to make it last longer and longer, you\u2019re missing out on some of the greatest parts of the relationship. That’s not going to help you learn how to make the relationship last. And it\u2019s more important to make the relationship last instead of trying to make a honeymoon last.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" It may be fun but the honeymoon can\u2019t last forever.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":156,"featured_media":17647,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[891,893],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-17646","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relationship-advice","category-relationship-stages"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n
\n<\/strong>The honeymoon period is what I like to call the egg shell period. It\u2019s when you\u2019re learning about each other, sure, but it\u2019s also when you\u2019re slowly letting your guard down around each other. Everyone is just a little bit afraid of their first fight.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>It\u2019s not true that we learn more about our partners during fights or dark moments. It\u2019s just that we learn different things. We learn about their temper and how they address problems. We learn if they\u2019re more aggressive, passive, or passive aggressive. We learn about their ability to compromise. We learn about their ability to apologize or to admit when they\u2019re wrong. And, most importantly, we learn how all those traits match up with our own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nDuring the honeymoon phase, we learn about the fun match-ups. They have a weird obsession with 80s horror movies too! You get to bond over that and set up dates around it. It\u2019s all kind of easy. During the honeymoon, you\u2019re so enamored, it\u2019s easy to look past any small faults and incompatibilities. You\u2019re looking at them their rose-colored, heart-shaped glasses.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nInfatuation is strong throughout the honeymoon phase, which can be a few months up to a few years. But after the infatuation ends, you really have to work for the relationship. Date ideas are harder. You have to go out of your way to make your loved one feel special. And it\u2019s that extra work that makes the love during this time so much stronger.<\/p>\n\n\n\n