Rebound relationships are often the knee-jerk salve to our breakup woes. While they can be beneficial under the right circumstances, blossoming into relationships or friendships, they also run the risk of being toxic. But how do you know the difference between a healthy rebound relationship and an unhealthy one? And how do you know if you’re just someone’s rebound or if they’re interested in something real?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Here are some tell-tale signs that your rebound relationship isn’t what you want it to be:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The relationship is moving at lightning speed. It\u2019s all about Netflix and chill. They have intense feelings about their ex. It\u2019s all fun and games. They show you off. You really have nothing in common. Unhealthy rebound relationships occur when someone hasn\u2019t taken the time to fully heal from the wounds of their past relationship, and instead tries to forget or numb their pain by substituting their ex with a new partner. The only way a rebound relationship can possibly work is if both partners are on the same page. Few things are worse than someone believing they\u2019re in a full-blown relationship when, in fact, they\u2019re a rebound\u2014and one without a real future. If you suspect you\u2019re in unhealthy rebound relationship, it\u2019s best to cut your losses and focus your time and energy on someone who wants to fully invest themselves with you.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" How do you know if you’re just someone’s rebound or if they’re interested in something real?\u00a0<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":61,"featured_media":17688,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[891,898],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-17687","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relationship-advice","category-relationship-problems"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n
\n<\/strong>In order to build trust and intimacy, a healthy relationship is like a slow burn. You take time getting to know each other, establish healthy boundaries, and are able to evolve together in a natural, positive way. However, an unhealthy rebound relationship usually moves super fast. You\u2019re sleeping together, meeting each other\u2019s parents, attending weddings, maybe even living together, and ultimately creating a false sense of closeness, all within a matter of months. There\u2019s an intense rush to be a committed couple without even really knowing if you\u2019re compatible at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>People on the rebound like to use sex as a means of distraction that allows them to feel a sense of intimacy with someone without having to fully express or feel deep emotions. If you’re in an unhealthy rebound relationship not only do you sleep together a lot, but there\u2019s also a casualness to your relationship that hasn\u2019t actually been earned. Meaning instead of wining and dining you, and getting to know your interests, they\u2019d prefer to hang out in sweats, chill at home and watch Netflix. Basically, they don\u2019t want to invest in romancing you, and are simply filling a void in their relationship routine that their ex has vacated.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>How someone refers and talks about their ex can tell you where they\u2019re at mentally and emotionally. Beware if your new partner acts like their ex doesn\u2019t exist and refuses to talk about them, or acts like their breakup wasn\u2019t a big deal. On the flip side, be cautious if they turn intensely angry, distracted, or hugely indifferent whenever their ex is mentioned too. These are all signs that their wounds are still fresh, and they haven\u2019t processed the breakup yet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>Sure, relationships are supposed to be fun and playful; however, if your relationship solely consists of keeping things light-hearted, and if your partner refuses to delve deeper into more emotional and serious topics with you, then that\u2019s a pretty good indicator that they\u2019re keeping you at arm\u2019s length. And someone who\u2019s keeping you at arm\u2019s length doesn\u2019t want a serious commitment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>If there\u2019s a party to go to, a wedding to attend, or any other event where they can proudly show you off like arm candy, then they\u2019ll do it. It\u2019s one thing to be proud of and happy to be with a new partner; it\u2019s something else when someone uses you as proof that they\u2019re attractive and still \u201cgot it.\u201d Also if they\u2019re instantly sharing a ton of Facebook and Instagram photos of the two of you that could also be a sign that they\u2019re trying to prove to their friends and ex\u2014and mostly to themselves\u2014that they\u2019re over their previous relationship. A solid relationship has nothing to prove, and isn\u2019t a highlight reel.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>While you might share inside jokes together and get along on a surface level, when it really comes down to it, you have nothing in common. You might feign interest in each other\u2019s hobbies at first, but, ultimately, it doesn\u2019t stack up. In fact, you probably don\u2019t even have the same values or plans for the future (if you even managed to have such a serious conversation in the first place). Having sex, going out for a bite to eat, and watching TV aren\u2019t enough for a relationship to go the distance\u2014no matter how good it might feel in the moment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n