{"id":17689,"date":"2022-09-06T02:44:44","date_gmt":"2022-09-06T09:44:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=17689"},"modified":"2023-03-14T06:28:56","modified_gmt":"2023-03-14T13:28:56","slug":"first-date-sex","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/dating-advice\/first-date-tips\/first-date-sex\/","title":{"rendered":"First Date Sex: Everything You Need To Know About The Age-Old Phenomenon"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

First date sex has long been a hot topic. It\u2019s viewed differently around the world, as well as by different age groups, religions, subcultures \u2013 you name it. It makes sense then that society finds it hard to draw a line under sexual matters. But, for the sake of this article, we\u2019ll take this viewpoint: If you want to have sex on the first date, do it, and don\u2019t feel bad about it! Just make sure you do it the right way: safely, responsibly, and enjoyably<\/a>!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Below, we\u2019ve taken a look at a couple of commonly asked questions surrounding first date sex. We\u2019ve also put together some of our top tips on how to do so in a sensible \u2014 but still enjoyable \u2014 way!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How Likely Is Sex on the First Date?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

This one depends entirely on the two of you. Everybody is different. Some people have strong personal boundaries when it comes to sex, while others are more open to going wherever the night leads. Just because someone has had a promiscuous past, that doesn\u2019t mean they\u2019ll be looking for a hook-up on the first date.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is never to assume. If there\u2019s a strong connection and both of you are comfortable, sex might<\/em> happen after the first date \u2013 but the reality is that nobody should expect it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Is It Wrong to Have Sex on the First Date?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

If you meet somebody on a first date and find you share a strong connection, you may well feel excited by the idea of sleeping with them \u2013 particularly if that first date kiss<\/a> gets you both in the mood. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s common to feel a little<\/em> conflicted, though. There\u2019s personal safety to consider, plus the possible implications of sleeping with someone on the first date. Will it be a one-night stand that spirals into a just-sex relationship<\/a>? Or will it lead to something more meaningful? As long as you\u2019re both open about your intentions and you communicate clearly, everything should go smoothly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So, is it bad to have sex on the first date? Not at all, if you do it safely, sensibly, and with a clear head.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Advice for First Date Sex: 6 Top Tips to Keep In Mind<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

When it comes to tips for sex on the first date, there are a few important points to keep in mind. Yes, first date sex can be great but it\u2019s still important to make sure that you\u2019re doing it for the right reasons with safe boundaries in place.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Avoid drinking too much beforehand<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Getting over first date nerves<\/a> isn\u2019t always easy. If both parties are feeling pretty nervous, it can lead a first date to become pretty drink-heavy. However, if you or your date is too drunk, it\u2019s best to avoid having sex. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Waking up in the morning with hungover regrets or feelings that you did something you wouldn\u2019t have done if you were sober, isn\u2019t a positive feeling. And besides, if you like the person, having sex with them sober will be a far more intimate and special experience.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Consider the location<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Will you go back to your place or theirs? Do you live alone? Do they? If you\u2019re going to go back with somebody after a first date, make sure to tell your friends where you\u2019re going. Everything will most likely be fine, of course, but it never hurts to be careful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Set boundaries<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Setting boundaries when dating<\/a> will show others how you want, and expect, to be treated. When it comes to sex on the first date, it\u2019s especially important to have these in mind.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t be afraid to be vocal about what you like, what you don\u2019t like, and anything you don\u2019t want to do. Everybody is different, and something they consider normal might be totally out of the question for you, or vice versa. It\u2019s important to communicate during first date sex, as you haven\u2019t had much time to get to know one another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Have realistic expectations<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Yes, in romance novels<\/a> and movies, the first sexual encounter between two people who only recently met is often gratifying and steamy. And, sometimes, having sex on the first date IRL can be this way too. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

More commonly though, first date sex is a little clumsy and awkward. After all, you don\u2019t know much about the person and you\u2019re both trying to figure out one another\u2019s bodies and preferences. If you assume that there might be a few hiccups along the way, you\u2019re more likely to have a great sexual experience<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Keep an open mind<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

First date sex can open the doors to a longer relationship, or it can close them. If the chemistry in the bedroom is fantastic, you can bet there\u2019ll be more sex to come further down the line. On the other hand, if the whole thing was a dud, you may well (mutually or otherwise) decide to leave it there.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This can be an awkward scenario. But, aside from laying out your relationship hopes beforehand (which can be a little intense for a first date), there\u2019s not much you can do. Sometimes sex leads to something more, sometimes it doesn\u2019t. At the very least, you can go into the next first date sex encounter with this notion firmly lodged in your mind.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. Don\u2019t forget the protection<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Yes, it may sound obvious to some but we thought it was still worth mentioning anyway. Protection is incredibly important, especially if you\u2019re sleeping with someone on the first date. Sexually transmitted infections are fairly common, and using protection can help to safeguard both you and your date. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If your date doesn\u2019t want to use a condom, it\u2019s important to keep your resolve: Without a condom, sex ain\u2019t happening.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First Date Sex Can Be Amazing if You Go About It the Right Way<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Sex is great! We can probably all agree on that. Not only is it good for your health<\/a>, but it\u2019s also one of the most intimate things you can do with another person. But, as always, there are a few important aspects that help to make the experience special. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Always ensure that you\u2019re being honest, communicating, and remaining respectful. There\u2019s nothing wrong with first date sex, but bearing the above advice in mind will help to ensure you\u2019re enjoying the experience in the best way possible. Good luck!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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